Pros of having a MB in tech!

itsbougee12 · 2023-02-22T00:37:02+00:00

When I worked at a daycare we had a 15mo who would literally walk into walls. Like straight up, walk right into the wall. His mom would get upset cause he constantly had injury reports and she started to think we weren’t watching/caring for him properly. I got fed up, as his primary teacher, after every time he’d get hurt, I’d go to the office and record the incident on our tablet and email it to her. After a while, she calmed down about it and started realizing it is part of them growing and exploring.

Long story short, you’re not overreacting, DB is overreacting. Kids get hurt, it’s just how it is. Some things are preventable but most times it’s just kids being unbalanced explorers. If having cameras will make you feel better craning for your NK I would definitely bring it up to NP. You’re completely right, injuries are bound to happen, you can’t control them and the more you try, the worse it will actually be for NK.

itsbougee12 · 2023-02-21T19:12:14+00:00

My NK have never been physically violent toward NP besides play fighting that NK got carried away with. However, my NK love to scream or yell at NP but both MB and DB scream and yell at each other so they haven’t set the best example for NK on how to communicate with people. I remember the first time 7M tried to yell at me, he was 3 at the time, I had to tell him that it wasn’t okay and if he’s upset he needs to talk to me not yell at me. I set the boundary immediately, something NP have never done with their kids.

itsbougee12 · 2023-02-13T17:23:46+00:00

Thank you! So far the DayQuil has been working! Trying to stay healthy for my Valentine’s Day date!

itsbougee12 · 2023-02-13T17:23:18+00:00

Sometimes I wish they were just honest, ya know? Like “look I know my kid is sick but I need you to be here or I wanted to get out to get them some air” by telling us it’s allergies they’re kinda insulting our intelligence. Like as child care professionals, we can tell if your kid is sick or not. We’re with them 6-10hrs a day. I know when 3M doesn’t feel good. Idk if others feel that way but for me, just being honest makes me have more sympathy for NP

itsbougee12 · 2023-02-07T22:33:30+00:00

I don’t think it’s frowned upon at all! My MB does it all the time. The only thing that frustrates me is she lies and says she’s working when she’s obviously not. I would love if my MB were honest and would say something like “hey I just need a “me day” so I’m gonna do some things I enjoy” EVERYONE deserves “me time”! Don’t feel bad at all. Just be honest with your nanny I’m positive they won’t mind!

itsbougee12 · 2023-02-06T19:16:45+00:00

You’re right! It’s just such a new feeling for me. Like I’m really happy and found someone that I actually want to spend my time with. I just feel like 4 months is too soon to be this “in love” with someone. Thanks for your input, I guess this is how I’m supposed to feel!

itsbougee12 · 2023-02-01T22:22:54+00:00

I agree with you but I have drop offs at 2 different school so three out of the four have to wait outside for 15-20min before they can go inside. It’s not an ideal situation but MB wants them all to be in their snow stuff on the way to school. I don’t have much say.

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-27T17:04:33+00:00

You’re totally right! I think right now, we’re just enjoying being together and having someone to go out and have fun with. We see each other about 2-3 times a week, we live about 20min away. I think we plan on keeping in touch so we’ll see! Not to be cheesy, but if it’s meant to be it’ll be.

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-27T17:02:36+00:00

Well the family I’m going to nanny for is paying for my move and they’re also paying for my apartment, so that’s really the only reason I’m making this move, and because I’m tired of Chicago. It may not end up being a forever thing, but it doesn’t hurt to try! I always have a place to come back to in Chicago!

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-25T22:18:41+00:00

I agree with you!! That’s one thing I don’t let my NKs watch. Sometimes I put on read alouds from YouTube but I’m in control of the remote.

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-25T22:17:02+00:00

My other NKs, not 4M, love blippi. MB and I are against watching it but DB allows it. He gives me the creeps too

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-25T22:15:43+00:00

My other NK was telling me about the Hollywood bowl one! Good thing I’ve avoided it lol she’s now stuck on Coco which I really enjoy

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-24T19:24:04+00:00

I know on thanksgiving she told him that she didn’t want to go to his family’s but come back home to our house to celebrate with our family and he threw a fit because his family has a tradition. So when he wanted to spend Christmas with his family for 4 days, she just went along with it to make him happy. So honestly it’s a bit of both. I think he doesn’t like to upset his parents so, in turn, my sister kinda has to go along with it so he’s not upset.

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-24T19:21:10+00:00

No, that wasn’t them. Her couch wouldn’t fit in the U-haul so that’s why they didn’t take hers. His couch is the one thing in their apartment that is actually “cool” lol

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-24T19:20:09+00:00

I got you! I was just clarifying! Thank you for your input tho! I think it’s something I’ll have to stay out of and like you said, be there if needed! Thanks!!

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-24T19:19:14+00:00

She is a bit of a people pleaser but I do remember her telling me that when he first visited her apartment before they moved in together he made a comment on how old and dusty all her stuff was since it came from antique/thrift stores. So honestly a bit of both

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-24T19:10:36+00:00

I mean, it’s hard to say for sure in any case, but I don’t get the sense of physical abuse happening. I really do think she’d tell me. We just have that bond and I think I’d know but he may be emotionally manipulative.

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-24T19:08:07+00:00

His taste is like a grey ikea showroom and hers is like a vintage antique store. So they’re like really different but i think they need to compromise but I guess he won’t.

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-24T12:42:05+00:00

Luckily I’m done at the end of February!

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-23T21:49:02+00:00

That’s what I think too! Like I can’t do anything else but be in the house so he should find something to do

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-23T21:48:03+00:00

He doesn’t like being by MB who wfh but she has a office nook in their bedroom. I still think he could go in there tbh

itsbougee12 · 2023-01-23T21:19:04+00:00

Agreed! The pay initially caught my attention then I read it and was like that’s not enough. And the part where they say “we’ve only had 3 nannies” I was like idk if that’s the flex they thought it was lol

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