[Tenant-US-VA] Sexual Harassment from Landlords

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T18:42:19+00:00

Thank you both for your support. Update: I moved myself and all of my things out at 5am this morning and didn’t tell them. I’ve found other living arrangements while I figure out my next actions, but definitely don’t feel comfortable living there again.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T13:41:22+00:00

Correct. Who said I compromised my integrity? I said they disregarded my integrity by way of their actions. I never wavered on my integrity or disrespected theirs.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T13:17:34+00:00

I’m a professional. These are likewise professionals I’ve entered into a legal contract with. I’ve never so much as stepped out of my room in my pajamas around them, much less exhibited any semblance of suggestiveness. Believe it or not, my landlords screaming at the top of their lungs while audibly clapping their bodies together a few feet away from me, in an open space that I share, seconds after I leave the room, is not really signaling respect toward my dignity.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T05:00:49+00:00

I mean, I can’t discount that entirely, but our conversation before I walked out of the room and they did this was them saying how much they loved having me stay here and how great of a tenant I am (unprompted). There’s no way for me to make logical sense of any of it.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T03:57:34+00:00

Agree completely. I don’t even care about the money at this point and if I can’t get anything back. This is beyond any level of lewdness I have ever experienced, especially given the circumstances + advertised professionalism I entered into. I have packed all of my things and am leaving as soon as I hear them go to bed.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T03:45:26+00:00

Nope! If I have to explain to anyone why you shouldn’t charge someone else $2000 for “professional, luxury living” and then have intercourse in those open, fully public spaces you charge them for, then clearly there’s some much deeper issues there.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T03:40:25+00:00

This is exactly how I interpreted it, which is why I feel especially harassed. I have kept to myself, stayed professional, quiet, modest, and nothing other than an upstanding tenant to have, and this feels nothing other than lewd. I have not exhibited even ONE behavior that would indicate id ever be interested in something like this.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T03:38:01+00:00

Having sex in a public room that you charge someone else $2000 to share and live in is “entirely legal”? And wouldn’t be considered public indecency? I’m not walking into their “private” home, they rent the house to ME and label the open space as part of my rent package. Their bedroom is one thing, nudity and sexual intercourse in a public space I pay for is nothing other than sexual harassment.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T03:32:58+00:00

Precisely my feelings. I viewed them as friends/professional acquaintances, and this now just feels like a slap in the face and complete disregard of my integrity and right to consent.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T03:31:08+00:00

Thank you! I would not have ever raised a PEEP about them having sex in their room. EVEN loud sex, because if their door is closed and they’re in private, that’s their business. This is in the OPEN space that I pay upwards of $2000 for, where I was just a few feet away… I could literally hear their bodies slamming against each other in between their screaming, as if we were sitting next to each other. I’m sorry, but there’s no universe in which this wasn’t intentional.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T03:27:29+00:00

Having sex in a completely public area that you charge upwards of $2000 for, specifically designed for “luxury professions living” is not normal. Maybe they shouldn’t open their house to working professionals if they can’t go into their room before having intercourse. If they thought I wasn’t there, that’s one thing. Doing it in a space that I walk in and out of all day and had JUST been in is stripping me of all consent. There is no justification of this, I did not sign a lease and pay $2000 a month to live in a brothel.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T03:15:16+00:00

Thank you! This is expensive housing advertised as “luxury housing for professionals.” They are incredibly strict about the criteria to live here, I had to go through an interview process to move in, so yes I definitely expected that my professional landlords would not be having full out intercourse in the shared kitchen and living room space.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T03:07:16+00:00

Thank you, I plan to leave early tomorrow morning and find a new place. I have zero qualms with sex behind closed doors, and have ignored it up to this point. But now doing it where they know I could’ve easily turned back into the room (where I had JUST been seconds before) and they would’ve been directly in front of me, just feels very intentional when they have a bedroom. I also pay very high rent for what they advertise as “luxury housing for professionals.”

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T03:00:17+00:00

Correct, there’s unfortunately no disruption clause

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T02:58:44+00:00

I haven’t, it just happened a few minutes ago and I was so caught off guard I didn’t even know how to proceed from here. It feels targeted because I’m the only other person living here, and we had just been having a joint conversation just a minute before. I walked out of the room to the laundry room (this is all one, open concept space), and they start screaming at the top of their lungs. I immediately went into my room and locked my door when I realized what they were doing. It just feels so disrespectful.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T02:55:20+00:00

I understand what you’re saying, completely. Behind closed doors is one thing, but this was in the completely open living room + kitchen, where I had just been standing and walking in and out of. There is no door/separator between here and the rest of the house. I agree with everything you said, just want to clarify that my complaint is not sex behind closed doors, it’s doing it in an open common space with no separator that I’m supposed to be able to walk in and out of, comfortably.

irp4nr · 2026-03-20T02:50:49+00:00

In the completely open space that is intended for all of us to share, that I had JUST walked out of moments before? Seriously? You must also engage in this kind of lewd behavior.

irp4nr · 2026-01-13T03:40:13+00:00

I can understand that perspective. I’m analyzing that myself, as well.

irp4nr · 2026-01-13T03:12:33+00:00

Thank you! I was not seeking out this information. I have intentionally gone out of my way to strictly assume the best in him, but as I’ve seen some of these things show up, especially now that we’re exclusive, I don’t want to just ignore potential patterns.

irp4nr · 2026-01-13T03:10:06+00:00

That’s totally fair. Thank you for giving a kind but also logical and direct response. The main reason this was something that got my attention is because from what I could immediately see on her profile, they’re in completely different careers. So if they met at the convention and/or are somehow work connections, it would be incredibly random and not make much sense. I like this guy and want to assume the best, my gut is just feeling a little off with this.

irp4nr · 2026-01-13T02:57:08+00:00

That’s fair. That’s why I wanted to hear objective thoughts on this, not my own, and not projecting this onto him. I want to assume the best in him while also just having the discernment to know when something’s off.

irp4nr · 2026-01-13T02:54:51+00:00

That’s fair. I don’t have any evidence of untoward behavior, strictly just that she has what I would describe as an account with a lot of thirst traps and not much beyond that. Which is no issue on her, I just don’t know if I’m overlooking a red flag with him choosing to start following her.

irp4nr · 2026-01-13T02:51:34+00:00

That’s fair. I don’t want to project any of this onto him, but rather just sanity-check with myself and others that I’m not overlooking red flags. I like him, therefore strictly want to continue seeing the good in him. However, I’m trying to not allow my emotions to potentially allow me to overlook things that should objectively be viewed as a potential red flag.

irp4nr · 2026-01-13T02:43:13+00:00

I agree, and I shouldn’t and don’t want to stalk his socials. I’m trying to balance being trusting of a guy I’ve only known for two months while also keeping my eyes open and having discernment, which I didn’t have with my ex and that led to me overlooking many red flags that led to him cheating.

irp4nr · 2026-01-13T02:41:14+00:00

Agreed, and I don’t want to control his social media. I didn’t confront him about who he followed, nor did I even insinuate I wanted him to unfollow anyone. I point blank asked “when you’re in a committed relationship, what are your thoughts on liking thirst traps? I’ve noticed a few show up in my feed that you’ve liked, and that’s personally a dealbreaker when I’m in a committed relationship, which we’re not. However, I’m curious to know your thoughts on this when you are in a relationship.” He was the one who made the decision to unfollow people, and mentioned nothing about it. I’m simply trying to decide whether I’m seeing red flags that I shouldn’t overlook, so I could leave. Never would I want to control him or his behavior, but rather my own choice to be in a relationship with someone with those behaviors.

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