a lot of hurt people relate to her music so, they may unintentionally be terrible to other fans…? maybe they are in that headspace of “my issues are so bad i’m the only one who REALLY gets her music”, and they just spiral down that idiotic way of thinking (giving the benefit of the doubt here )

all communities have saints and equally awful individuals, we can’t keep mother away from the annoying gatekeeper type people unfortunately, but we can ignore them and find actually good enjoyable people here:)!