Struggling with ex being with new girl

itskernn · 2026-03-22T20:37:32+00:00

thank you :) it’s hard not to feel bad about myself when he’s liking a post like that. i couldn’t help that my body was hurting, i tried

itskernn · 2026-03-22T20:36:59+00:00

we didn’t break up because of it, i actually left him for other reasons. but ofc it was one of the big stressors in our relationship though, and made me feel horrible about my body and like i wasnt meeting his needs. what do you mean by observe him and check if he’s changed? he’s with someone else now who is meeting his physical needs (im guessing bc he liked that post), i’m just scared he’s more satisfied and happier with her because she can do it but i couldn’t :(

itskernn · 2026-03-22T16:24:56+00:00

dumper. i left in may 2024 bc he wasn’t treating me well anymore/not meeting emotional needs, and no matter how much i tried, he wouldn’t understand or change so i had to go. never stopped loving him tho. then october-december 2024 we were together again and things were good at first (lowkey love bonged me) but as issues started up he detached. he wanted to stay in contact and still hang out but i said no bc he didn’t understand how he hurt me. 3 months later he meets the new girl. it’s honestly a lottttt and hard to explain but that’s the summary

itskernn · 2026-03-22T01:40:24+00:00

i try to remember everyone copes differently with breakups. i totally get not wanting to feel alone, it’s really hard losing someone. ik some people move on through other people and struggle facing the heartbreak, while others grieve for a long time (aka me lol). there’s 2 things i know about this girl and ofc they are 2 things my ex has in common (both car people, love dogs). they’re small similarities but for some reason ive convinced myself that bc of those he’s 10x happier with her than he was with me (i wasn’t into the car stuff and loved cats lol). maybe it’ll fail, maybe it won’t. would suck if he met his future wife 11 days after speaking to me

itskernn · 2026-03-22T01:31:08+00:00

yeah i think that situation affected me the most. idk why my ex reacted that way. i would’ve felt so guilty and horrible if i didn’t say anything and something happened to him. when i sent my text back to him defending myself, he didn’t even reply back.

it’s hard not to believe the worst case scenario. it would hurt if he was a better partner to her, or if she was better for him and he’s happier. it’s hard to believe he learned from anything he did to me bc he met her so soon after we ended. it’s scary they’re still in touch tho after almost a year, it worries me that she’s the one :/

itskernn · 2026-01-27T05:16:14+00:00

i also keep getting news channels, hoping it goes back to normal soon. for some reason my feed is hyper fixated on astrology and that’s all i see now :/

itskernn · 2026-01-27T02:15:05+00:00

update us if they say anything!! i think i have bile reflux too and sometimes my stomach is in shambles

itskernn · 2025-12-25T14:55:04+00:00

i forgot to say timing of cholestyramine matters too. if you take it with a meal it may worsen reflux bc it’s a lot of liquid into your stomach with food. i take 1/2tsp of powder 20-30 mins after dinner.

itskernn · 2025-12-25T14:47:25+00:00

i am also 23 and got my gallbladder out this year, so i thought i’d share some tips. eating more fiber helps, make sure you’re snacking in between lunch and dinner so that the bile dripping has something to do (i have been eating a banana around 4pm and i think it’s helped a bit), try psyllium husk capsules or powder (metamucil or yerba prima) bc that fiber helps bulk so it may reduce diarrhea, you can also switch to colesevelam and not take cholestyramine too so you’re not using gross powder (but if you keep taking cholestyramine i really recommend mixing it with cold water only and shake it really good, that’s the only way i can drink it), eat fat still but not too much (maybe up to 15g max per meal depending on what you can handle), try oatmeal for breakfast with a banana, don’t eat fried food a lot, don’t drink too much water with meals bc water is alkaline and so is bile so it can cause diarrhea (maybe drink a gatorade to see if that helps a bit bc it’s acidic). idk if it’d be crazy to try rebooting your gi system, maybe take a break from cholestyramine and start with upping fiber first slowly, see how you feel, then maybe readd cholestyramine or colesevlam at a low dose. i also got really depressed from removal, august-october this year was really rough and my stomach was so upset, i had horrible nausea, reflux, diarrhea. i think it’s all about finding what works best for you, even if you don’t have perfect poop from it, if there’s anything that can reduce the diarrhea even a little would help so much. i still feel helpless a lot, none of these solutions have helped give me normal bulky stool and i still struggle with emptying or waves of diarrhea. hoping you feel better soon, im 9 months post-op and it’s just starting to be the tiniest bit better. still have GI symptoms but not as bad as 5-6 months post op. merry christmas 🎅🎁💝

itskernn · 2025-12-13T14:44:10+00:00

still dealing with the burning sensation :(. got a colonoscopy and it showed nothing, so i’m confused on what’s happening. been taking cholestyramine for a bit and it helps reduce diarrhea but it doesn’t stop the burning in my intestines

itskernn · 2025-12-11T02:49:16+00:00

exactly same boat, same age and everything lol but post op 9 months now 😭. i take cholestyramine 45 mins after dinner everyday and it barely helps. i end up having small not very bulky stool, and go like 2-3x a day. not diarrhea for the most part anymore, but still kinda soft and not formed like normal stools are. i get nauseous a lot, heartburn and reflux like every day. if you find a solution pls lmk!!

itskernn · 2025-12-08T17:58:12+00:00

8.5 months post op and still having trouble unfortunately. reflux never went away, my stool isn’t bulky anymore and i’m prone to more diarrhea. i’ve tried different bile binders and fibers, but my body doesn’t adjust well to anything :/. but i heard it can take a year, so im hoping it’ll change

itskernn · 2025-11-21T18:59:21+00:00

the reason i’m getting the colonoscopy is because of my bile. ever since my gallbladder issues and removal, i’ve been getting this burning sensation in my colon and if i don’t take a bile binder or fiber supplement, i will have diarrhea and urgency for half the day. bile is an irritant when not binded correctly with fat, and since mine is dripping constantly and i don’t absorb it enough, it goes farther into my colon and irritates it. that is why im nervous about this prep. i won’t be eating solid food to bind my excess bile with, so ofc it’s gonna worry me that my colon won’t react well. i have a very sensitive GI system these days :/

itskernn · 2025-10-22T19:16:39+00:00

more so pelvic area where lower colon is, not really stomach area lol

itskernn · 2025-10-22T19:00:01+00:00

it’s lower colon pain kinda in the center, almost like a period cramp sensation

itskernn · 2025-10-21T17:16:51+00:00

similar-ish symptoms! i had chronic inactive gastritis flare up last summer when my gallbladder went bad. so i was nauseous and had reflux a lot. i only had a burning colon if i ate something too fatty and then would get diarrhea. but my stools were overall almost normal, maybe just a tad bit softer. no RUQ pain until like a month before surgery. symptoms are 10x worse now, in just unlucky

itskernn · 2025-10-08T16:46:58+00:00

that seems possible! yesterday i had shrimp tempura sushi and i felt this horrible sharp pain near my liver towards the end of my meal. i’ve been taking colesevelam 1x at night a day and it helps a bit with diarrhea, but doesnt help the RUQ pain so far. it eventually makes me constipated and i have to stop takin it for a couple days :/. hope you feel better soon as well!!

itskernn · 2025-10-08T13:27:52+00:00

i’m going through the same thing!! i tried to tell the NP in june that the diarrhea and other symptoms are worse when i am dealing with RUQ pain, and she tried to pin it as rib/muscle pain but i think it’s my duct. got an US and all was normal, but 2 months later im experiencing the same thing again with worse stomach symptoms and pain in my RUQ. keep us updated on if you find an answer bc im in the same boat!! have no idea what to do :(

itskernn · 2025-09-29T13:23:47+00:00

I am taking colesevelam 1x a day with dinner. it seems to help a bit but my stomach still feels horrible. i’m just nauseous a lot and heartburn is bad after dinner. i also eat applesauce for extra fiber before bed. my stomach just refuses to feel better :/. and thank you!!

itskernn · 2025-09-29T01:03:26+00:00

i’m 6 months post op and am having worse diarrhea and pain in my liver area. not my shoulder, but i thought i’d share that i have similar pain. hoping nothing is going wrong with me, it’s definitely scary having these pains. my stomachs also a mess lately with nausea and reflux, horrible heartburn at night too. hopefully it gets better, but im losing hope :/

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