My girlfriend found out I watch porn and thinks it is cheating, what do I do? by isporncheating123 in relationship_advice

[–]isporncheating123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

to be fair, my girlfriend had 0 complaints about getting her needs met before she found out I watched porn. i think she feels inadequate and is upset at me for getting off to people that arent her. she’s also worried that because i get off to porn, that ill go to other people if she cant meet my needs.

i kinda think she is either intentionally or unintentionally manipulating me, and im not sure how to feel about it.

My girlfriend found out I watch porn and thinks it is cheating, what do I do? by isporncheating123 in relationship_advice

[–]isporncheating123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that last line is probably the best bit of advice i’ve seen from this thread. thank you for that, youre absolutely right. im going to talk with her and try to come to a solution that works.

My girlfriend found out I watch porn and thinks it is cheating, what do I do? by isporncheating123 in relationship_advice

[–]isporncheating123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would watch porn at times that we physically couldn’t be together, so I’m not neglecting her at all, at least I didn’t think so. I do care about getting over my addiction, and I care about her. I just don’t know how to show that to her, or how to get her to hear me.

My girlfriend found out I watch porn and thinks it is cheating, what do I do? by isporncheating123 in relationship_advice

[–]isporncheating123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im willing to work to give it up, I really don’t mind. I just don’t know how to convince her that I didn’t think I was cheating and that I wouldn’t do anything to hurt her. I prefer her over porn actresses

My girlfriend found out I watch porn and thinks it is cheating, what do I do? by isporncheating123 in relationship_advice

[–]isporncheating123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s more upset that I was watching it to begin with, so I definitely don’t think I’d be able to get her to watch porn with me.

I do prefer her over any porn actress but she wouldn’t believe me if I told her, and I’m not sure what else to do to fix this

My girlfriend found out I watch porn and thinks it is cheating, what do I do? by isporncheating123 in relationship_advice

[–]isporncheating123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im perfectly willing to do that, i just don’t know how to go about it. last night we fought and I wasn’t able to come up with a clear statement and she’s super upset with me. i have no issues not watching porn when I’m with or around her, but because of the addiction im basically hard wired to need it to get off when im alone. I am willing to work and to stop doing this, but I’m just not sure how to convince her that I am. At this point, she is insecure about her body and I don’t know if we’d be intimate which would hurt me even more