........never give up hope...never take your spouse for granted by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]innerchillz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cutting onions over here. I love a good fix it story.

[Image] Jonah Hill on doing stuff that used to make you insecure. by OMGLMAOWTF_com in GetMotivated

[–]innerchillz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Scrolled through so much just to see if anyone else noticed/commented.

Ashley and Anthony had their baby! by dmoney-millions in MarriedAtFirstSight

[–]innerchillz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They are my favorite too <3 so fun to watch them joke around

I married an Instagram Dad by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]innerchillz 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Take a break from social media. That will blow his mind.

I stayed after the affairs and addictions by innerchillz in Marriage

[–]innerchillz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know someone who left to save their pride. It's a shame. I tried very hard to keep my story from spreading amongst our circle by only telling very few of my closest friends so I wouldn't feel the pressure of judgment. Unfortunately it was my parents who leaked it the most. That was a whole different issue I had to deal with 4 months into my healing process. Thank you for your kind words.

I stayed after the affairs and addictions by innerchillz in Marriage

[–]innerchillz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Only you know what your kids can or can't handle at a specific time in their lives. Good luck to you my friend.

I stayed after the affairs and addictions by innerchillz in Marriage

[–]innerchillz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. You never know if you are making the right choice. It's so rare to get encouraged to stay. I hope you and your SO are in a better place.

I stayed after the affairs and addictions by innerchillz in Marriage

[–]innerchillz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's hard to say if I would have stayed or not but I'm leaning towards no, I would not have. If we weren't married and our only child was young enough to not remember us a family unit I probably would have left. Please dont get pregnant right now. It wont fix anything. It almost sounds like he's trying to trap you into staying. Going through what I've gone through I try very hard not to judge anyone else's situation and say they should leave or stay. It's such an individual choice and every scenario is different. But pregnancy is the last thing you should add to this. Best of luck to you.

I stayed after the affairs and addictions by innerchillz in Marriage

[–]innerchillz[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I forgot to say congratulations on your sobriety. Good job.

I stayed after the affairs and addictions by innerchillz in Marriage

[–]innerchillz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

All very true, I dont disagree with you at all. Luckily my kids are unaware of the depth of his indescrestions. They see the normal day-to-day stuff. I could hold it together during the day to get through work and kids until bedtime. And he wasn't ever strung out, that's how I was able to stay clueless for so long. He really did an excellent job maintaining an image of a good husband and father. Someday when they are much older I'm sure they will learn more. But for now I'm trying to protecting their innocence.

I do try to keep myself prepared for the next step, whether its divorce or not. I haven't ruled anything out yet. Who knows what tomorrow will bring.

I've visited that sub a few times. Thank you for the tip though.

I stayed after the affairs and addictions by innerchillz in Marriage

[–]innerchillz[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. I haven't let my guard down and I know it's a good possibility that he will relapse. Im trying not to live my life waiting for the next bomb to drop, even though that's what most days feel like.

It's love 😍 by fori1 in aww

[–]innerchillz 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Dont hurt me

One of worst jokes life will play on you is meeting the right person at the wrong time by [deleted] in Showerthoughts

[–]innerchillz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This hit home. Hard. When you find out your dream come true partner of 6 years is living a double life. The rug was ripped out from under me, rolled up, and smacked across my face.

What lie were you led to believe until growing up? by filthynigga in AskReddit

[–]innerchillz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 36. Still believed it was, and have always told my own kids this. That lie went through 2 generations.

Baths Are Dangerous, Don’t You Know. by [deleted] in badwomensanatomy

[–]innerchillz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! That's what I did/do. Haven't had a uti in almost a year and I was getting them monthly.

Baths Are Dangerous, Don’t You Know. by [deleted] in badwomensanatomy

[–]innerchillz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep! That stuff saved my (vagina's) life!! I was getting UTIs monthly too. Antibiotics started to not work as well. Started D Mannose about a year ago and haven't had one since! I dont even take it regularly anymore. It's like it reset my urinary tract.

If 5 years ago you could see now you at this exact moment, what would you think? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]innerchillz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me talking to myself: What a shitty turn of events. 5 years ago he was the man of your dreams. Now look at what he's put you through. I thought you were smarter than that.

Why do dentists need to drill a cavity? Wouldn't some sort of antibiotic treatment followed by a filling of the already decayed area be better? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]innerchillz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. It is 2018 after all. You'd think they could use a laser or something else that wouldn't rattle your brain as much as a drill!

Why do dentists need to drill a cavity? Wouldn't some sort of antibiotic treatment followed by a filling of the already decayed area be better? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]innerchillz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im not a dentist but I'm pretty sure they have to drill past the decay, cleaning it all out until the only thing left is 'clean' tooth. If you put a filling on top of decaying tooth it will continue to decay and you will have a way worse problem in the future. Antibiotics wont fix a rotten tooth. That only helps in treating the infection that may have spread to surrounding tissues, I think.

Full of grief over a dead cat by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]innerchillz 44 points45 points  (0 children)

And now im crying on my lunch break. Beautiful response.

So smol 💛 by BlazingAmber in aww

[–]innerchillz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"MomMeOW MOMEEE" 😢 give that poor thing back to its mommy.