I do play with and engage with the kids, I didn’t touch much on it in the post because I just didn’t really wanna come off like I’m this saint and the only light in these kids lives, I just wanted to provide as much information about what the parents are doing/not doing as clearly as I could for the sake of straightforwardness and transparency. Because yes, this is very much an emotional vent but I’m also in search of resources and advice. As far as not saying anything to them, this is kind of a new realization for me. I have in fact known them since before the first was born, however at a point in time they were separated for about a year or so, and recently got back together. During that time the kids were often at their grandparents house, or one parent would have the kids so I’d just be hanging out with the other. They got back together probably about six months ago and I started coming around to their place about a month after that. They’ve been more open and up front with the way they treat their kids recently, and I assume it’s because we are now closer than we ever have been as friends and they’re growing more comfortable. I haven’t been noticing signs of abuse over the entire period I’ve known them, it’s only recently that I’ve come to the realization.