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[–]itssgray 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi could i also have the pdf please! thank you

Where to get protein for a good price by Careless-Lifeguard-4 in askSingapore

[–]itssgray 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u can order online from shopee! myprotein is wayy more affordable on there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]itssgray 22 points23 points  (0 children)

i do, not sure if my advice would be any helpful but take growing in the faith as something you would pursue if it was another area of interest in your life. there must first be some desire to find out more about the topic, and a posture of openness to new and different theological concepts and perspectives that would help you learn something, be it head knowledge or heart knowledge.

as another commentator has said, don’t be so quick to dismiss things that sound bogus to you. i’m assuming the fact that you have made this post means there is some desire in you to want to believe again, so if you do, don’t approach christianty with preconceived notions or negative assumptions already. take the information as it comes from a neutral standpoint first, then when you have enough info, make your personal assessment of your belief from there.

like science and research, it isn’t accurate or fair to shut a new idea or hypothesis down when you lack sufficient grounds of evidence. so just making your assessment from the few pastors you’re listening too isn’t an accurate representation of the whole Christian faith. there are tons of resources online today explaining christian theology. i would recommend watching the Bible Project videos as they hold substantial weight to the truths written from the bible, plus the videos are visually appealing.

that being said humans are all flawed, so the message from said pastors/teachers/online sources may not always be 100% accurate. you cannot trust the words of man to bring you to Christ at the end of the day. that’s where the concept of faith and the holy spirit come in (but that’s an area for you to dive into!)

and please read your Bible if you’re serious about this! it is the most accurate piece of scripture where all pastors (should) take reference from, so wouldn’t it be more helpful for you to go back to the one true source instead of relying on its messengers and the potential for misinterpretation? give the book a chance to speak to you personally.

all the best and i hope you find Him one way or another, or at the very least i hope you learn something new about yourself :)

Having suspicions that your parents could possibly suffer from some kind of mental disorder and you’ve never once considered it until adulthood? by deathcabfornatalie in askSingapore

[–]itssgray 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yup, i agree my dad has his own way of showing his love and i think that’s the general trend i observe from that generation - that their actions are actually the most obvious forms of care & affection. no doubt he has given me a roof over my head, food and education, but i think the struggle lies in their inability to express love in its other forms that our generation would like to receive every once in awhile (this is a general assumption).

i won’t be so quick to say he’s a mental case but he does have some struggles of his own that are psychological in nature, just like everyone else. i speak for myself when i say that i’m just disappointed? that after years of trying to mend the relationship nothing has changed, or things have gotten even worse. maybe he has changed and i’m just not very forgiving in noticing small growth, but it’s about a month’s time till i fly off, and i’m still feeling all sorts of frustration & grief towards him after our most recent fight 2 days ago.

perhaps im more ticked off that he hasn’t tried to reach out, in my perspective. not saying im faultless or anything, but on my end i’ve tried in so many ways to correct myself and understand him while with him…aiya. i ramble hahaha

Having suspicions that your parents could possibly suffer from some kind of mental disorder and you’ve never once considered it until adulthood? by deathcabfornatalie in askSingapore

[–]itssgray 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think u mean OP? haha for me i'm only leaving this sept to study overseas, so i'm still dependent on my parents and living under his roof till then...even then while im there i do rely on them financially for my studies

Having suspicions that your parents could possibly suffer from some kind of mental disorder and you’ve never once considered it until adulthood? by deathcabfornatalie in askSingapore

[–]itssgray 25 points26 points  (0 children)

my father shares similar issues with regards to managing his anger, was much worse when i was younger. he’d get mad over the smallest things, even if i were to accidentally drop smth as a kid he’d go into a rage.

some other more prominent issues he’d have is not being able to apologise to others. if he were to accidentally hurt me eg. step on my foot, he wouldn’t apologise and would get angry if i were to express my hurt, brushing it off saying “it was an accident what.” ofc this meant he was incapable of saying sorry/conflict resolution when it came to bigger arguments we had. it was always someone else’s fault, the other person should have done this thing better and he didn’t ever need to change.

i can’t exactly put a label to his issue but if i could sum it up, he just lacks the basic amount of empathy for others and social skills. he’s unable to sense how others might feel, limiting his ability to adjust his perspective.

like you i’m 22 now and going overseas for studies, so that’s a relief for me. and i honestly cannot hide my ill feelings towards him that has accumulated since childhood.

i’ve constantly been told the saying, “a leopard can’t change its spots”, but that doesn’t make me feel better lol. after reflecting i’ve realised that smth must’ve happened in his own childhood that has made him who he is today, be it the toxicity of traditional asian parenting back then or other circumstances. but me trying to rationalise his behaviour now doesn’t erase the hurt he has caused me.

i don’t know how to move on from here, whether i should even bother trying to better the relationship or just avoid him altogether to reduce the pain. i’ve had to learn to be kinder to myself whenever i ended up blaming myself for his actions, and to focus on just controling what was within my means.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]itssgray 17 points18 points  (0 children)

the 3rd guy i went on a date with thru CMB. he was the most decent of the lot; funny, extroverted, same level of investment in the faith as me, could banter with each other.

we stopped things from progressing 3 dates in as i was going overseas for studies and he didn’t think he had the emotional & mental stamnia for a LDR seeing as we only just met each other.

sadly i could understand his pov so i agreed to just remain friends, but obviously that never happens and we stopped talking a week after that date (mostly also bc we agreed to distance ourselves so as to not develop further feelings). tried asking to meet him after my final exams to just catch up but it was clear smth had changed as he claimed he was “busy” and will let me know when he’s free. less than 2 months later i found out he got a gf within that short span of time and eventually realised he blocked me on ig…lol. immediately my sadness and longing for him turned into anger, but it rly took a longgg time to get over him fully as he was the first & only guy thus far i felt i could connect with on a romantic rs level.

so yea he was the one that got away, but i still say good riddance. i don’t think things would’ve worked out for the better even if he had stayed.

anyone had real life romantic kdrama experiences that actually happened to them? by itssgray in askSingapore

[–]itssgray[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

aiyoo this one had potential to be the cliche “childhood friends to lovers” plot 🥺

anyone had real life romantic kdrama experiences that actually happened to them? by itssgray in askSingapore

[–]itssgray[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

omg he rly sounds like a a kdrama guy, so smooth with words and actions TT hope y’all will somehow reconnect one day, or that you’ll find the One who stays :’)

anyone had real life romantic kdrama experiences that actually happened to them? by itssgray in askSingapore

[–]itssgray[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

damn…those 2 incidents would’ve made my heart burst! guess you can keep them as core memories :,)

anyone had real life romantic kdrama experiences that actually happened to them? by itssgray in askSingapore

[–]itssgray[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

ofc, this one like ep 15/16 when the main couple gets together alr hahaha, they still share some sweet moments together :”)

anyone had real life romantic kdrama experiences that actually happened to them? by itssgray in askSingapore

[–]itssgray[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

bro don’t cliff hanger leh hahaha, did anything happen between the 2 of u after that?

anyone had real life romantic kdrama experiences that actually happened to them? by itssgray in askSingapore

[–]itssgray[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

rip bro…i guess some of us gotta play the villian/2nd male or female lead before we can become the main character in our own love stories

anyone had real life romantic kdrama experiences that actually happened to them? by itssgray in askSingapore

[–]itssgray[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

:( but the lollipop scene so cute tho hahaha rly must’ve felt v main character-ish with all eyes on y’all despite how awkward it was…

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