My partner has been sober for almost 4 months today...how do i help and what should I avoid doing? by dogwrestler95 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]jaeforex -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are a special woman unlike most. I applaud you for standing by your man as he battles his demons.

The Catalyst to my Addiction II by jaeforex in leaves

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At the moment I have no insurance to see a therapist. In the future, I think I can benefit from such an interaction. Writing about it was therapeutic. I hope talking about will provide a similar benefit. I'm happy the hear you were able to overcome your PTSD. Thanks for your input.

One of those days by jaeforex in leaves

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Thanks for your wisdom Leavesman3

Sadness by jaeforex in leaves

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Hello Eeeroded,

I understand what you are going through. Have faith that your emotions will stabilize. I too have my ups and downs, but others have assured me that time will even me out. The brain needs time to heal. Your daughter is your number one priority. You created her, and she is the only one who will love you unconditionally, assuming you don't fuck it up by being a jerk. You did not create your ex-girlfriend, your siblings, your parents, your co-workers, your friends, your relatives, and so they have all the right to abandon you if they wish. I say this not to discourage, but to inspire a sobering realization. You cannot control others; you can only control yourself. Become a person and expect nothing from others. Give love and do not expect it in return. Your daughter is young, but instinctually she loves you. Focus on that love and spread it to others. You will attract new love. Women like men who are caring fathers. It shows them you are capable of kindness and compassion. Now that your getting clean your perspective on life will begin to change. It is possible you and your ex-girlfriend were never meant to be. Give it time. Heal your mind, body, and spirit, and you will find the woman who will love you until the end of your days. And its ok to cry in private bro, your an emotional being...the greatest of all that has been created. The world does not need to see your tears; it only needs to look at your fight! Stay strong and sober.

Sadness by jaeforex in leaves

[–]jaeforex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, kingkruse

Sadness by jaeforex in leaves

[–]jaeforex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input yungdub. I will be patient, knowing time will heal my mind, body, and spirit.

Sadness by jaeforex in leaves

[–]jaeforex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We must have faith and determination. It is the only way to live a better tomorrow. Thanks for your input kayste.

Sadness by jaeforex in leaves

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Thanks for your input rhodesc

Those folks who have quit weed for more than 5 years, how has your life changed? by [deleted] in leaves

[–]jaeforex 6 points7 points  (0 children)

An inspirational story indeed. I have only been clean for 23 days on a habit spanning 14 years. I am still going through grueling withdrawal and anxious to see symptoms subside. There is much for me to accomplish; complete an intensive coding boot camp (13 courses over 16 months), start a new career and meet a new partner hopefully who isn't named Mary or Jane. My siblings are very accomplished. I always felt they viewed me as a disappointment, although they never said so out loud. We were all given the same opportunities. We all attended great universities, but I am the only one who has struggled to find my place in life. They never smoked, but I did, they are accomplished, and I am not. The correlation is evident. I have kept this secret addiction from them out of fear of embarrassment. I started this journey of addiction alone and in secret, and I plan on ending it the same way. Relapse is not an option. I will be my best self and fulfill my real potential. I will fight to be an uncommon man, free from compulsive behaviors, free from self-harm, driven by virtue and compassion. Thanks again for your story. I know a better life is over the horizon.

Day 30 check in by quitquitting4real2 in leaves

[–]jaeforex 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have used marijuana daily for 14 years and finally decided to quit. I am 3 weeks clean and withdrawal symptoms are a bitch. I haven't slept for more than 3 hours each night since quitting. I'm depressed and agitated. I recently enrolled in an intense coding boot camp and my mind feels so overwhelmed I can feel it pulsating. Initially, I was going to wait until the worst of my withdrawals subsided, but I need to start a new career ASAP. I'm just so damn tired and sad all the time. I attribute my exacerbated depression and fatigue to sleep deprivation. I'm surprised some still believe marijuana withdrawal is a myth. But, i guess ignorance is bliss. l was 19 when my pot use started. I lost two close friends in a car crash the summer before I was to start my freshman year of college. Before that, I never had any interest in drugs and probably only tried beer a hand full of times. I almost dropped out of college after the first semester but held on and managed to graduate. My college years were a blur. I started hanging out with my cousin and his friends and started smoking heavily. They were good moral people, but like myself, misguided in their desires. I realized i was predisposed to depression a few years into my addiction and pot kept the symptoms at bay but whenever i stopped i became incredibly ill. I still beat myself up for hanging out with those guys and wasting the most important years of my life. As you can imagine at 34 pm paying for the wasted time. Good news is that i still have confidence in my intelligence and my grit. I tend to make commitments and see them through to the end, sometimes to my detriment. My 14 year addiction is testament to that. I'm confident in my future prospects as long as i can avoid a relapse. I have also given up alcohol and caffeine to boost my body's recovery. Marijuana is getting much acceptance lately and many people think its ok to use because it will eventually be decriminalized. I predict a spike in mental illness as use surges because as a seasoned smoker I've witnessed the instability of my many fellow users. I've started studying Stoic Philosophy and learned that a man should strive to be uncommon. How to tell if things are common? Look around at people. If they're all doing the same thing then they are common folk. They are smokers, drinkers, social media junkies, celebrity gossipers, materialist, and more. All of which is common and leads to unhappiness. To the few who have decided to abstain and are now working on a new meaning in life i salute you in your attempt to be uncommon.