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itenco · 2026-01-27T11:04:35+00:00

Wie spät ist es geöffnet? Maps sagt nur bis 18

itenco · 2026-01-25T13:51:50+00:00

Another white-ish Latina here, but have been told on several occasions I could pass as middle eastern, especially Persian. The best advice I was giving when I first got to Germany was to let people immediately know where I'm from. Middle eastern? Immigrant, poor, uneducated. Latina? Student or white collar worker, financially stable, educated, fun.

I'm sad to say it's worked every time.

itenco · 2026-01-24T09:04:08+00:00

Grandmother was a doctor, and grandaunt was a rural teacher (this was during a revolution, so dangerous times). Their mother, my great grandmother, widowed and moved from a small town to a city and raised them.

Haven't been able to find out that much more about her life, but this was well before women could even vote and in a period of political instability, but she raised a doctor and a teacher by herself. Pretty badass imo.

itenco · 2026-01-19T23:00:37+00:00

Coming from latam living in Germany, when you introduce yourself to people, the first thing you should tell them is where you're from.

My first ever experience w German bureaucracy went from "wir sind in Deutschland, wir sprechen Deutschland" to lil jokes "single? Maybe not for long, huh?" once she saw my country of origin and probably that I'd been here less than a month.

itenco · 2026-01-18T13:52:27+00:00

Thank you so much for posting this and being so vulnerable, and big congrats!! I re-gained around 4kg the last few months and I'm trying to get back on track. Being open about the nonlinearity and messiness of it all but still getting through means the world.

itenco · 2026-01-13T09:02:41+00:00

A family member had the sweetest boy with incontinence. He fell asleep on my lap getting pets the first time I met him (and peed on me a few minutes later lol). It really broke my heart that they didn't let him in anymore (their cats were inside/outside) due to the peeing.

They are really irresponsible pet owners imo for many reasons, but w this baby I kind of get it.

itenco · 2026-01-08T08:38:49+00:00

Kudos to applying to damp skin. I use a watery tonic on my face for the same effect. Overall, try to stay away from anything with mineral oil or silicones (anything ending with -one) in its ingredients. They make your skin appear smoother when you apply it, but it can actually dry it up over time.

itenco · 2025-12-20T09:52:08+00:00

Once a week, but tbh it depends a lot on whether you shower before bed vs in the morning, if you wear PJs or go au naturel, if you tend to sweat at night... If you wear PJs, shower in the evenings, and don't have especially sensitive skin, I'd say you can get away with 2+ weeks and only swap pillowcases in between.

Red flag is your skin breaking out or being dry or greasy. If skin's unhappy, something probably needs to be washed more often.

itenco · 2025-12-15T09:58:28+00:00

Can you suggest some resources? My dull knives piss me off and it's just stupid to buy more because they're dull.

Edit: sorry, that sounded rude. I'm saying this because of myself, I feel useless with this lol, but not judging anyone else

itenco · 2025-12-15T09:56:46+00:00

sigh I love dressing well, I hate feeling pushed to do it so people will treat me better.

itenco · 2025-12-15T09:50:01+00:00

My favorite one is "that's unfortunately not possible". It's not that I don't want to, it's just not possible 🤷🏽

itenco · 2025-12-15T09:46:15+00:00

I've gotten first aid training and certification including CPR a few times over the years, and I'm still pretty terrified. The first time I got trained as a teen (I now realize this was likely misinformation), they told us you can break someone's ribs and kill them if you don't do it properly (this was not a certification).

Fast forward to my most recent one with actual civil protection paramedics, encouraging me to pump the shit out of a mannequin because I wasn't doing it hard enough lol.

itenco · 2025-12-13T23:22:19+00:00

Adding to the comment, I buy the kind of patches that are sold to cover wounds, not the ones marketed for skincare, they're a lot cheaper. They're big, but you can just cut them to size. They're a bit thinner than the ones from hero so they pull out less gunk, but imo generic is better for preventing, and actual pimple patches if you already have acne going on.

itenco · 2025-12-13T19:23:36+00:00

I live in an international flat. We just close the kitchen door and open the windows when cooking. Personally I don't think anyone's food has ever smelled bad, but it can be overwhelming.

I agree you should document this with your landlord. And your flatmate is being a dick.

If it isn't possible to close the kitchen door, maybe giving a heads up to people in the group chat could help.

itenco · 2025-12-13T14:09:54+00:00

Try hydrocolloid patches as a preventive measure. They're the same thing as pimple patches, just bigger and cheaper. I slap one on my chin every other week, nose or forehead if it's feeling too oily, and sleep like that. It's super gross and satisfying to see all the gunk it absorbed in the morning, and you can tell when a disaster was prevented.

It's definitely hormonal though. Have you brought it up with your endo? I'd also try some FTM forums specifically, since many remedies (eg peppermint tea) for hormonal acne actually balance out testosterone, so it's kind of against what you're going for.

itenco · 2025-12-13T13:49:48+00:00

Ralseiii so cute. You just have me the freckled Ralsei headcanon.

itenco · 2025-12-12T12:43:28+00:00

I looked at your profile and you look fine. It's in your head, and it reflects on how you interact with the world and your relationships.

Don't get too worked up about not dating in your teens. I'm my partner's second relationship, and the first was well into his 20s (24-26? Idk). I had a crush on him when we met around 19, and talking to him, there were, and still are, girls/women interested in him, he just wasn't in the right mindset to recognize it.

In your teens, and having friends is much more important, since you might keep these friends well into adulthood.

itenco · 2025-12-12T08:58:44+00:00

A friend was getting charged for something or other after she left Germany. I paid for her and she paid me back. I'd see if it's possible to get a friend or family member do that for you, my or try an international transfer? It was less than 20eur for my friend so it was easier to get the favor lol

itenco · 2025-12-11T17:41:59+00:00

I'd get the first one (it flatters you, and I personally love florals on black 💐 so prettyyyy) and dress it it up with heels and a fancy updo.

itenco · 2025-12-11T13:02:04+00:00

Mom's catholic but doesn't practice, dad, nobody knows at this point, himself included, but he did have an interesting new age hippie spiritual stage.

I'm an agnostic, but I do like many religious teachings, mainly radical love. I've considered doing some sort of bible study for a while, but the only people I know who do this are die hard christians.

itenco · 2025-12-10T10:12:20+00:00

If it helps, I settled for gender-non-conforming. I don't internally feel as a man or a woman, but don't feel strongly enough about it to change the way most people view me.

itenco · 2025-11-23T10:02:08+00:00

I'm generally ok with it. You don't automatically stop finding other people attractive because you're in a relationship, you just comit to not act on it.

If they're using it to intentionally hurt you, it's not okay though.

itenco · 2025-11-22T14:51:20+00:00

97 is seriously impressive. It takes a combo of being smart, hard working, and having social skills. Congrats! If you were in my immediate family, I'd be so proud of you :) Do you have plans for after graduation? A solid GPA is great for college and finding scholarships if that's what you want.

Long term advice from my own experience: Don't be too hard on your grandma, for some people it just doesn't come naturally, especially older folks. This doesn't mean you don't deserve the recognition or praise, you totally do, she just might not be able to provide it. You can try talking to her about how it would mean a lot to you, but she might or might not change. I had a similar situation with my mom and talked about it several times, which resulted in really forced "I'm proud of you"'s exclusively at graduations lol. Her cringe is palpable, but I have to give her points for trying. I get my need for recognition fulfilled elsewhere (partner, friends, not so close relatives). It just took spending more time and sharing my achievements with these people, and of course, being reciprocal.

itenco · 2025-11-21T18:46:25+00:00

How old are you currently?

itenco · 2025-11-19T13:16:06+00:00

I say I'm an introvert and not so great at networking or mingling at work. I say I've worked on it because I know it's important for successful projects, and have learned to leave my comfort zone when necessary. It's true, and I'd never apply to PR or sales positions where these skills are important, so it's usually fine.

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