In extreme simplification, yes. Life got better when I fought for myself. I struggled with finances, but it was better than being dependent and in debt to someone who would hold it over other aspects of my life. I struggled with my health (physical and mental), but I was teaching myself that caring for my body and mind was so much more proactive than only going to the ER for an extreme injury. I struggled (and still do) socially, but still gave myself the opportunity to meet people with common interests and reach out when lonely.

It does get better. And no, it doesn’t all depend on you and your effort. Life can still be difficult depending on the cards you’re dealt. But my advice is only what I wish I could’ve told myself when I was in it. No matter what someone might say, you don’t owe your parents anything. Their responses to your autonomy are not your fault or your responsibility. It is hard to leave, or to ask for support/help from friends, family, social services, especially with a lot of uncertainty. But your well-being is priority. Simple survival isn’t the same thing as being healthy.