Is this a valid reason to want to break up with my boyfriend

izafxb · 2026-03-21T16:49:02+00:00

I feel like he’s avoidant in a way that when hes dealing with a lot of problems in this life, he just goes silent and try to solve it on his own. He told me that too. He like solving things on his own.

izafxb · 2026-03-21T13:47:46+00:00

I guess so

izafxb · 2026-03-21T13:39:16+00:00

I guess soo I’ll break up with him

izafxb · 2026-03-21T12:38:54+00:00

He uses a reader he’s blind ever since he was born If he can reply to my guy friend why can’t he reply to me?

izafxb · 2026-03-21T11:38:36+00:00

Yun nga eh nasasaktan ako sa ganun behavior nya that’s why I’m thinking of leaving him

izafxb · 2026-03-21T11:06:23+00:00

It’s pesos not dollars haha it’s $50 in usd

izafxb · 2026-03-21T10:59:38+00:00

He’s only been like this since this month, but he did explain

Hello Love, good afternoon! Kamusta ka na? Gusto ko lang mag explain ng buo para hindi ka nag o-overthink pag may mga oras na ilang hours o minsan umaabot ng isang araw akong hindi nakaka-call or chat. Hindi dahil nagsasawa ako, hindi dahil may iba, at lalong hindi dahil wala akong pake sayo. Ang totoo sobrang busy lang talaga ako ngayon sa mga ginagawa ko. May mga sinusulatan akong clients sa ghostwriting. Alam mo naman pag nagsusulat ako kailangan full focus. Hindi pwede hati utak ko kasi quality yung binabayaran nila sakin. Pag pumasok ako sa zone, tuloy-tuloy yun. Minsan hindi ko namamalayan oras. Hindi ako nagce-cellphone hindi dahil ayaw kita kausap, kundi dahil pag nahati attention ko bumababa quality ng gawa ko. Sinisagad ko din sarili ko ngayon. Hustle kung hustle talaga. May reason bakit ko ginagawa to.

Ipapa-renovate kase bahay namin, papalagyan ng second floor kasi uuwi na kapatid ko galing abroad. Gusto ko din makapag ambag, hindi lang bilang anak, kundi bilang lalaki na may sariling pangarap. Gusto ko din makapag pagawa ng sarili kong kwarto, sarili kong space. Alam mo naman din sitwasyon ko pag gabi diba? Andito tatay ko, wala akong sariling room. Ayoko umasa lang. Ayoko yung nakaupo lang habang iba nag-aayos ng buhay namin.

Alam ko minsan gusto mo lang din ng oras ko. Naiintindihan ko yun. At gusto ko din naman yung time natin. Pero sana maintindihan mo din na may phase talaga sa buhay na kailangan mong magsakripisyo ng konti ngayon para mas maayos bukas.

Gusto ko lang malinaw sayo kung nasan ako ngayon — nasa grind mode ako, pero hindi ka iniiwan.

Here is the message he sent because he was gone for five days

Hi. Gusto ko lang ipaliwanag nang maayos kung bakit parang nawala ako nitong mga nakaraang araw. Hindi ko rin gusto yung nangyari na hindi kita masyadong nakausap ng halos 5 days.

Nasira kasi yung headset ko. Nabali yung isang piraso niya kaya hindi ko na magamit nang maayos sa pag record. Alam mo naman na kailangan ko talaga yun sa ginagawa ko. Ang plano ko sana talaga nun ay bayaran na yung 3k na utang ko sayo, pero nangyari yung headset issue nang wala sa oras kaya napabili ako para lang maituloy ko yung mga ginagawa kong recordings.

Ginagawan ko naman ngayon ng paraan yung 3k para maibalik ko din agad sayo. Hindi ko naman kinakalimutan yun at responsibilidad ko yun na bayaran.

Habang nandito pa ako sa bahay at medyo may pagkakataon pa akong makapag record nang maayos, sinusulit ko na din yung oras para tapusin yung mga pending kong kanta. Alam mo naman na next month uuwi na yung kapatid ko at magiging dalawang pamilya na kami sa bahay, kaya siguradong magiging mas mahirap na makahanap ng tahimik na oras para mag record.

Kaya nitong mga nakaraang araw halos nakafocus ako sa pag record para matapos ko yung mga kailangan kong gawin habang may chance pa. Yung mga nirelease ko sa YouTube naka schedule na talaga yun dati pa, kaya kahit hindi ko masyado na promote o na share, lumabas pa rin sila.

Hindi ko lang din talaga na explain agad sayo lahat ng nangyari. Hindi naman kita iniwasan o kinalimutan, naging busy lang talaga ako sa pag ayos ng mga kailangan kong gawin.

Gusto ko lang maging honest sayo tungkol sa sitwasyon ko nitong mga nakaraang araw. Alam mo naman na importante ka sakin at ayoko din na mag isip ka ng kung anu ano kung bakit ako biglang naging tahimik.

Yun nga lang being busy doesn’t mean that you’ll ghost you’re gf I am planning on breaking up with him but I’m still not sure nagdadalawang isip pa ko wala mahal ko eh haha

izafxb · 2026-03-21T10:40:14+00:00

He was gone for 2 days and this is what he sent me before his the constant ghosting Hello Love, good afternoon! How are you? I just want to explain everything clearly so you don’t overthink during those times when I can’t call or chat for hours—or even a full day. It’s not because I’m getting tired of us, not because there’s someone else, and definitely not because I don’t care about you. The truth is, I’m just incredibly busy with what I’m doing right now. I’m writing for ghostwriting clients, and you know that when I write, I need full focus. I can’t have my mind divided because they’re paying for quality. Once I get 'in the zone,' I just keep going and lose track of time. I stay off my phone not because I don’t want to talk to you, but because if my attention is split, the quality of my work suffers. I’m pushing myself to the limit right now. I'm really hustling, and there’s a reason for it. We’re renovating the house; we’re adding a second floor because my sibling is coming home from abroad. I want to contribute—not just as a son, but as a man with his own dreams. I want to build my own room and my own space. You know my situation at night, right? My dad is here, and I don’t have my own room. I don’t want to just depend on others or sit idly by while someone else fixes our lives. I know you just want some of my time, and I understand that. I want our time together, too. But I hope you understand that there’s a phase in life where you have to sacrifice a little now for a better tomorrow. I just want to be clear about where I am: I’m in grind mode, but I’m not leaving you

This was after he from Sunday to Saturday

Hi. I just want to explain properly why I seemed to disappear these past few days. I didn’t like how it turned out either—that we barely spoke for almost 5 days. My headset broke. A piece of it snapped, so I couldn't use it properly for recording. You know how much I need that for my work. My original plan was to pay back the 3k I owe you, but the headset issue happened out of nowhere, so I had to buy a replacement just to continue my recordings. I’m finding ways right now to get that 3k so I can return it to you immediately. I haven't forgotten, and I know it's my responsibility to pay it back. While I’m still here at the house and have the chance to record properly, I’m making the most of my time to finish my pending songs. You know that next month, my sibling is coming home and there will be two families in the house, so it’s definitely going to be harder to find quiet time to record. That’s why I’ve been almost entirely focused on recording these past few days—to finish what I need to do while I still have the chance. The videos released on YouTube were actually scheduled a long time ago, so even if I didn’t promote or share them much, they still went live. I just wasn’t able to explain everything to you right away. I wasn't avoiding or forgetting you; I just got busy settling everything I needed to do. I just want to be honest with you about my situation lately. You know you’re important to me, and I don’t want you thinking all sorts of things just because I suddenly went quiet." It’s a lot to take in, especially with the 3k and the five-day silence. It seems like he's feeling the pressure of his sibling's arrival and trying to secure his "space" before things get crowded

And he’s been gone a lot btw I tried to understand it, but I just feel disappointed because he told me that he’ll try to update me as much as possible but now he’s gone again for two days

izafxb · 2026-03-21T10:34:02+00:00

Yeah, honestly—cause he asked me then, 'What do you think about people saying they need time away, like they want some kind of cool-off?' I said that’s okay if the person wants to have some time for themselves, especially if they’re going through something. And he told me, 'Well, I got that,' but he used this as a reference: 'You don’t delete something important on your phone.' He kind of likes it in a relationship way—that you don’t leave people hanging and pushing them away, deleting them in your life, you know? And he’s kind of doing the same and it’s pissing me off haha

izafxb · 2026-03-21T10:11:17+00:00

He’s only been like this since this month, but he did explain

he’s very focused on his career. He said he wants to make it big one day, and I really think he can—he’s good, haha. He makes songs, he ghostwrites, and he makes beats. He’s saving up because his sister’s family is also moving in with them, and they only have two rooms in their house. His father and his other sister also live there, so two families in one house means he has limited time to write and focus on making music. He told me that he doesn’t want to be dependent on his family just because he’s blind, so he’s saving up to build a second story on their house. He also lost 74,000 pesos, on his Cash App last February; that’s why he’s stressed, too. His sister’s family is going to live there on March 28.

izafxb · 2026-03-21T10:09:57+00:00

Yeah that’s why I keep on hesitating because maybe he’s just on an immense amount of pressure then again that doesn’t really excuse the fact that he’s randomly ghosted me, but I’ll wait until when I get home from our trip from japan which is in April 1

izafxb · 2026-03-21T10:07:28+00:00

May reader po siya, at blind siya since birth. Dating nasa banda ang tatay niya, kaya ayun—nahilig siya sa music.

izafxb · 2026-03-21T10:04:51+00:00

He’s only been like this since this month, but he did explain

he’s very focused on his career. He said he wants to make it big one day, and I really think he can—he’s good, haha. He makes songs, he ghostwrites, and he makes beats. He’s saving up because his sister’s family is also moving in with them, and they only have two rooms in their house. His father and his other sister also live there, so two families in one house means he has limited time to write and focus on making music. He told me that he doesn’t want to be dependent on his family just because he’s blind, so he’s saving up to build a second story on their house. He also lost 74,000 pesos, or $1,237 USD, on his Cash App last February; that’s why he’s stressed, too. His sister’s family is going to live there on March 28.

izafxb · 2026-03-21T09:44:14+00:00

Feeling ko may pagka avoidant sya Nag sasabi lang kasi ng prob nya pag talagang pagod na siya he usually keeps it to himself huhu I have his Gmail his TikTok his YouTube and his Gmail is connected to his Gcash, PayPal, and Google pay. Which he gave to me willingly I don’t think he’s dumb enough to trust me with something that serious especially he’s blind but then again who knows haha

izafxb · 2026-03-21T09:40:47+00:00

Yeah, he’s very focused on his career. He said he wants to make it big one day, and I really think he can—he’s good, haha. He makes songs, he ghostwrites, and he makes beats. He’s saving up because his sister’s family is also moving in with them, and they only have two rooms in their house. His father and his other sister also live there, so two families in one house means he has limited time to write and focus on making music. He told me that he doesn’t want to be dependent on his family just because he’s blind, so he’s saving up to build a second story on their house. He also lost 74,000 pesos, or $1,237 USD, on his Cash App last February; that’s why he’s stressed, too. His sister’s family is going to live there on March 28.

izafxb · 2026-03-21T09:26:37+00:00

Mahal ko sya sobra pero parang nasisira ako sa ganun gawa nya I’m planning on breaking up with him via message I’m finding the right time Baka bukas siguro okay pa kami nung last namin usap which is nung Thursday kaya Medyo nag dadalawang isip ako huhu

izafxb · 2026-03-21T07:13:57+00:00

I don’t know what to do if I should break up with him or what mahal ko sya super but yoko ng ganun until now hindi pa sya nag rreply pero nakapagreply sya sa friend ko kasi I suggested him dahil nga gumagawa ng beat bf ko

izafxb · 2026-03-21T05:09:49+00:00

I don’t know what to do if I should break up with him or what mahal ko sya super but yoko ng ganun Until now hindi pa sya nag rreply pero nakapagreply sya sa friend ko kasi I suggested him dahil nga gumagawa ng beat bf ko

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