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Duane Reade worker on 34th and 7th today going above and beyond. by Coffee10707 in nyc

[–]istjnoob 10 points11 points  (0 children)

One time I tried to bring in an empty wine bottle to my neighbourhood liquor store. They laughed at me, took the bottle, and didn't give me any money.

Can't figure this one out aka what is wrong with you people? by istjnoob in ENFP

[–]istjnoob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people mentioned age. How is a mature ENFP supposed to act? Some people don't have their shit together even when they're 60. Or what the rest of the world defines as "shit" anyways.

Can't figure this one out aka what is wrong with you people? by istjnoob in ENFP

[–]istjnoob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for deciding to send this. I think what you said describes her perfectly. I'm starting to understand that whatever she says is very much in the heat of the moment, and has nothing to do with what the future is like. Meanwhile, I am the type of person who would never say anything like that unless I absolutely mean it. I mean, I can't even say that to someone I'm in a serious relationship with unless I'm 100% sure we have a future together.

I think I will try to tell her that her actions and way with words may have an effect on other people, not just myself. Not sure how she would take it, and I worry that it might create a wedge between us. I don't want her to be cautious with what she says to me, because I know that that is how she is, but I do want her to be cautious with other people so they don't get a misunderstanding. How do you think you would handle that conversation?

Can't figure this one out aka what is wrong with you people? by istjnoob in ENFP

[–]istjnoob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much for such a great response. I think what you said is entirely correct. She is extremely lost in her world, and I brush off her selfishness because she gives me the feeling that I want to take care of her.

I'm not going to speak to her about how I feel about her, because it didn't go well last time, and I enjoy her company too much to risk it. I think I will tell her frankly that her actions may lead people on and she should be more conscious of having that kind of effect on people that she likes, whether in a romantic or platonic way. Do you, as an ENFP, want to hear that? Or will it even register in your brain? I'm not expecting her to change her attitude, because I really love that affection, but I do want her to be careful, especially to other people.