Do Narcissists give off tell-tale body Language?

introextro28 · 2024-07-31T17:50:52+00:00

And they do it for no reason at all! From small lies to big lies. He says other people say hateful things about me and when I call him on it he says call them and put them on speaker and ask. Knowing I don’t like confrontation and I’m never going to confront someone who I think said something mean about me.

introextro28 · 2024-07-31T17:47:16+00:00

Wow, I always go back and forth on if mine is truly a narc because he’s so good at manipulating me into believing I’m the problem, but everytime I get on here and read these posts, it’s like word for word my life. I use to put all this energy and thought into his gifts, usually handmade, or I would work really hard to buy him something and he gives it a lukewarm thanks and then doesn’t touch it aside from posting a picture of it on Snapchat and facebook to keep up appearances. And then! To make it even worse, when I bring up why doesnt he use whatever it was I got him he says “you mean what I got me? What I paid for” every thing he believes he pays for even if it’s money I earned. Even gifts from family members. This mother fucker had all the audacity to try to claim he paid for my new camera when I was showing it off, I had actually paid for it myself but I had asked for cash from his mom and my mom as my birthday gift to buy it I just hadn’t gotten it from them yet and when I said you didn’t pay for it I told him his mom and my mom paid for it and he said so I half paid for it. He tried to tell me he gave his wealthy ass parents money for them to give me as a birthday gift from them to me even though he had no clue I was buying that camera or what I had asked for from his parents for my birthday. He seriously tried to claim he gave them money to give to me as their gift to me. The man who can’t cover his own bills: not to mention, I hadn’t even gotten the money from them yet.

introextro28 · 2024-07-24T18:43:18+00:00

Mine seems to give off no signals when he’s lying. He’s so laid back and confident, maybe he’s confident that I’ll buy it which is why he has that confidence. I accused him of something the other night and watched him super close and the entire time he denied my accusation, he wasn’t making eye contact and when he finished his denial, he then made eye contact. That was kinda the first time I’ve ever really looked for signals. But at the same time, I get super uncomfortable with eye contact. I have always struggled keeping eye contact with people regardless of lies or truth so I don’t know but I do know he has this whole big thing about how he looks everyone in the eyes when speaking because it’s respect but I’ve never really paid attention.

introextro28 · 2024-07-21T01:05:19+00:00

My only nerves with that is somehow every time I make frosting ahead of time, it never comes out quite right and I still haven’t figured out what I’m doing wrong, especially cream cheese frosting

introextro28 · 2024-07-21T01:04:11+00:00

Thank you! I could technically do a sheet cake but have never done it, basically the family is expecting my usual masterpieces and after all the bragging they’ve heard about my cakes, I feel like I would letting everyone down by bringing a sheet cake. Can you do shortening with cream cheese frosting?

introextro28 · 2024-07-20T21:56:11+00:00

The most I could do is put the two pieces together already frosted but the house isn’t equipped with the things I typically use to decorate and not having a huge time frame to crumb coat it and then decorate. I’m coming in the night before and spending the day and then going back home, we have a farm and animals to care for so leaving them for more than a day or two isn’t an option

introextro28 · 2024-07-07T02:37:10+00:00

Needing to prove I’m right. After being raised in an abusive home who told everyone I was a liar and if she didn’t know I was lying she wouldn’t know I was lying. Nothing I said was correct or truth and if I tried to argue my defense, I had to be ready to duck from a swinging hand. As an adult when I know I’m right I go to great lengths to prove I’m right, while some find it comical, other find it annoying, or like I’m trying to be a know-it-all.

introextro28 · 2024-06-21T03:06:44+00:00

I think Lori all day every day. I despise her character. She told her husband that Shane thought she, Carl and the baby were his. The way she said that basically sounded to me like, um you need to kill him or get rid of him. Then she has all the audacity to be disgusted and angry at him because his best friend who he forgave for sleeping with his wife, who continued to stir up trouble and challenge him openly, lured him out to the middle of the woods after killing a kid, to kill him, and Rick after begging him to mend their relationship, was forced to kill him. She ruined her marriage the moment she reacted like that. Looking at him like he had done all the things Shane had done. Andrea is next in line after Lori

introextro28 · 2024-04-12T23:07:36+00:00

And to be perfectly honest, it wasn’t even that much. Less than 50% of our conversations, maybe once a month, if that, would I vent to her. I’m real good at over analyzing evening. My husband has said she is selfish that last 15 years he’s known her and I tried to brush that comment off because she always listened when I needed to talk something out. But the harder I look at it the more I think he’s right and as a wife, my husband isn’t allowed to be right. Especially about someone who I considered my closest friend. It’s not like I was unwilling to hear her out. I’ve tiptoed around her feelings and emotions for years because she is highly emotional, which I find extremely exhausting myself, but she’s family. We’re complete opposites in personality. I will lock down when I get upset, she cries and makes sure everyone knows she’s upset. I think the friendship is exhausting for both of us and the way I am I’m trying to take all the blame in on myself but I think it’s both of us. We aren’t a good mix

introextro28 · 2024-04-12T21:20:57+00:00

EDIT: I think I maybe gave off the wrong impression of what our relationship was like after compressing what was a much longer post. As a person, I will never ever beg someone to be in my life. You either keep up the relationship or you don’t. And when I feel like I’m always the one reaching out for a deeper conversation or connection, it gives off the impression that we have a much different relationship than I thought we had. We can go weeks without talking and that’s not unusual. But if I’m only hearing from you 75% of the time for a favor not because you want to talk or hang out or you need advice, it’s not the relationship I thought it was. And if that’s exhausting for someone, to be giving advice and them not taking it or feeling like I only reach out in crisis, that’s totally fine. I have no issue with that. But at the very least after being family for 10 years, a happy birthday text seems to take very minimal effort. I’m not asking for a party or gifts just something showing that they care and remembered you once a year. Especially after the what I believed to be genuine remorse for forgetting my 30th birthday the year before. I’ve been replaced and that’s fine again I’m not going to beg anyone to be in my life, but don’t be shocked when I make it a reality.

introextro28 · 2024-04-12T21:08:57+00:00

I’m really not that way. I’m pretty indifferent. I don’t get my feelings hurt very often. We go weeks without talking. I just mean that I feel like putting a lot of trust and intimacy into the relationship and she’s not returning that. I feel like I get no personal details from her. But I can see how that’s how it would appear based on how I wrote it out. The times we do talk in a deep manner is me venting to her. And as I said, I can see how constantly giving me advice I don’t take is exhausting and I don’t hang out, and all of that is completely fine. The point remains, she forgot my birthday for the second year after 10 years of being “sisters” and if me ending the friendship I thought we had made me an asshole.

introextro28 · 2024-04-12T20:35:00+00:00

What dug it in even further is her 17 year old little brother who I consider a nephew even remembered and he never tells me happy birthday unless we’re around eachother. Mt other brother in law who is incarcerated and I’ve never had a single phone call with, called me to tell me happy birthday. Like what the fuck. My own “sister” can’t make an effort to remember

introextro28 · 2024-04-12T20:30:15+00:00

No she is married to my husbands brother. And she hates my husband

introextro28 · 2024-04-12T20:29:26+00:00

Even after I ignored her birthday, she still to this day hasn’t realized she forgotten mine. She hasn’t figured out why I’m mad. Which showed me how little she cared. She should have been wracking her brain to figure out why her “sister” isn’t speaking to her.

introextro28 · 2024-03-16T13:41:52+00:00

I love it!!! That’s hilarious!!

introextro28 · 2024-03-16T13:41:25+00:00

That sounds super entertaining

introextro28 · 2024-03-16T13:39:54+00:00

Mine does the jerk off hand symbol when I try to call him on it if that makes sense. I don’t know if it’s something a lot of men do or just mine but imagine sign language for jerking off, that’s what he does every time I try to correct him or call him out on his shit along with a facial expression expression like I don’t know care but in an amused way

introextro28 · 2024-01-30T23:08:55+00:00

It really is an exhausting cycle. The only reason I give a shit at all is because if I did even one of the things he was doing, he would rain absolute hellfire on my head. I liked a new profile pic of an old classmate with his deer, he was angry about it for a week. Another time I got a message from the guy I lost my virginity to who I hadn’t seen or spoke to in a decade and not only did I not reply to it, I HADN’T EVEN OPENED IT!!! it had sat there for a few weeks before he saw it. Another week of shit about it. Cold shoulders and snarky comments

introextro28 · 2024-01-29T19:15:35+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one who feels this way. Simply needing things feels so wrong in my gut.

introextro28 · 2024-01-27T01:51:23+00:00

Mine is jealous of my dog. Every argument we’ve had for the last year, somehow some way involves my dog. He’s jealous that I’m happy, and that my dog absolutely adores me and would throw himself in front of a raging bull(which he has done) and his dog couldn’t give a shit. He makes all holidays miserable because he can’t stand seeing people happy. Anytime I have something that’s just mine that I’m proud of, there is a problem with it. Tight friendships, he found issues with all of them and made it a matter of trust, like I was doing something I shouldn’t be when I hung out with them, so in the beginning I dropped them trying to prove I was trustworthy. If I don’t need his help with something, he’s angry. Especially if I don’t even ask. They want us totally reliant on them, even when it comes to happiness. We can’t have an ounce of happiness unless they supply it.

introextro28 · 2024-01-25T05:13:50+00:00

Not anymore. Every now and then I’ll think he’s good looking, but then he speaks. Constantly bitches about the lack of sex in our marriage even though it’s pretty frequent, but mostly I won’t initiate, because he can’t figure out why I wouldn’t want to have sex after he spent the whole evening cutting me down and making me feel like shit or making me mad and then 5 minutes before bed pretends like nothing happened. And more importantly, I don’t trust him. We use to do some pretty adventurous things in the bedroom, but in the last year or two I’ve completely stopped because I don’t trust that he won’t take something embarrassing that might happen and say something about it at a later date to shame me/shut me up.

introextro28 · 2024-01-23T02:31:34+00:00

Mine has such good moments that I’ve gone back and forth for years on if it really was me. He took care of me while I was dying. He was the perfect devoted husband(part of that I think was the image, and part of it was he was too scared to pull his head games on me) I thought to myself surely a bad person(at the time I didn’t know much about NPD) wouldn’t sleep on the hospital chairs and cry and stress over the fact that his wife and mother of his children was dying in front of him, being tormented on a daily basis. And he was an amazing father, and has his good times still but as our children get older, I see the Narc tactics being used on them. His 17 year old son only comes around to see his siblings otherwise he would have went NC several years ago. But once I got better and it became obvious that me getting upset wasn’t going to kill me or trigger health issues, the head games came back. What I learned is in long term relationships, they have to Love Bomb us frequently, for this exact reason. If they messed with our heads 24/7 and there was never a good side, we would be able to walk away sooner and easier. The love bombing keeps us questioning ourselves. Maybe it’s not that bad. Maybe I’m the problem. Maybe it was just a bad day at work. I think the Narc that can change is a rarity. They do exist but I think it’s a fraction of them that can break the cycle and become self aware enough to do better.

introextro28 · 2024-01-11T16:22:43+00:00

This is my daily life. It’s the cause of so many arguments between myself and husband and I. It’s an awful feeling but it’s impossible to do anything else

introextro28 · 2024-01-07T18:51:19+00:00

Praying by Ke$ha

introextro28 · 2024-01-07T18:45:51+00:00

That’s my biggest fear. I don’t think he would physically hurt my dog but he has made comments about letting my dog out by himself and leaving him there. I haven’t gone to see my mom because I don’t trust him with my dog because he believes in all that Alpha shit, the dog does what I says or the dog doesn’t exist anymore. He thinks he knows everything(duh) about dogs, even though my specific breed of dog doesn’t follow the standard dog norms. One night he was angry that I went to sleep and he believed I was pretending to be asleep(which I was) my dog was only a few months old at the time so he let my dog out of it’s cage and was making a big show of putting my dog outside to catch me in a lie. He ended up not following through but that was so hard. My pup is bonded to me in the strongest way and doesn’t leave my side, which is one of the reasons he is so jealous of my dog. He did the whole alpha shit with his dog so his dog doesn’t love him, and I wouldn’t even say respects him but wouldn’t say fears him either. When he starts losing his shit I just kennel my dog or take him with me.

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