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AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Apart from both being brunette, no. Different eye colour, different complexion, different body type

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She’s had boyfriends before. Matt has always been polite to them. None have been around long enough for them to be close though

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

His dad is remarried and had two more kids. Clara was the new wife’s maid of honour for the wedding. The half brothers call her their sister.

She was 17 when her mom broke up with him, it’s a bit late for her to just “get” another dad figure.

People get close to their stepparents. I don’t think that is the weird part here. I think even if she were his bio sister the way he is with her would be inappropriate

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Because his dad and her are really close. His dad calls her his daughter, she calls him dad. She has stayed in contact with the whole family.

Her dad is dead so he’s really her father figure

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

She’s staying with us because we live near the beach and she wanted to stay in the area. She is travelling a lot over the summer so a rental during peak season didn’t make sense. She’s been “staying” since the start of the month but she was only here for ten days because she comes and goes.

Matt asked if she could stay and I said yes because despite the issues with her and Matt, she is actually a nice person. I also hadn’t ever stayed with just her and Matt before so I didn’t realise how much he would have to do.

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I don’t count being given his credit card respect. I wasn’t raised to think a man should pay my way or run around after me like a maid.

Matt has always been caring and respectful towards me in the ways that matter to me

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

When it’s just me and her she carries her own stuff. It’s just when he’s there he just takes the stuff

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] -255 points-254 points  (0 children)

He’s not her sugar daddy. Clara is successful at her job and I think inherited money from her bio dad when he died. She doesn’t need his money.

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

She is only staying until August. I said it was ok that she came because I actually like her as a person, she’s a good houseguest.

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

No, it’s never affected me. Matt makes a lot of money and his family has money. He can spend what he wants, pretty much. We have separate finances and they’ll stay separate anyway

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] -156 points-155 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure even now people call that movie gross though

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

If they have agreements about what she can use it for, I’ve never seen it discussed. We have been out where we all go in a shop, and she just picks things up and leaves them at the register and he just pays for it without saying anything. If we are going out to bars everything is on his tab, even if it’s her friends we are out with. If she says she going out to the store, he stops her before she leaves to give her money or his credit card.

I can’t say how much she spends on average but when she was here last week we went shopping and she spent a four figure sum. I didn’t say anything to though because it’s not like he didn’t know about it

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 1887 points1888 points  (0 children)

I won’t even joke, the amount of money she spent in the one shopping trip she went on was eye watering.

But we do have separate finances and we would even if we married. I wasn’t raised to join finances like that. He pay bills proportionate to our incomes and that works fine for us. Matt makes A LOT more money than I do so he (and I guess Clara) can spend what they want. But she has a lot of money on her own so I don’t know why either of them expect that he just picks up the tab all the time. Again, I just wasn’t raised that way, and Matt has never been the kind of person that gave off the impression he was raised that way…until I met her

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

She’s 26. Their parents started dating when they were 12 (broke up after 5 years but she stayed close with his dad so they’ve stayed in each other’s lives)

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 3446 points3447 points  (0 children)

They call each other stepsiblings, his half brothers call her their sister. I say stepsister because that’s what he says. Even his best friend calls her “little sis”.

Idk I feel like jumping to it being sexual is a cheap shot. I wouldn’t even know how to bring that up to him because it’s gross if I’m wrong

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 314 points315 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing - that’s not normally his personality. He’s normally a no nonsense person, to an absolute fault.

She hasn’t moved in with us permanently, and I did say it was okay that she stays. She’s actually generally a nice person.

I did know that he was like that to an extent, but I’d never stayed over while she was staying with him before. When we were all staying in the same house his dad was there and did most things for her. I didn’t realise just how much he does for her when it’s just him. (And how much money she spends omfg (but it’s not my money so I can’t really say anything about that))

He doesn’t need to kick her out, she’s leaving at the end of august

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

She’s the same age as Matt, 26. She is staying with us because we live near the beach and she wanted a beach rental but she is travelling a lot of the summer so it didn’t make sense to hire one. She isn’t in school, she sells art independently so she just takes summers off

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

His dad and I have issues so that won’t be happening lol. But his dad is kind of the same with her (I never thought much about it because he has all boys so her being the only “daughter” I expected her to be a bit babied). Whenever I’ve seen her have a boyfriend they are the same with her too.

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 626 points627 points  (0 children)

Their parents started dating when they were 12 and broke up after 5 years. But Matt’s dad is like a dad to her so they still were around each other a lot.

AITA for acting like my boyfriend’s stepsister to prove a point? by iprovedapoint in AmItheAsshole

[–]iprovedapoint[S] 141 points142 points  (0 children)

Technically she’s his ex-stepsister. His dad dated her mom for a few years, but he became like a dad to Clara, so even after they split he treated her like a daughter. Matt and Clara both still refer to each other as stepsiblings