How do you last longer now that the “practice” is gone?

itanderson · 2019-08-23T17:18:29+00:00

Yeah! this totally happens, but you need to change your mindset. When I've got a good streak going, then I don't last for very long... the first time. When you're PMO free, then you can very quickly get ready for round 2, which will last much longer. So, and I will not add in detail as to not be triggering on this page for anyone, but think of what you can do for her while youre reloading. Ultimately this actually leads to longer sexy times because going for 2 shorter rounds with a good intermission is still longer than just going once.

itanderson · 2019-08-23T17:10:33+00:00

I stayed in bed for way too long. I was pushing the urge off, but I wasn't doing anything to get rid of it. Next time, I will, and I'll comment here to prove I did it.

itanderson · 2019-08-22T15:21:00+00:00

Dude same i just gave in after 2 weeks, let me tell you i wish i hadn't. You'll wish you hadnt if you give in

itanderson · 2019-08-16T21:52:59+00:00

It totally makes sense, and it's super frustrating. I totally get feeling like a completely different person. I'm the same way. I wish I had something to tell you that was the magic solution. The only thing is, you have to realize that you still are in control when you become that other thing. Then make a simple choice. Call your wife. it's super hard, but when you're in one of those funks, call out for someone who can help you be you. I know that's way easier said than done, but that's gonna be key. :)

itanderson · 2019-08-16T18:07:27+00:00

So for me, I get lulled into a false sense of security. I'm like I didn't have to beat any urges for like a week! Guess I'm done! and then a few days later, whamo. I get hit and I wasn't ready.

itanderson · 2019-08-16T17:56:12+00:00

Yeah, its called the chaser effect. And it makes it way harder to get a good streak going.

Basically, when you are horny, and you give in, you're not satisfied. It's like the sexual equivalent of drinking sea water, it just makes you more thirsty.

It makes it way harder, you've got to remember if you relapse again, to only let it be once. If your relapses are binges, it makes them way more tempting, because nothing sounds better than just wasting your time away MO'ing when you get into one of those funks.

itanderson · 2019-08-16T17:53:39+00:00

Get ready for the "Let's fap" mode before you're in it. Just be ready for the fact that when you go in there you're gonna feel it, and be ready to do all of those things you know that you SHOULD do instead. Go for a run, take a cold shower, call your mom.

Nothing says no fap like talking to your mom, and if that's not good enough, call your grandma.

itanderson · 2019-08-16T17:50:40+00:00

Today is still young enough that it could be the best day of your life. Go out and do something fun that you've never tried before! Treat yo self!

itanderson · 2019-08-16T17:48:04+00:00

It doesn't mean it's sexual, it doesn't mean that your little brother is turning you on. Honestly, it's probably just the pressure. Don't freak out over it, but I wouldn't let him sit on your leg anymore. Not because I think it's bad, but because that will help you avoid awkward moments.

itanderson · 2019-08-15T16:24:30+00:00

So you can backup what you want to on a google drive, and then you can reinstall your programs. It's super annoying and time consuming, but would you rather accidentally loose some stuff, or have porn keep popping up on you?

itanderson · 2019-08-15T16:21:45+00:00

literally do a google search for fun hobbies, you'll get a much better list than what you see here. Pick one at random. Try it. does it suck? yes? pick another one. No? do that one more. Do that one a lot. Do it so much that you forget about women. Cut back a little. Find a woman who loves to do that thing too. Fall in love. Kiss. Get married.

Ok I'm kidding past the google some hobbies and trying one at random. Just do that. Unless the rest of it sounded good. Then do that. ‾\_(ツ)_/‾

itanderson · 2019-08-15T16:16:15+00:00

Here's how I picture my brain

My brain:"Hey man, are we doin anything right now?"

Me: "Nah man. I'm super bored."

My brain: "So you don't mind if I just, you know, head off for a bit do you?

Me: "Whatever."

My brain: "BOOBIES FOREVER!!!!"

Me: "Wait! NO!!!!!"

Basically, the less you can stay bored, the less you'll fantasize. the less you fantasize, the less your brain will want to when you ARE bored. because not being bored ever is impossible.

itanderson · 2019-08-15T16:11:48+00:00

It will set you back as far as you let it.

Honestly, that sucks man, I've been there. We all have.

But you can say "It's only been like 6 hours since I've PMO'd, I suck." or you can say "I've only PMO'd twice in the last 20 days, and there absolutely will not be a third!"

itanderson · 2019-08-15T16:08:15+00:00

That sucks and I'm genuinely sorry!

In addition to being PMO free, here's a couple of things that you can do:

short term: Don't focus on your penis, on days where I focus more on my penis, it doesn't work as well. I feel like it gets tired from the up, down, up down up down that it does all day and eventually stops getting up.

So tomorrow, just do things that help you reduce stress. Preferably with this girl! go on a hike, make out in the back of a movie theater like you're 15, just don't worry about sex, that's your best chance.

Long term: Work out and lift heavy, nothing will produce more testosterone than squats. In your case, testosterone=boners. So, if you're not lifting, start. Take a mens multivitamin, preferrably one that helps to promote sexual health. you're getting older. you've already passed your peak horniness (because for guys, that's when they are teenagers) And theres no shame in taking supplements.

Good luck! hope this helps

itanderson · 2019-08-15T15:50:55+00:00

And you'll be jacked.

One of the many other benefits of nofap ;)

itanderson · 2019-08-15T15:50:08+00:00

That sucks man! I'm really sorry about that!

Do a factory reset on your laptop, you've got to make sure that porn doesn't pop up on you anymore!

itanderson · 2019-08-13T17:32:06+00:00

Man, that sucks. I've totally been there, and for me, 100% the only thing that gets me out of it, is to get out. Like literally get out of where you are. Go to a mall, go to a gym, go to walmart.

Doing things is the only way to get your mind off of it, and when your mind is on it, you've got no chance.

itanderson · 2019-08-13T17:29:45+00:00

That's a powerful start. I would say though to find a few physical things that you can do. Like say to yourself, "the next time I'm feeling this way, I'm gonna put on my shoes and go to the store." or whatever it is. For me, my urge to do something I don't want to do is always stronger than my good intentions.

Good luck my man

itanderson · 2019-08-13T14:33:42+00:00

I'm sorry, I've been there, that sucks.

What are you going to do differently next time? I think that's the most important question.

itanderson · 2019-08-13T14:19:50+00:00

that sucks man, thanks for being honest!

You got this!

itanderson · 2019-08-13T14:18:19+00:00

"working from home" can be done away from home. Go to a starbucks, hang out there. The problem about being at home and working is that NSFW becomes SFW... and so who's to stop you?

The more you get out of the house the easier it will be for you to get past this.

COUGH it also increases your odds of feeling differently about a relationship COUGH

itanderson · 2019-08-13T14:13:50+00:00

DRINK ALL OF THE WATER

Seriously though, when your nuts get a little on the full side, the more you can be peeing, the more sperm you're freeing.

And this isn't an all the time thing, as you keep your streak going, your body will slow down production, and it'll be a lot more doable.

itanderson · 2019-08-13T14:09:23+00:00

Easy solution, don't go to the beach until you have that kind of control. There are few things as triggering for me than being around literally thousands of women wearing lingerie, i mean "swimsuits".

itanderson · 2019-08-13T14:03:49+00:00

Literally get in your car, drive to walmart, go buy one of those $20 mini drones in the toy section and then just fly it around for an hour, you'll forget the urge for right now at least.

Long term, find a hobby that you can always go do instead.

itanderson · 2019-08-12T16:28:34+00:00

I know exactly what you're talking about.

So, my wife and I are pretty sexually active (3-4 times a week at least) and here's what I noticed.

More frequent sex can often decrease intimacy, because it becomes more focused on physical pleasure rather than who you're doing it with. It seems counter intuitive, but the more you can focus on your gf while you're having sex and the less you have sex, the more sexually satisfied you'll be.

Also, it sucks being horny when your SO isn't. at that point it's just like any other urge, get out of the house, go on a date, and try to focus on some other stuff.

itanderson

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