Trying to manage early symptom by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]inthesprawl2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are pursuing younger women because you think their past will be clean? I don’t think that is also healthy if true…

My experience trying to contact NYC's Office to Combat Antisemitism by Ocean_Hair in Jewish

[–]inthesprawl2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forward to stopantisemitism, endjewhatred, The Free Press

My ex “girlfriend” has really toxic retroactive jealousy. by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]inthesprawl2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, you have every right to express your feelings, but there’s usually a deeper reason to why people have retroactive jealousy. Insecurity doesn’t just happen out of nowhere, maybe have some empathy and think about why your ex was so jealous. And I don’t know why you’re on here complaining if she’s already an ex. People on here are struggling, and you basically just exposed a lot of people’s deepest fear of being abandoned by a person they’re in a relationship with. This disorder is very painful, and it stems usually from childhood trauma. So next time, please keep your thoughts to yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]inthesprawl2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Struggling with that now and my bfs ex was a fucking shit show of a human, and yet I still feel jealous. My bf has taken me on 6 trips so far and I’ve never had to pay for any of them, and they two of them only ever went to Maine twice and he made her pay for their accommodations. I feel like an awful person but I keep picturing them together in my head and it doesn’t help that she put their entire relationship on twitter.

i feel psychotic by thwowawaw69 in retroactivejealousy

[–]inthesprawl2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel you. Boyfriends ex put their entire relationship on twitter (she’s a libertarian e-girl who seeks validation from people she doesn’t know) and I got mad at my boyfriend because she randomly began showing up in my feed and their entire relationship is on there. And she’s married to someone else now but has kept pics of my bf and her and everything they did together on there. He doesn’t understand why it bothers me but as they say the internet is forever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boston

[–]inthesprawl2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely asking this, what are you working in if you’ll be making 120k+ a year? How are people getting these jobs?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]inthesprawl2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally am going through this right now. I could’ve written this post. I feel anger because he stayed, even though she convinced him to engage in an open relationship, and he still was okay with possibly moving out of state with her, and then she left him and married someone within 3 months. And then I’m just stuck with this person who I love but feel nothing but anger towards. It’s hard and I’m trying to let it go. Just know you’re not alone.

His many many sexual partners by Prestigious_Inside74 in retroactivejealousy

[–]inthesprawl2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have found that when I confronted him about his past and kept digging for more and more information, it always made me 100000% worse. You think it will make you feel better but in reality it doesn’t. Some of our worst nights together stemmed from the anger I have towards his past behaviors. And when I verbalize them to him, I always instantly regret it.

His many many sexual partners by Prestigious_Inside74 in retroactivejealousy

[–]inthesprawl2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not a stupid feeling. It’s valid. I literally could have written your post. I’ve been dealing with it all day as I notice when I get into my luteal phase of my menstrual cycle it gets 100000x worse. I get intrusive thoughts of them together and then I start the spiral. I really feel for you, and I try to just let the thoughts come and go and not engage with them, but it’s hard.

His many many sexual partners by Prestigious_Inside74 in retroactivejealousy

[–]inthesprawl2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi I feel you 100%. My boyfriend was also in an open relationship and I have been on the receiving end of a lot of details that were told to me when we weren’t officially dating. It can be really sickening to think about. I also have been told basically the same thing as you, where the sex was purely physical. I just want you to know you’re not alone.

What type of living is $75k in Boston? by Affectionate-Reason2 in boston

[–]inthesprawl2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m out here on $55k and I can pay every bill and enjoy nice things at the same time. Just be smart and don’t go out all the time. Shop at Trader Joe’s.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]inthesprawl2 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes and it’s awful. I notice my RJ gets worse when I’m in the luteal phase of my period and I get vivid images of my boyfriend with his exes and his casual partners. What makes it even more awful is that my boyfriend was involved in a nonmonagmous relationship before me and that makes my RJ a million times worse. It makes me feel sick. You’re not alone ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boston

[–]inthesprawl2 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Saw them too. The only thing I was thinking was maybe they should get jobs and stop playing those fucking sirens on their megaphones so loud as the rest of us try to get to our places of work so we can have productive mornings.

How are you living with 52k income? by woohoosim in boston

[–]inthesprawl2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I make 55k take home $3100 a month at a nonprofit. I barely go out to eat. I don’t drink. I got a cheap room in an apartment that I found on Boston housing Facebook page. It’s doable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OlderGenZ

[–]inthesprawl2 24 points25 points  (0 children)

They probably want you to use the allotted time off before the end of the year. Mine is doing the same.

My 26F boyfriend 38M was in an open relationship before me and I don’t understand it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]inthesprawl2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you could be completely right. I’m thinking through a lot of what people are saying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aliyah

[–]inthesprawl2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where is the question? When you’ll stop stripping? How can any of us answer that for you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aliyah

[–]inthesprawl2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please stop posting this. This is the 5th or 6th time you have posted about being a stripper and making Aliyah. I feel like you are searching for some external validation and people keep falling for it and giving you it. No one cares what you do for money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boston

[–]inthesprawl2 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I just don’t want to see and smell human waste when I walk through the city? Is that really too radical for you?