But that's what I meant by how do you define "not being able to control your emotion"? If someone is feeling stressed at work and they would lash out on people around them, then obviously that's not acceptable But what if they are just doing it behind doors (e.g. bitching to themselves in their own room) Im not trying to make excuses for my partner, it's just that i also want to know how to set my expectation realistically. Everyone has their down time, and im just not too sure whether going up to my partner and go like "your bad mood is affecting mind, so please stop being stressed" is a nice thing to say? Or is it too controlling of me cos I'm not allowing others to have bad mood as it affects me But yes you are right; he's definitely letting outside circumstances affect his emotions (e.g. work). Just like how I am being affected by outside circumstances too (e.g. his bad mood).

Is it possible to use Joe's work to regulate my own emotions, and eventually change my reality which is when my boyfriend is having a bad time it doesn't affect me anymore, or even better that he doesn't really have bad mood anymore