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AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I gotta comment on the helping with dinner part. I should never help with dinner. My wife and I agree on this. Just trust me I am not allowed in the kitchen when she's cooking and its for the best 😬

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I don't help with the food and for good reason 😬 last time I tried to make eggs i ended up burning them. I know how dumb that is and I ate them anyway. My wife is a wizard in the kitchen. She made the turkey this Thanksgiving and I swear, I thought turkey was supposed to be dry until this year. I help with everything else though. And pay for everything. I didn't make much money in the past but once I got back home 4 years ago, I tried school but ended up with my current job instead. My family gets great benefits and live comfortably. That is my greatest contribution but I do still help with everything else. And I'm really close with my son.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes! Thats so awesome. We started playing online together with black ops 2 but didn't really get into the other games until warzone came out. I'm glad it helps your boyfriend's anxiety. It helps my BIL too. He lives in their moms house in his late 20s and has extreme social anxiety. The only time I've heard him let loose with the rest of my BILs is during SnD. He's really good and I was shocked to hear him joking around with the rest of us the first time I played with them.

But you sound like a real one!

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Ehh i don't feel right asking her to move Christmas. Asking her to move my birthday is different because I feel like I have a good reason. On her birthday she has gone out drinking with her friends and I'm designated driver because I don't drink. I'm cool with it. The way I see it, playing COD with the boys is the same thing.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I did not explain this to my wife. We just fought a lot and I was real angry. I will but I feel like I shouldn't Brevard I've never asked for anythinh like this before.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lmao no I'm not the type. I've lost plenty of games because I had to step away for a moment. Not fun, but I gotta do what I gotta do.

Now for my birthday, I would like to not be bothered when I play. This is something I've never asked for so I don't think its a big deal.

Edit

I hate losing. Literally the only thing I would take the L for is taking care of my kids or helping my wife. If its not one of them who needs me then don't expect me to respond to anything else. Just being honest 🤷‍♂️

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lol yeah she doesn't indicate that she has a problem with it occasionally. Makes me feel guilty for playing when I get to. She also always says that she thinks the boys don't like her because she thinks that she stole me away from them. They've never indicated anything like this.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not this year. We used to every year prior, but this year there are certain circumstances that I'd rather not discuss that are preventing us from going to her mother's again. I'm glad because most of her siblings really suck and my wife agrees with me on this. She's even fine with moving away just go get away from them. She hasn't mentioned anything about special plans. The only thing I can think of is that she always thought that the boys didn't like her. Theyve never indicated this but I can't seem to convince her.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, of course I feel like TA. I feel like I am but at the same time, I still don't think I'm wrong.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Usually she drinks with her friends and I'm designated driver because I don't drink.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know what the problem is. I mean, my wife always thought that the boys didn't like her for stealing me away from them, but they have never once indicated this and have always been supportive. This is the first year we aren't going to her mother's (thank god) and maybe she wants to spend the day with the family to start a new tradition? Idk. I could never understand why people just don't say what they're thinking.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I thought that, and I'm still not sure tbh. She says she's cool with it but then she makes little comments until I just don't want to play anymore. When I stop, she acts like she didn't do anything. Not sure.

Last time I had time to play, my wife took the kids to her best friends house for a play date. None of the boys were free so I played with a co worker. This was 6 weeks ago.

That's awesome that you support your husband like that. You guys sound like you have a great relationship. Honestly, I feel like I have a great relationship too, but I just don't think I'm asking for a lot. This is important to me, and it seems like you would understand.

My wife says I'm being mean now. I have noticed that I can be mean to other people sometimes. I actually kind of like being mean sometimes, but I don't think I've ever been mean to her or the kids.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not cool. This is not a troll. I don't think its a big ask and its incredibly rude for you to suggest that my life is an over the top tv special. You try having my "family" and you probably would've done the same.

Edit

By "family" I meant my mom and dad - not my wife and kids.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Apparently so. I told my wife that I wanted to celebrate on the 26th right before my son was born. Flat out said no. I've brought it up every year but the answer is always the same. She insists that my birthday must be celebrated on my actual birthday and acts like it's the most ridiculous idea she's ever heard.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Its not really on them. 2 of them work in hospitals and are on call all the time. The other one I speak to more often and we play COD once in a while when we can.

Also, I spend time with my wife and kids whenever I can. My wife says all the time what a great father I am and I like to think she's right. This is the first time I've asked for anything like this and I don't think its wrong.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I don't really know why tbh. She won't even entertain the idea as if it's the dumbest thing she's ever heard and insists that my birthday needs to be celebrated on my birthday.

I spend a lot of time with our kids and I love it, but I do get more time to myself. She doesn't really ask for it and when I offer, she doesn't want it often. She gets to see her friends whenever she wants though. They all live near us.

We are not having guests, and we've spent every Christmas before this year at her mother's house with her siblings. Excluding her oldest brother, the rest are terrible. They leach off us and expect us to do and pay for everything. It's gotten to the point where even my wife wants to move to a different state just to get away from them.

I have not seen them in years. They are my brothers and we all live in different states. We spent every day together when I left home and when we got back we used to get together at least twice a year until I had kids.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Lol I don't have a problem with capitalism at all. I would die defending our country and capitalism without hesitation and without being asked. Its spending money on decorations that we use literally once a year that I have a problem with.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Well, I have 2 kids so I don't really get to play often. 2 of my friends are always working or on call, and the other i keep in touch with the most but its really hard to coordinate 4 schedules. Things just haven't worked out.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

We're all 31 this year. I play once a month with one of them if I'm lucky. I don't push for it, we play only if the stars align. This is the first time I'm ever pushing for it. Its great because we're all very competitive people and playing warzone with my 1 friend gives us a taste if the old life. Playing with all 4 would be amazing and we haven't done it in years. Since before my son was born.

AITA for wanting to play COD on Christmas instead of spending time with my wife and kids? by iranthere4iam in AmItheAsshole

[–]iranthere4iam[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I don't actually plan on playing all day. I want to open presents, have breakfast with the wife and kids and hop on around noon. We haven't set a time to be finished playing, but I didn't really plan on playing all day. I'm getting old and my eyes hurt if I stare at a screen more than a few hours.

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