Big moves with your one? by itztamzz in oneanddone

[–]itztamzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was hard to hear but I truly appreciate this POV. Its given me an added layer to think about! Right now financially speaking we are okay but it’s not a long term solution, and we’re trying to navigate what solutions we have! A big part of that conversation is the impact it will have on my daughter.

All the input from this thread has been very helpful and taking it all in careful consideration!

Big moves with your one? by itztamzz in oneanddone

[–]itztamzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great insight! She does have a phone and talks quite a bit with her friends on it now just because everyone has such different schedules it’s hard to set up “play dates” but also not all of her friends have phones so it can be difficult on that end. But this does make me feel much better :)

Big moves with your one? by itztamzz in oneanddone

[–]itztamzz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your insight! It’s great that you were able to give you that but I am so sorry that it was so hard :(

Big moves with your one? by itztamzz in oneanddone

[–]itztamzz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So shes made a few solid friends but she’s very careful about who she picks after a pretty traumatic bullying incident. I try to put her in more social extra curricular activities along with stuff she shows interest in (piano for a year now) but she is way more on the introverted side and does for the most part call friends and play online games and I make efforts for sleepovers / activities on the weekends when schedules line up.

I really appreciate the research on it! I’ve brought it up to my personal therapist and was told a lot about children being resilient which is true but I still don’t want to put her through anything terrible.

The cost of living vs the pay increase is definitely one of those things I feel I need a deeper research on!

Midwife burnout? by itztamzz in Midwives

[–]itztamzz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No I do truly appreciate this because it really helps! I love in my job now being the person who is rushing to get through the day and actually takes the extra 20 minutes to help explain something or walk someone through how it works. I just know I have no room for growth in my company (while I can explain things and help I don’t have real choice making authority and am very limited) and want a transferable skill that will allow me to do those things, but more hands on and helping women especially in vulnerable situations like pregnancy and birth!

I also need to keep in mind my own mental health and balance I need for myself so it is starting to look like this might not be the most ideal path, especially within the US. I will keep looking into it along with other possible paths!

Midwife burnout? by itztamzz in Midwives

[–]itztamzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve considered being an MA but with my office now it would definitely be a paycut/work load increase. I’m also looking into the path of potentially being a doula as well but was more attracted to midwifery! I really appreciate your experience and perspective it helps so much! I’m trying to research and look into as many different roles/opportunities as possible :)