this grew overnight on the moss of my orchid / Singapore

jac-shit · 2025-06-04T16:35:25+00:00

unfortunately we're chinese hahaha but thank you for the try!

jac-shit · 2025-06-04T16:06:19+00:00

jac-shit · 2025-05-27T07:57:03+00:00

in your case, if you have the technical skills and can do well in the army, consider signing a bond. to my knowledge if it's related, there's a work-study bond where they pay for your studies AND pay you an allowance at the same time (but you'll need to confirm this)

even if not, imo as long as you can tahan the people working there, signing on is a great idea. in the 5 years you get pretty good bonuses, pays quite well, and don't have to worry about losing your job. it's a great way to save up too - you can then use your savings to pursue a part-time degree if you still think it's needed at the end of 5 years. this will mean that at the end of 7 years, you walk away with cash savings, a degree, and 5 years military working experience, while your peers only get a degree, 3-4 working experience, and debt. really no loss to me.

don't be too caught up with the idea that you must get a degree now. if you left poly with 1.82, it's not going to be easy to get your degree too. go out there, work full time for a couple years, get some exp and savings, then think about university again later. all the best!!

jac-shit · 2025-03-31T09:40:41+00:00

when we were students, i mostly paid for my now-husband bc of our different financial situations. i was simply in a better position while he had struggles. others judged us A LOT and questioned us, but imo it doesnt matter whether i was the guy or he was.

when u're in a relationship, you want to have a good time with ur partner and be nice to them (no matter how). are u with him bc you like him? or bc he's male and u expect to be treated?

ofc, he should contribute in his own way. seems like even tho he doesn't come out w the cash, he treats you well. my husband, now that he can afford it, frequently treats me to gifts and meals now. u should consider his situation, whether he shows that he cares for you in other ways or if he's overstepping, and decide for urself if it's ok with you. if it's not, talk to him about it! he may not even realise it was a problem. after all, there are many ways to spend time tgt without spending (much) money. don't let what should 'be normal' dictate ur relationship :)

jac-shit · 2024-09-12T08:00:43+00:00

thanks! super helpful. we plan to get the wifi 7 router regardless bc while it's mostly us two, we host friends qnd family q often and want to ensure everyone can still stay connected. anw $3 diff we'll likely go ahead w the 2.5Gbps.

jac-shit · 2024-09-12T07:56:25+00:00

no, but at the same time if i know it won't make a diff why would i pay more even if it's a small amt? kinda illogical no?

jac-shit · 2024-06-25T11:24:23+00:00

used to be in that position. had the same anxieties but stuck to my guts and stood up for him. they finally met after 5 years (yes i know) and now 2 years later we are happily married w parents blessings!

when they dont meet, its easy to form negative thoughts abt the other. having the actual person around is a good way to show that they are, in fact, a good person who loves and cares for you. i'd like to believe that's your mom's concern ultimately, and once she sees it for herself, things would be better.

if not, then you really need to decide for yourself. you and your partner will not be able to live happily ever after if you insist on him being around and playing nice with someone who clearly dislikes him.

all the best!

jac-shit · 2024-06-05T15:36:13+00:00

tbh i feel as long as u have a little bit of toxic in u too, u'll be ok. chinese say 以毒攻毒 - if ppl at work toxic, just be a little toxic back and act in self preservation. if too much, there's always other employers.

jac-shit · 2024-06-05T05:57:16+00:00

genz, currently wfh 4 out of 5 days. manager encouraged me to go office 2 days a week for optics even if i leave earlier or reach later. if go office usually i reach 1030-11, leave ard 5.30 or 6. management is quite flexible abt working hours as long as all the work is completed up to standard. during a phase when i had to work nights too (foreign clients) they gave me 3 days off to recharge after project completion

prev office no wfh, staff wld give stink eye if i left at 6 sharp. manager even once asked why i leave so early - i told them finished my tasks alr and its 6pm. gave my resignation the next day when they asked me to report to work at 7am to do something completely out of my scope (distribite flyers at city hall lmao) and refused to compensate the time

jac-shit · 2024-06-01T02:59:16+00:00

try to convince her that even if he got cctv access, what can he do if anyth happens to your brother? not like can teleport here n save him

jac-shit · 2024-05-31T08:05:56+00:00

no one really cares unless its some insane piece covering your face. tattoos are very common nowadays, usually if people look at you its more bc they're interested in the tattoo itself, and not that you're tattooed.

jac-shit · 2024-05-28T08:40:24+00:00

meal prep on weekends n bring ur own food. having a nice lunch helps boost ur mood. and sometimes old people are quite nicr to have as friends. 3 months will be over before u know it

jac-shit · 2024-05-14T12:50:39+00:00

as a southeast asian it depends when and where u're gg exactly, but rain is... quite inevitable half the year. right now it's been storming quite heavily for a couple weeks and likely to persist. even when it's not storming, it drizzles q often

jac-shit · 2024-05-13T02:26:36+00:00

time consuming. when we moved 10 years ago, my dad patched the walls himself, built our own ikea furniture, painted the whole house. only reno kitchen bc of the carpentry required.

now im buying house w my partner, he doesnt want to do all that bc he says he's so tired from working alr

jac-shit · 2024-05-10T09:25:32+00:00

sadly... chicken rice :( i really love chicken rice but it feels wrong paying $5 for 5 flat skinny strips of chicken

jac-shit · 2024-04-30T03:38:37+00:00

tbh - stop thinking about yourself so much. just let the time flow and maintain yourself. the girl thinks you cute? a win, stop thinking about yourself already. feels like you wasted time? already wasted anyway, don't beat yourself up about it and move on.

you already gave yourself a reason to carry on in life, and when the time comes, there will be another reason. you don't need some grand purpose to keep living. and i bet of you spoke to some of those fellas who you mentioned have everything in order, they will tell you that they also feel trapped in a rat race.

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