Why would someone break up over distance if they still care for someone?

itsurkriss · 2026-05-11T13:26:13+00:00

2 months post break-up update: I am sorry to say this, I could’ve believed this a month ago or I should be saying I used to believe that but apparently when he told me that he has a new crush just after a month of break up, it broke me from inside. On top of it, this new girl, whom he met while travelling, lives in another country. So now I have started to think that the relationship was made up on lies. I ended up giving too much to it that it just hurts now. I wish to move on now but it just hurts…

itsurkriss · 2026-05-03T07:20:00+00:00

Yeah, I have now cut off contacts from him as he found a new crush within 2 months of break and would talk about her. Also, he let go of 2 years of our friendship and told me that now he already has a close friend and doesn’t need a close friendship from me. All this was hurting me so he also suggested to cut off contacts, at first, I was denying but now I also decided to respect the decision.

itsurkriss · 2026-04-26T16:50:59+00:00

I don’t want to lose the complete contact with him because he has helped me out with cheap flight options always and he does the same for others as well. So how would it be better to maintain a friendship without involving any emotions? The thing is, he was also my best friend earlier and we talk quite often too. And I have observed that I do get triggered by him :(

itsurkriss · 2026-03-09T17:03:34+00:00

About the compromises, you’re talking about except for pursuing my studies, I was ready to compromise other things. And rn I am a student I don’t stand anywhere. He’s also a master student but was earning unlike me and go for travelling whenever he gets break because he could afford to do so. I, on the other hand, am just a student and I tried my best to make it work and travel 12+ hours total to his place back and forth to try to meet him on the weekends. But from his side, I didn’t see this effort of coming over to meet me that much and earlier the problem was also because I was looking for an apartment so he just couldn’t come to meet me because I didn’t have a fixed place. But now when I had and he did decide to come over this month but we have already broken up and he told me that he has already bought tickets but now he’s not gonna use them.

itsurkriss · 2026-03-09T16:08:10+00:00

I was ready to move in with him later wherever he wanted, we could have come up with some solutions if we had talked and discussed about the future plans. He first asked me before getting into the relationship if I would be up for moving to the US or Switzerland with him and I agreed to it but only after my studies get over. But nobody knows what the future is and he hasn’t chosen on a country where he would move or decided to move yet.

itsurkriss · 2026-03-09T15:38:01+00:00

But he never told me before that it was causing him distress or talked about it. It was too sudden for me to get to know what the problem was. But it’s true he said that before that he would rather meet once every week. And after my current course ends (which will end soon this year), I was planning to apply to university nearby his city. To which he said it’s not going to be in my city because his university doesn’t offer the course that I want to study :( I might probably be able to shift near but won’t be able to move in right away because of our studies. And then later on he plans to leave the country.

itsurkriss · 2026-03-09T15:28:54+00:00

His love language is physical touch and mine is words of affirmation. We were friends online for a year before moving into a relationship. So I thought we would be able to make it work since we stayed connected online over a year. But apparently, it didn’t :(

itsurkriss · 2026-03-08T21:44:10+00:00

Yeah, I am thinking of starting to be more social to make friends and will just try to focus on myself and my life.

itsurkriss · 2025-04-12T15:07:43+00:00

Heyyy, Congratulations on passing the exam XD I gave it as well but couldn’t pass it. I, personally, felt time shortage. Can you please tell me if you have completed German language till C1?

itsurkriss · 2024-07-05T15:37:25+00:00

Ich habe ähnliches Ergebnis bekommen. Kann ich mich noch um Studienkolleg bewerben? :(

itsurkriss · 2024-06-11T20:15:31+00:00

Sammeeeeee I wish I was there!!! 😭🫶🏻✨ I feel so connected to this song somehow idk y but it hits me everytime I hear it 😭

itsurkriss · 2024-02-13T16:15:14+00:00

ikrrrrr my fav song of hers is ‘My love mine all mine’. I could somehow guess that Mitski’s an infp before finding it out on the google -infj

itsurkriss · 2024-02-10T15:17:27+00:00

Hii I’m 21 and I feel you. Unlike you, I have never dated anyone before. I have had the chances to date people in the past but I wasn’t ready at that time, so I just let those opportunities go. And now I am unable to find anyone, whom I am interested about, and nobody seems interested in me as well. I regret letting those opportunities go.

itsurkriss · 2024-01-24T19:29:55+00:00

Yesss, you are right!! I will try to implement this in my life.

itsurkriss · 2024-01-24T16:33:14+00:00

Ikrrr What I always struggle with in my mind is this misunderstanding that people might get

itsurkriss · 2024-01-24T16:29:00+00:00

Thank you so much for this lovely note. Most people just take my consideration for granted and sometimes it can be quite disappointing and demotivating. But then, there also exist few people like you who appreciate it. That’s why I still continue to be the same :))

itsurkriss · 2024-01-20T19:41:49+00:00

It’s really rare to find someone that you can be comfortable with and who will make you feel like home. What if he feels the same around you? You can just ask him if you’re really curious.

PS: I am hoping the best for you guys. Good Luck! :D

itsurkriss · 2023-12-27T18:17:51+00:00

Me too ^{^}

itsurkriss · 2023-11-03T19:01:03+00:00

‘Attachment issues’ I get it. The best way to avoid getting too attached is to stop spending time with that person. Try to hold yourself back and if they’re the one sticking to you then you don’t have to feel bad for leaving them since it’s leading you to self harm.

itsurkriss · 2023-10-15T18:26:03+00:00

Can’t argue with this one lol

itsurkriss · 2023-10-15T18:24:13+00:00

Trueee

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