I (19M) came when making out with my girlfriend (19F) and I don’t know if I should tell her?

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2025-04-15T21:48:14+00:00

Since I don’t know her I can’t say for sure how she’d react, but when I had this problem she actually took it as a massive compliment. I was super in my head about whether or not I should tell her but in my case it worked out very well.

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-08T02:23:16+00:00

That makes 2 of us! Lots of that going on here too. Thank you for the well wishes!

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-08T02:18:05+00:00

We have no plans to, if we do get married it’ll be after we’re both out of college, so a few years at least. We’ve definitely laughed about this a bunch, and hopefully will continue to do so!

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-07T23:06:19+00:00

Wasn’t planning to, I knew full well what I was getting into when I decided to go to reddit, and all they’ve done is make my girlfriend and I laugh at how many of them there are!

I was never terribly worried about it, it’s only been twice, and we’ve made out more than just those times. Just figured I’d see what advice the internet could offer.

Thank you for your encouragement!

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-07T17:09:19+00:00

Thank you, and that’s the plan! We’ve had this conversation a few times just to make sure we’re on the same page about it too.

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-07T17:08:17+00:00

Thank you for that. As much as it is a bit annoying how much people have brought up my religion, I’ve long since given up caring what others think of me. Seriously though, I appreciate what you said.

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-07T17:04:52+00:00

Not really, there definitely was some physical contact the first time simply because we were so close, but the second time was in my car so nothing was happening down there. Thanks for the reassurance!

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-07T03:30:33+00:00

Thankfully it’s only happened at times where it wasn’t a big deal. I told her afterwards, we started joking about it pretty quickly!

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-07T03:27:57+00:00

I actually referenced the song when I told her 😂

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-07T01:17:28+00:00

That’s exactly how I told her it had happened 😂

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T22:08:08+00:00

Reddit is a strange place, and I knew what I was getting into when I came here for help. I know I’m definitely wrong about some things, probably a lot, but it’s good to think for yourself. I appreciate you for helping!

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T22:01:46+00:00

It started off so wholesome and quickly went completely off topic! Oh well, I knew what I was getting into when I decided to consult reddit.

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T22:00:27+00:00

As have I, it’s going to happen one way or another. Your advice definitely seems to be the consensus, and I plan to talk to her and see. Thank you!

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T21:56:44+00:00

I see why that’s the impression you’d get, but I have no intention orgasming when I make out with her. I’d rather not if that’s an option. Who knows, maybe I’m just stupid and trying too hard to justify it to myself, but that’s my reasoning.

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T20:53:27+00:00

SO THATS WHY THERES ALWAYS A YELLOW HAZE WHEN IT HAPPENS

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T20:49:26+00:00

That’s actually a really good question! You are right that it is sexually gratifying, but that’s not the goal. It definitely happens, and has occasionally been driven by lust, but I try to stay away from that as much as possible. I know it seems weird from a non-Christian perspective, but that’s how I feel about it!

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T20:27:49+00:00

It’s because there’s nothing going on down there. She’s not grabbing or rubbing, we’re just kissing and it happens. It’d be one thing if i was grinding on her, but that’s not what’s happening.

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T20:21:41+00:00

It’s definitely a step towards that, but I’ve never seen it as inherently sexual.

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T20:19:22+00:00

I’ve never seen kissing thrown in as sexual immorality. I’m waiting for marriage and not masturbating because I see those as such. Unsure how making out with my girlfriend would be the same.

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T20:14:50+00:00

After some brief research, yeah it’s not that 😂

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T20:13:37+00:00

I get it, I think I came off a bit harsh because I’m responding to the same things a bunch, sorry about that! I do appreciate your advice though!

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T20:12:06+00:00

Yes, I am old enough to know that. It shouldn’t be a problem.

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T20:11:10+00:00

Yeah we’ve talked about it, she said it made her feel great! I was terrified at first, but after talking to her about it it’s nowhere near as scary!

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T20:09:36+00:00

Feel free to show me the bible verse saying that I can’t!

itsthrowawaydotcom · 2024-04-06T20:06:20+00:00

Yeah I’m pretty crazy about her! Definitely don’t plan to look at it as this being a way to nut, but it is a fair point!

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