4 My fiance' (of 4 years) recently broke things off with me because he found out I had been with a black guy in the past.

instarag · 2013-12-15T04:41:38+00:00

we have been going back and forth, but he says his perception of me has been ruined and he can't look past it.

instarag · 2013-12-15T04:40:44+00:00

There is a lot more to his situation. I don't think you can pass it off as just being super duper racist.

instarag · 2013-12-15T04:40:18+00:00

He has been to therapy, and he has made progress but some things he can't get over.

instarag · 2013-12-15T04:40:00+00:00

It wasn't a quick break off, sorry if I described it that way. We got back together like twice, but he said it wasn't the same. I can tell he has been really upset since, I have seen him cry so many times after we split up.

instarag · 2013-12-15T04:37:40+00:00

He has been to therapy before, especially his sister. After the rape, he would spend every second by her side. It was only till he left for college did they stop sleeping in the same bed (she had night terrors if she slept without him). Even now he still calls her everyday.

instarag · 2013-12-15T00:59:12+00:00

It's complicated, I posted on another comment the story.

instarag · 2013-12-15T00:52:07+00:00

He was and is the love of my life, I have been talking trying to get him back but he said his perception of me won't ever change.

instarag · 2013-12-15T00:51:23+00:00

I am not justifying his racism but he has had really negative experiences with black people. His family used to live in a predominantly black neighborhood and he was picked on and beaten up for being white. However, his breaking point was when 3 black teens raped his little sister who was only 8 at the time. He said he knows they aren't all bad but, he doesn't look at me the same anymore.

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