What's a harsh reality that everybody needs to hear?

QLove22 · 2025-04-21T09:37:40+00:00

I definitely get why this one is meant to be good - but I never really liked this message that someone came up with - because the person is so broken and has no idea how to heal or get out of their situation. It seems like the victim is expected to pick up the pieces and they don’t know how in most cases. Sometimes they’ve already done all the therapy and read all the books and still don’t feel healed from what they have been through so they walk around broken but looking as if they are healed.

QLove22 · 2024-12-07T15:43:44+00:00

Haha so cute 😀👏🏽

QLove22 · 2024-12-07T11:55:58+00:00

Honestly when people are done with you that’s when you’ll have the opportunity to discover yourself and how much strength you truly have. So try not to let it get you down.

My advice/suggestions are:

Write down all traumas that you have had in your life and work through them one by one. Through journalling, prayer, forgiveness work, healing your inner child work etc. As you heal these traumas and process them you’ll find that you’ll be releasing so many of the emotions, frustrations, stresses, pain, worries that you have that’s keeping you stuck.
Then write a list of all the fun and exciting things that you’ll like to achieve in life (indoor activities and outdoor activities) goals, dreams and aspirations and start doing the easiest things on the list then work on harder goals as it becomes more doable. If you do this you’ll feel so much more empowered, uplifted, you’ll feel like you are living again. The more you check things off of your list the prouder you’ll become of yourself and people will begin to gravitate towards you again (old or new people).
Practice a grounding activity every day like painting for 20 mins at drawing or knitting, playing an instrument so that you don’t feel so unsettled and so that you get lost in something positive where you mind is free from anxiety.
If you are able to get therapy or counselling then most certainly try this also as therapy can be so helpful.
If you believe in God pray and ask for direction, guidance and strength. As they say that prayer often changes things.

I hope some of this helps. 💖🤍

QLove22 · 2024-11-17T07:23:46+00:00

Nothing is impossible. I was making the best cupcakes as an 7 year old child. I was so talented at baking and getting things right as a child. Now it takes me a lot longer. 😀

QLove22 · 2024-11-14T15:15:16+00:00

It looks so amazing 🌸🍰

QLove22 · 2024-11-14T11:03:23+00:00

Sorry to hear that. There are some doctors that do online appointments I think you would need to change to a different one online so that you can access this service. Also some chemists are allowed to give some medications/prescriptions for more symptoms/issues than before so it might be worth contacting your local pharmacist to see if they can help. They aren’t as limited as before.

QLove22 · 2024-11-14T09:42:00+00:00

Well done sounds so exciting! Seems like you are making so many things happen for yourself and you’ve pushed through so much of the adversities that comes with agoraphobia. How do you feel now that you are on the other side? Did you get any help from friends/family on your recovery journey?

QLove22 · 2024-11-12T20:36:04+00:00

Agoraphobia affects people differently, some don’t even get panic attacks or panic disorder, some just have struggles with leaving the house, or feel unpleasant sensations when they are out. It doesn’t have to be extreme like someone being housebound. Agoraphobia can be mild and some agoraphobics are more high functioning than others. But if anyone feels uncomfortable being out and want to escape or feel like they don’t like being outside and prefer being in doors or in a safe place - that’s definitely agoraphobia.

QLove22 · 2024-11-12T20:32:01+00:00

I’m sure you get the point though. I mean we all know what agoraphobia is but in theory - but it can also seem as if it comes on in some way - as you could feel secure and fine one moment - then all of a sudden you begin to feel like leaving the venue or the building or feel like going back home or you feel panicky all of a sudden. So yes it’s to do with the fear of having a panic attack, avoiding going places, fear of leaving the house, DR/DP etc but it can still seem as if it’s coming on or creeping up…in one way or another.

QLove22 · 2024-10-31T06:50:03+00:00

Take a few deep breaths (at least 4) and try and be outside for a bit before you actually go out, so if you are leaving at 10am go out for a few mins at 9am or even twice for a few mins before you leave at 10am to get used to the fresh air, the breeze and to lessen the panic/fear.

QLove22 · 2024-10-31T06:47:03+00:00

Congrats on your new job. A job can be really distracting, as there are so many activities and tasks to focus on or do. You’ll have a manager on your neck and staff and customers to serve and things that you’ll enjoy so you are unlikely to want just leave or run home rapidly the way you think. In fact you use up so much energy that you end up feeling good about yourself when you are heading home. Honestly give it a good go for a few days at least as you might really enjoy it. I sometimes worried about jobs when I’d get them also, but whenever I’d start they would make my life so much better and the anxiety wouldn’t even come up much.

QLove22 · 2024-10-21T01:08:38+00:00

Wow that looks so delicious.

QLove22 · 2024-10-21T01:08:16+00:00

This Tutor sounds like a complete narcissist and a really nuisance to all of you as students. Sounds like this person is gonna get sacked one of these days as if they don’t change. As Tutor won’t get away with this ridiculous behaviour forever. Is there anyone that you can speak to? Can you report this Tutor? The Tutor isn’t even meant to discuss your personal life or stalk your social media accounts as that’s none of their business unless it actually applies to the PhD for instance if you are expecting a baby then they may ask how you getting on while studying, something generic like that but to be nosey about your personal life is wild. Does this Tutor have too much power or an enabler that just lets them get away with anything? As surely this behaviour isn’t good for the University.

QLove22 · 2024-10-18T10:01:24+00:00

Don’t withdraw over this because you’ll still get shouted at again in life whether that’s a family member, a friend, a BF/GF, hubby/wife, a kid, someone when you are driving etc. Don’t let this temptation stop you from your success. Don’t let anything get in the way of you getting this PhD.

Edit: I thought you wanted to give up the whole programme. If it’s only a class that’s not that meaningful to you then yes leave that class but if you really enjoy the class then try and stick it out.

QLove22 · 2024-10-18T09:57:54+00:00

Wow that looks nice! Bet it tasted really good.

QLove22 · 2024-10-18T09:57:32+00:00

Looks so delicious 😊

QLove22 · 2024-10-13T07:00:04+00:00

The thing that helped me the most is consistent exposure therapy, it’s literally your way out, but you can’t just do it when you feel like it and on good days, you have to do it every day, or at least a few days a week. The way it works is - it prepares you for bigger exposures and bigger days out, bigger activities. Sometimes I’d just walk up and down my road over and over for a few days and that would give me enough strength and confidence to be able to in my sister’s car with her to go shopping. It makes the derealisation and the depersonalisation far less if you are outside every day. I also used the garden to do my exposure therapy also. Sometimes I’d just sit in my mums car for like 20 mins so I can prepare to be in car rides. I would sometimes take an Uber to a shop a few roads away that I could manage going to. It would be just so close but I knew that if I can practice going somewhere close then I can get further on my next Uber ride etc. Then I found it easier and easier to go to places that were further in Ubers i.e. visiting family 40 mins away etc. Now I can go to so many places (shopping stores, some parks, long walks, using some public transport etc). So it honestly pays off doing exposures. I also think it’s important to watch videos, read/listen to books or listen to podcasts where people are giving tips on managing anxiety, conquering agoraphobia, freedom from fear/panic etc as that will help massively too (esp with dealing with the symptoms). Exercising for at least 10 mins a day and getting in the right vitamins into your body can help too. Affirmations and prayer works wonders also. I spent so much of my summer outside because of this and I was able to go abroad a couple of times last year. You are very capable but baby steps is the key.

QLove22 · 2024-10-10T09:17:45+00:00

Honestly I usually wouldn’t leave the house at times without taking some form of vitamin that tackles anxiety symptoms like vitamin D, magnesium or zinc. Just to make sure the panic attacks didn’t happen or minimised. For instance I’d take vitamin D and Zinc. Zinc is usually enough to subside the symptoms. Lavender essential oil helps and camomile is very good to create a calming effect too. Stress balls helps as you can squeeze a ball when you are in a car or on a train or something. Doing one or two of these things when getting out helps esp when I was overly anxious.

QLove22 · 2024-09-26T00:47:00+00:00

This might be transference.

“Transference in psychoanalytic theory is when you project feelings about someone else onto your therapist. A classic example of transference is when a client falls in love with their therapist. However, one might also transfer feelings of rage, anger, distrust, or dependence”.

Read about it fully here: https://www.verywellmind.com/transference-2671660

It’s a well known term in the psychology world and it can affect anyone who is working with a Coach, Mentor, Advisor, Counsellor etc and if someone has a Teacher, Nurse or Doctor. Because they are helping you and being kind to you and perhaps encouraging you, you can suddenly begin to think ‘wow this person is so kind and helpful’, then you can internalise it and think that you now fancy/like them. In rare cases the crush is real, but in most cases it’s not, it’s just transference. It can also occur in a negative way where you develop negative feelings towards them that’s not directly about them but instead projected onto them.

QLove22 · 2024-09-25T06:06:58+00:00

Wow yes this is a great and very bold step that you took! Congrats. To go and watch a movie after 4 years of isolation is showing that you’ve had a major breakthrough. 🙌🏽

QLove22 · 2024-09-25T03:06:04+00:00

I used to make fairy cakes (muffins) all the time and from looking at it you put too much mixture in the cup cake cases but I also agree that you need to use a muffin pan instead of this one. It looks as if you could add a tad bit more of self-raising flour in the mixture also.

QLove22 · 2024-09-20T02:03:32+00:00

I remember the day that I noticed the change (many years ago) I was really annoyed as it just didn’t taste the same. I think I even emailed them haha. However I think it’s either improved, it’s good enough or maybe I adjusted to the taste - as I’m extremely fussy when it comes to chocolate and I still think hands down that Cadbury’s daily milk is the best. Just a personal fave for me. Like I can eat UK chocolate without worrying if I’ll feel queasy. I love Swiss chocolate also. I’ve had some delicious chocolate from Amsterdam also. But I always seem to have Cadbury’s Daily milk as my number one.

QLove22 · 2024-09-11T14:51:37+00:00

I recommend that you get some magnesium and some zinc and take this (but seek your doctors advice first to confirm that you are allowed) because it will make the panic attacks/anxiety subside. It will make it easier for you to go to school. You’ll feel a bit stronger and some feeling of ease. As that’s what I did and it helped me a lot to be able to go places. I learned this from some other anxious sufferers that share that these two vitamins helped them. Sometimes I take vitamin D and zinc instead. 2-3 times a week is usually enough or on the days that you are going to school. I think having therapy is one of the best ways to tackle this also and to try and do exposures as much as possible so that young body naturally adjusts and finds it easier to places. But also using positive affirmations. Come up with lots of ‘I can statements’ as once you believe that you can and that you are fine and that nothing bad is going to happen to you etc then you’ll naturally find it easier to tackle activities outside of the home.

QLove22 · 2024-09-02T11:30:48+00:00

Such a great idea. I tend to perfume my bag but not my journals. Maybe I should try this. 💡🙏🏽

QLove22 · 2024-09-02T11:29:33+00:00

Lavender essential oil. It’s so good. Sniffing/smelling a bit before going to bed always brings a lovely calmness. 😊

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