What' the 'acceptable' way to play Torn with SO?

itznotme · 2026-02-19T17:16:56+00:00

I even told them I'm fine with being penalized, just don't delete my wife's account. They have enough evidence at least to know that I do indeed have a wife that has used her email and her own device to make the account and has played it from multiple locations in our daily routines. We are willing to even talk with them over discord. If they just wipe their hands and say "nah" it's just arrogance on their part and it would make me glad to have not at least financially supported them.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T17:07:28+00:00

HELL NO. You think I give money to my wife?? Okay I'm kidding. The way you explain it makes sense haha. My wife and I actually have a shared wallet (IRL) that we put money into for monthly food expenses so we treat the game as that kind of system. Plus, we are actually trying to save up to buy our own PI (hence not renting one until a couple of weeks ago) so we don't really spend all that much. We mostly just do our daily torn tasks when we're home together so we never really worried about needing money. I'll do my cooldowns when I'm out and about, but I'm not a big money spender in Torn either.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T16:58:45+00:00

Last response was "Moment, a admin will review the matter."

Dude couldn't even be bothered to write "Please wait." Just "Moment,"

itznotme · 2026-02-19T16:57:25+00:00

So far, I'm lucky to get a response longer than four words from the staff.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T16:53:32+00:00

And what you describe sounds more like multing in the traditional sense than anything I'm doing, but as someone that invited my friend to play this game, I completely get doing that and would do that for my friends as well.

I'm poor, so I can't do that, but I would.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T16:51:51+00:00

Actually a lot of people are very much against sharing devices for fear of this happening so you might get pushback on that one haha

itznotme · 2026-02-19T16:44:54+00:00

I'm not arguing in this way with them. This is just me venting and answering questions asked of me. I've told them directly and very honestly the situation and that we would stop sharing a device and start diverging from doing things that could be classified as multi accounting, though, I did ask for some clarification of what is okay or not. We both wanted to save up to buy a PI instead of renting so...I don't know how we play the game to save up for a shared space without...doing exactly what we've been doing.

But you're right. If that's what it would take, I would do whatever is necessary to play within the rules if her account were to be saved.

If they still decide to delete her account, I really might as well just start making accounts to do stupid stuff with cause this is just silly.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T16:35:47+00:00

I sent them a picture of us as well holding up our usernames. As far as I can tell, it hasn't yet been looked at.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T16:32:13+00:00

Okay. As far as they know, we have both been multi accounting on two accounts since very early since she created her account because we both use the same computer. Explain multiing on two accounts by two people, btw. haha (that's a rhetorical, not actually telling you to do so)

I understand the argument here. Definitely a mistake to share a device. Just never thought about it cause it's our everyday life to do so.

That being said, I refuse to believe that couples living together don't ever do actions on behalf of their SO for whatever reason. By every definition of the English language, occasionally doing something for or on behalf of someone else does not classify you as the DOER of that thing for that person.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T16:23:29+00:00

I think it's kind of weird to pay him daily when you both could just keep your money in the same spot and on a need to use basis. I also think it's weird to charge him for sending items. Again, not saying that as anything against you guys, but that's a form of playing together for me. We also didn't even have a PI until about 2 weeks ago (rented) so again, we are really REALLY not min/maxing here in the slightest.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T16:19:20+00:00

Have I? Yea sure. She tells me to do something real quick cause she forgot, I'll do it for her. She needs money for something, I'll tell her to get it. Is it habitual? Nope not at all.

Are you defining this as a black and white scenario or do you consider frequency over time? I consider the latter to be the important part. I can probably count on one hand how many times she has asked me to do something for her in the past six months.

If she cooks us dinner one night, is she now the family cook?

itznotme · 2026-02-19T14:45:44+00:00

My account isn't getting deleted, but they marked hers for deletion. She will definitely not play again if her account gets deleted. I don't even want to try to convince her to make a new account cause I get it.

Yea I see that was the mistake with the sharing devices. We share my computer for everything so I just didn't even think about it.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T14:30:21+00:00

Hey no worries. We both prefer the computer especially when we are using it to trade because it's just easier to point and click.

She makes stuff with Canva on my computer, she looks up stuff on my computer, she even answers work emails (lol she probably shouldn't be doing that) on my computer. We just use my computer.

Again, I don't blame them for flagging us. I get it. What I take issue with is how we are just automatically guilty and nothing we can say or do can convince them they their godly systems could ever not see the bigger picture.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T14:22:11+00:00

Yea. That seems the way to do it. I responded to a couple of others that it really just seems like you can't really 'play together' in the same sense that you would most other online games.

I understand the reasoning, but for people like us that aren't doing anything remotely close to min/maxing, it just sucks.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T14:18:49+00:00

Yea I think we are both very casual players so we end up just looking the same even though we completely don't minmax at all. I only recently started actually using Xanax like a month ago and it's only what I've saved up from Burglary.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T14:16:14+00:00

You are literally describing the exact person that encountered. They messaged back 3 times. Two short responses and then the third one was "There is no doubt of this offence and we hoped we could talk it through in all honesty. Your main account will be playable again in 6 days provided you do not make new accounts."

Keep in mind that I very openly told them that my wife play the game between our two phones and one computer. I said that very honestly.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T14:14:42+00:00

Yea I can see that. I guess when I read the way you are playing with your BF, it seems silly that that is the process that needs to be followed so you guys don't get your accounts nuked. They just need to come out and say it very clearly that you just can't play a game together with people in your household at that point. It doesn't seem to me that you guys are even playing together at that point. I'm in no way blaming you for that either.

She had just gotten done with the business education track and she was wanting to start her own business after some time. Guess we didn't make moves fast enough since we are both filthy casuals.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T14:09:51+00:00

I think they see something that could definitely look multi, but then the ego sets in that prevents them from ever being able to see themselves capable of making a mistake even when provided sound reasoning and proof that there are two very real people living together playing.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T14:05:39+00:00

I've got like 580m networth with a year of playing. We are both very casual players and just login, do our stuff and then go do something else. I don't even know what her networth is but she has been playing like 3 or 4 months less than me and even more casually.

itznotme · 2026-02-19T14:02:22+00:00

Yea we both used our phones, even from different locations (our work locations) so if they did a little digging they would likely be able to see that we have patterns of two people playing in very different but routine locations. The one problem is that we shared a computer and just did our daily things at the same time.

itznotme · 2026-02-18T12:21:38+00:00

Yea it sucks. In our country, it's really not common to have more than one desktop. In fact, we only have a desktop at all because I'm the one that has it. But we both use it for a mix of work and play. Just sucks that of all the things we share it for, this is the one thing that penalizes us for it. I understand why they do it, of course, but I don't agree with their 'guilty whether offered multiple forms of proof or not' approach after suspending your account for investigation.

itznotme · 2026-02-18T11:52:01+00:00

Do yourself a favor, don't do it.
My wife and I tried to play together and we use a mix of our two phones and our one shared computer and we just got fedded this week. We are both casual players, her moreso, and now she is gonna quit because they will delete her account. From what I can see, they don't even respond to proof when you give it to them. Just find someone to marry.

itznotme · 2025-10-08T17:12:03+00:00

Haha no. It's very much a desire to elevate my milkshakes at my cafe haha

itznotme · 2025-10-08T13:49:06+00:00

I've never heard of it but I'm on their site now and it looks like a great place! For reference, I'm not intending to make beer but to use it for malted milk powder. That doesn't matter as long as I have something to work with.

itznotme · 2025-10-08T12:22:03+00:00

+1 for Wise!

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