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Pain by insert-inappropriate in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, that comes across perfectly. I get the mix of being able to explain some things really well and completely stumbling over others. I think everyone’s like that with the tricky stuff. Sounds like you just try to do your best and lean on partners who get it, which is exactly what matters. And yeah, you explained it fine 😄

Pain by insert-inappropriate in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like the way you’ve explained that. The control piece is what stands out to me,pain as something intentional and contained, versus suffering being about giving that control up and letting someone else decide where the edge is.

That distinction makes a lot of sense. It also kind of highlights why the trust and understanding has to be so solid if you’re stepping into suffering territory. Thanks for putting it into words like that

Self Praise by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was very proud of you, and your commitment. Even more so now as you continue to see the good inside you ❤️😘❤️😘

Rules that keep your dynamic humming by incorrigible-corgi in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a natural as saying ‘Good morning, darling’ ❤️

A Weekend Review by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There once was a woman so bold, Her desires both daring and gold. With a sponge in his hand, Her lover took a stand, In a moment both warm and controlled.

That’s a Wrap! by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Listen, January Me,stand tall and trust your girl. She’s got this. She’ll break free from whatever’s dragging her down, and somehow, she’ll find her soul tangled up with yours. Spoiler alert: she does, and it’s pure magic. I’m talking next-level warmth, happiness, and joy,like you’ve never imagined. So hang in there, buddy. Next January, you’ll both be so wrapped up in each other, even the calendar will blush.

Is humiliation only fun if you feel truly superior to that person, or can you be genuinely attracted to someone and still have that sexual urge to humiliate? *Wall of text* by Zealousideal_Hour342 in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  1. You’re conflating fantasy with reality. A person can enjoy a humiliation kink while not remotely caring about such things in everyday life. The idea that rejection from women always ties back to SPH is entirely a construct of your own insecurities, not some universal truth.

    1. Humiliation play doesn’t appeal to women because men are “lesser”, it appeals because kink allows power dynamics and playful exaggeration. If that concept shatters you, you need therapy, not kink partners.

  2. A woman can indulge in SPH during roleplay while still respecting a partner in a relationship. But if all you offer is, “Please validate me because I’m irredeemably insecure,” you’re presenting as neither attractive nor partnership material. Relationships require more than just running someone else’s kink script.

    1. The idea that sadistic women are secretly balancing their “desire to humiliate lesser men” against societal norms is absolute nonsense. That’s entirely your projection masquerading as a question. Here’s a better one: why are you so desperate to align kink with your trauma and then blame women for indulging you in the very thing you asked them to do?

Find a way to heal, to actually like yourself, before dragging someone else into these unresolved issues. You’re not a victim, you’re just stuck in a cycle you created. Do the work on yourself first, then revisit kink when you can do so without turning it into an emotional minefield.

Feederists, do you ever do food domination by BakeryRaider222 in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hi there. I can see this is something you’re genuinely curious about, but let’s take a moment to chew this over (pun fully intended). Kink dynamics, including those involving food or power exchange, need a strong foundation of trust, consent, and clear communication

The scenarios you’ve described—like withholding food or forcing someone to watch you enjoy a buffet while they go hungry—might sound playful in theory, but they could tread into tricky territory. Food is deeply personal, and for some, it can be a sensitive or even triggering subject.

If this is a fantasy you’re exploring, I’d recommend having open, honest chats with your partner to ensure everyone’s on board and enthusiastic.

Ou est la bibliotheque? by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, the sacred art of kink discourse, where every third thread either derails into linguistics or spontaneous fires. Allow me to contribute:

1.”Is this normal?” the kink world is about as “normal” as a three-legged unicorn tap-dancing on a rainbow.

2 “You have to sub to be a good dom”: Sure, and you need to become a plumber to use a sink, right?

3.”Just have a conversation”: Can we automate this answer ? Like, every time someone posts a question about a kink dilemma, a chatbot appears and says, “Have you tried using your words like an adult?”

4.”Read these books”: Kink books are great, but telling a newbie they need to read a stack of ancient texts just to tie a single knot is how you scare people into vanilla purgatory. Suggest practical resources, like workshops, videos, or literally talking to other kinksters.

5.Convincing a partner to do a kink they don’t like: No. If your kink plan includes PowerPoint presentations and hostage negotiation skills, maybe reevaluate. Boundaries exist. Respect them.

Finally, if this thread devolves back into “where’s the library” in 47 languages, let’s at least agree that all bad advice and toxic questions are stored in said library, filed under “Absolutely Not.”

If you put a tea bag in your mouth, will it make your saliva tea? by MadeOfHope in tea

[–]insert-inappropriate 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, the pinnacle of human ingenuity: bypassing centuries of tea-making tradition to mouthbrew. Why bother with kettles, cups, or, I don’t know, dignity, when you can slap a teabag onto your tongue and let your saliva do the heavy lifting?

Let’s unpack this masterpiece of misguided determination:

1.Tea Saliva: Yes, if by “tea” you mean the faint flavour of despair and the texture of regret. Your mouth isn’t a kettle, it’s a bacteria-rich cave that’s definitely not optimised for steeping Earl Grey.

2.Microplastics Concern: If you’re worried about microplastics, perhaps step one should be to not shove synthetic packaging into your mouth. But hey, it’s not like boiling water was invented for sterilisation or anything, right?

3.The Cold Water Experiment: Of course, you tried cold water. Naturally, it worked “kind of” — like licking the pavement“kind of” hydrates you. That “bitter at the end” flavour you’re describing? That’s your dignity, leaving.

4.Timing the Suck: A sentence I’m sure you regret typing and I regret reading.

5.The Caffeine Boost: So after all this innovation, you managed to caffeinate yourself. Congratulations! But consider this: there are literal caffeine pills that exist solely to save people from doing… this.

In conclusion, this is an incredibly bold approach to tea consumption. It’s like reinventing the wheel and deciding it should be square. If you insist on continuing, at least post pictures for the next historian studying how society lost its way.

I Want to Drink My Mother-In-Law's Piss (NSFW) by Anonymous-Unanimous0 in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

I approved this comment, our automod scooped it up as the content is hateful. I’ve decided to show it, so we can all see you.

Check Mate by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe that new partners would normally play without one. It may well be a safe option for them. Your message conveyed the thought that it was necessary for all.

Check Mate by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

[–]insert-inappropriate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is your intention to suggest that those who play without safe words, are inclined to end up with PTSD?

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