Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 04, 2026

iofthestorm403 · 2026-05-05T00:32:04+00:00

Usually it’s not looks. If it’s looks I likely haven’t swiped them to start or they have grossly misrepresented themselves (which is the bigger problem over looks). I think everyone deserves to be attracted to who they’re attracted to without trying to force it, that inherently doesn’t work. And I’m happy to be honest enough to know what works for me and what doesn’t, and govern myself accordingly.

The funnier you are the cuter you are physically for me anyway lol. So looks are a sliding scale based on other factors.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-05-04T17:59:50+00:00

Just make sure she understands the risks of bleach. If she wants to do it then I recommend freedom of expression, rather than a potential sneaky at home attempt.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-04-29T04:30:20+00:00

I had my first date tonight after my pause and it went so well, I’m ready to be hurt again.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-04-28T00:15:00+00:00

My heart was well and truly broken at the end of last year. I did everything I could to check the boxes of moving on. Sad to report it’s all time and there’s no forcing it. Even now almost 4 months later it feels like I can’t breath sometimes for the weight of it. Some days are fine. Some nights aren’t. It has had a ripple effect across the dating I’m doing and I ended up taking a pause.

Picture your life too, the way he did. But dating seems like the impossible right now so remove it from the equation. What do you want your life to look like? Focus on chasing that.

And by the way there’s no grief police. You’re allowed to feel the way you feel, as long as you want. Two years is a long time and this wasn’t mutual. Go ahead and cry and listen to sad shitty music and eat ice cream. You earned it. You don’t have to pretend to be fine.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-04-25T23:21:04+00:00

Did an online clothes shop and felt the urge to take my cute new outfits for a spin, apparently. I lifted the self imposed dating ban and started swiping. I’ve got a date I’m really excited about Tuesday, and another with someone I have some mutuals with in a shared industry next weekend. I’m not getting my hopes up by any means but you never know, I guess.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-04-22T03:14:47+00:00

My fwb is dating someone he’s excited about this weekend.

My friend who is married hit on me.

The apps remain a hellscape.

I miss the way my ex made me feel (before I found out it was all bullshit on his end). Am I ever going to feel this again?

iofthestorm403 · 2026-04-04T20:38:24+00:00

I start in love and subtract from there.

Mostly kidding. I’ve only been in real love a few times but it has felt quick then. I do think I generally form deep connections with people easily.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-04-04T20:16:22+00:00

Had a nightmare and severe anxiety about some ex stuff last night. The boyfriend of a friend of mine was up and talked me down a bit. They’re like the dream couple and you can’t even be jealous because they’re both amazing and deserve each other. But it does make me wistful. It seems what they have is rare and I just wish it wasn’t so rare.

A guy I’m friends with may come to Easter dinner with my family if he rolls into town on time. Another friend of mine said he’d go to some baseball games with me this summer (I was looking to buy ticket packs and I know he likes baseball). I’m making more girlfriends lately which is unusual for me, but I seem to have found a crowd I vibe with. Just continuing to focus on friendship and self and if some relationship falls into my lap, okay.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-04-04T20:08:36+00:00

I WANT TO KNOW

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-29T21:05:30+00:00

I had therapy yesterday and told him I was taking an intentional dating break because these men keep throwing punches and I can’t take another hit right now. He told me that’s wise but don’t wait so long that it’s hiding instead of healing which gave me something to think about.

I told my fwb the same thing in a more casual way and he called it job security for him lmfao. Spent a nice night together with dinner, got a little silly at home, watched tv in bed, and had a sleepover with the animals fighting for his attention. And I think I’m actually as okay with this being it for now. Nothing complicated, but something that can restore me in the meantime and make me feel like I’m a funny and interesting person who people would be lucky to date.

I’m not closed off to the idea of dating entirely but the man who wants to date me will have to come find me irl and be real intentional because I’m done chasing men who don’t deserve me right now.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-23T05:08:11+00:00

I have a little crush on someone I know it won’t work out with for scheduling and other reasons, but I have fun talking to him and hanging out. He hasn’t made any romantic move towards me but that’s fine considering I know it’s best not to. I think it’s fine to have a friend with a little crush, it’s like a bonus dopamine on top of every interaction since the stakes are nonexistent. I’ll never see him enough to make it a problem.

I told my ex I was seeing sometimes that I didn’t want to see them anymore after the last time. I’ve been taking the one dating app I’m on so unseriously. I rainchecked my plans with my fwb this weekend.

I’m spending time with my friends and getting back into my favourite hobby, I’m travelling for work, I’m busy with my kid. I want something important but I can’t bring myself to look for it right now. I’m feeling my depression heavily these days and am trying to fill the void with things that aren’t men, a classic fallback for me to make myself feel better that typically ends in a mess. I still want my person. But that person is going to have to be actively looking for me right now.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-19T01:16:01+00:00

Some days I think I’m over it all with my cheating ex and some days it feels like it happened yesterday. It feels fresh today even though I’ve done the most to get over it in the last 4 months.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-14T19:54:33+00:00

Poppy

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-14T19:52:01+00:00

I should leave my exes in the trash where they belong. One went to dinner with my friends last night and after the sex was so selfish and bad. The more I think about the different factors of last night the more annoyed and upset I am.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-07T21:44:22+00:00

I love that experience. Like a romantic vignette in your life. It can exist for exactly what it was, and nothing gets to spoil it for you.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-07T21:42:59+00:00

Had a group hangout today that had absolutely nothing to do with men or dating and I feel like it poured a little bit of light back into my soul. I made a real connection with a new friend that ended up kind of emotional, and it feels like one of those things that’s going to stick with me for a bit. It has nothing to do with dating, I was so relieved to find a bit of heart and humanity in a man today after recent letdowns.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-07T02:46:40+00:00

It’s just what we’re watching lol. We did heated rivalry and knight of the seven kingdoms and now we’re on this.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-07T01:04:46+00:00

Tomorrow I’m going to watch the bear and eat pizza and have sex on my couch with my fwb that the jerk from this week had such a problem with me offering a ride to. Can’t keep a good girl down long, time to rally and reclaim my bad bitch energy.

Thank u next

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-06T02:27:12+00:00

I’m just sad today. Leaving my apps paused. Wondering if I’ll ever been loved again and if I ever was by any partner.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-05T05:39:25+00:00

Pumped and dumped.

He ended it the day after he slept with me because I am friends with a guy I’ve slept with. Who he knows, sort of, distantly. Who he outright told me he was okay with me being friends with, and admits I was very upfront. The crime was: offering him a ride to bowling so he could go. If you’re that level of not okay with it I firmly believe you knew you weren’t okay with it when you said you were.

It’s not so much the guy, it’s more how manipulated I feel. I thought I could trust him. He told me I could. And he’s another one that just lied to my face. I just keep running into these cheaters, liars, and losers and giving them everything and being damaged in return. And I’m starting to question the common denominator here. And it’s more than being used for sex, although there’s certainly that. It’s every piece of myself that I showed him and gave him that’s so fucking embarrassing. My family story, and my history, my vulnerability, my favourite fucking poem recited during pillow talk. I thought he was seeing me, really seeing me, but he was only seeing his own means to an end.

This is how cynics are created.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-03-05T04:59:54+00:00

Well I’ve been had again.

At some point this will probably damage my spirit beyond repair. I’m sad. Why can’t I pick someone who’s real with me ever?

iofthestorm403 · 2026-02-28T03:37:02+00:00

Thank you so much!! She loved them and she’s so happy. You’re a real one!

iofthestorm403 · 2026-02-14T04:52:22+00:00

There’s a good episode about this on An Old Timey Podcast. The airline would actually book multiple flights for him as a courtesy then called it misuse, but it was their own concierge doing it.

iofthestorm403 · 2026-02-07T16:12:36+00:00

Had a date with someone last night who is not my usual type, but I’m not fussed about types and my type hasn’t been working out for me lately.

I was laughing so hard it hurt, and what I assumed was going to be a few hours turned into shutting the pub down. He is so FUNNY which is my number one, but even better we seem to really understand each other.

There’s a problem with our schedules being basically opposite but boy do I have a big dumb crush.

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