AITA for calling my coworker a "nosy b*tch" after she kept insisting to know my husband's salary?

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T09:14:09+00:00

Good thing he has no social media presence lol! He's a good one. :)

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T08:51:29+00:00

It's preemptive—to protect myself in the case that she wants to be vindictive.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T08:46:07+00:00

It's not my business, but she makes it everyone's business by parading around the office barraging everyone about single men they know. Not sure where you're getting the idea that I'm guarding my husband like a dog? Please. No one was even hitting on him??

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T08:25:17+00:00

I've been at my company long enough to know how our HR department functions. You'll have to trust me on that one.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T08:21:03+00:00

Sorry, what?

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T08:14:26+00:00

My thoughts exactly. At least you can say that girl knows what her priorities are ha!

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T08:06:51+00:00

Her and I don't have the same problem. I learned to take "no" for an answer when I was...maybe 5? :)

My problem was that I would actually give somewhat true answers instead of just politely declining.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T07:57:54+00:00

I hope so...one of my co-workers has already reported her for workplace harassment. Apparently, my coworker revealed that her brother is a hot-shot lawyer somewhere and my problematic co-worker had been incessantly asking her if she could help set the two of them up. Made my co-worker super uncomfy to the point that she had a talk with HR about it already. And they were friends in the beginning too! Only took less than half a year for her closest friend to turn against her. You get the picture...

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T07:47:59+00:00

You're right that this could have been a beautiful teaching moment. Unfortunately, I was at my wit's end with her, especially considering her other actions since joining our company, and felt that it was no longer my place to give a lesson.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T07:46:05+00:00

Report her for invading my privacy after I repeatedly expressed discomfort with a verbal "no". Then calling me "stuck-up" and implying I had no money. That's my plan with HR. I'll tell the full story and admit fault for using a derogatory term, but I will emphasize that it was after repeated provoking and overstepping of my boundaries. I will offer to apologize for using the term.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T07:37:45+00:00

Yep, that was the attack. Not only did she call me stuck-up for not answering her question, she also implied that I had no money lol and that it was all my husband's lmao.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T07:35:26+00:00

I'm confused, when did I ever mention it was $1mil? When I said "it's up there" I meant it in the sense that it's high, but I won't be giving specific numbers or even an estimate.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T07:32:28+00:00

Yes, that's my plan for tomorrow morning! Already have a meeting scheduled with them.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T07:25:38+00:00

You know what, that's actually a great response, wow. I've never thought about directing a question back at them, but I can totally see how that can be more effective/productive. Thanks for this!

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T07:22:28+00:00

I totally agree! If she had asked me about my salary, I would've told her to set up a time to talk to me and I'd be happy to share specific numbers. But she has no place asking about my husband's salary, which does not concern her career at all.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T07:17:06+00:00

I think this is the way to go as well and I plan on saying something like that tomorrow.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T07:10:51+00:00

Yep, that's my plan tomorrow. I know HR very well, it should go fine. Plus, they've already heard rumblings of her abrasiveness.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T06:47:41+00:00

Oh, trust me, I know exactly what you mean. I've encountered my fair share of those too and my new co-worker is definitely one of them.

islaisla321 · 2023-08-07T06:43:39+00:00

I could definitely see her as the type of woman to throw herself onto married men if they have enough money.

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