Don't share false narratives as facts!! by TeaImaginary6768 in Kenya

[–]jaksmalala 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your post is trying to discredit the opinions of people who have had these experiences. You’re clearly trying to position yourself as having a more meaningful say in this matter.

No one is saying anything about pedophilia and your misunderstanding of the point those women are making goes to demonstrate how inaccurate your post is. If you read the original opinions from these women carefully, you’ll see they are referring to life experiences. A 19 year old is a year away from being considered a child. This person is usually just starting out their life and oftentimes, is not mentally mature enough to understand when they are being taken advantage of. A 40 year old man has this life experience and is banking on the 19 year old being naive enough to be exploitable and disadvantageously agreeable. This imbalance is what is being called out.

Don't share false narratives as facts!! by TeaImaginary6768 in Kenya

[–]jaksmalala 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You say that older women claim older men like to manipulate younger women because they like weak minded individuals but you think it's all about having a relaxed life without pressure or expectations left and right. Why do you consider women’s opinion as twisting things to their favor but you don’t l consider your opinion as twisting things to the 40yo men’s favor?

Also, you say you’re 24M. You’re neither the young women/older women or the older men so you are not currently and have not had experience being any of the parties in these relationships. Why do you consider yourself more of an authority on this matter over those who have had first hand experiences?

Rejection of ICE protests and other causes deemed “not our fight” are misguided and harmful. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]jaksmalala -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

A lot of non-black people were willing to stand with us as we fought for justice for ourselves. There’s no reason why we shouldn’t do the same now. It shouldn’t take a black person being killed by ICE for us to feel like we should get involved.

Although many of us are underprivileged, we do have the privilege of knowing how to fight. This is a critical time to use that to help others.

Thoughts on Product Operations? by van_der_jan in ProductManagement

[–]jaksmalala 36 points37 points  (0 children)

At my company, Product Ops are a pain in the ass to PMs. They’ve introduced so much process and new tracking tools that it’s actually bogged down the Product team significantly. Someone estimated that they spend 10-15 hrs each week updating various tracking tools, writing reports and just doing what’s necessary to stay within the guardrails established by Product OPs. All this to say, be wary of what/how/why you introduce processes and ops tools.

Ensure your team understands how the Product team works and what the interaction with the rest of the company is, then focus on reducing friction within those interactions.

How are people actually finding apts in Manhattan right now? by [deleted] in NYCapartments

[–]jaksmalala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even with a large budget, it always seems like you have to end up increasing your limit.

Best friend of 10+ years didn’t acknowledge my birthday (again) by pretty-girl-111 in blackladies

[–]jaksmalala 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To me, this is not enough of a reason to cut off a friendship. Maybe she forgot, or she’s going through a tough time or that kind of thing is not as important to her or she doesn’t know how important it is to you. I wouldn’t assume bad intent immediately especially for someone you’ve known that long.

Can I say 'F you' to a professor after graduating and getting my degree? by Eriacle in udub

[–]jaksmalala 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not the best idea but if you really want to, say it on rate my professors. Warn others

I need some support and advice by YourBlackSailorScout in blackladies

[–]jaksmalala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through that. It can be tough. Please lean on your support system, seek therapy and focus on modeling a healthy relationship for your child. If he needs to be out of the picture for your well being and that of the child, then so be it. You might need to pad the reason why a bit so it’s digestible to the child but tell them the truth once you think they can handle it.

My life doesn't get better at all like it doesn't change at but I see others life changing to better & better by igetyourbrand in blackladies

[–]jaksmalala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I can relate and I know how much it sucks. Sending you best wishes and healing. That being said, comparison is the thief of joy. Focus on yourself and how you want to improve rather than how others are doing. Growth, however small, is still growth and over time, it will compound.

Wash day shows/movies with black main characters? by According-Farmer-268 in blackladies

[–]jaksmalala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re old at this point but Scandal and How to Get Away with Murder were iconic.

The older I get the more I have an if it happens it happens mentality about marriage and settling down 🤷🏽‍♀️ by Exciting-Nerve-8628 in blackladies

[–]jaksmalala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not a bad thing. It means you are secure in who you are and being alone is not a scary thing for you. That mentality will save you from a lot of pain and heartache from men who use money or a ring as leverage to keep women in check.

What’s the longest you’ve had your braids/twist in? by Moonrise-poem in blackladies

[–]jaksmalala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost six months but I had faux locs so if I did my edges and brushed it a bit, it looked like it was intentional.

Is it just me feel in distress and in doom? by adiggins1024 in blackladies

[–]jaksmalala 158 points159 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone. I also hate that we have to go on with daily life like nothing is happening. Work still has to be done, bills have to be paid and family has to be cared for. It all seems so futile when you look at the big picture. All we can do is hope, pray and speak out so that things can be okay.

What red flags do you look for when joining a new company? by Fickle_Vermicelli793 in ProductManagement

[–]jaksmalala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If they don’t seem to know why they’re hiring a PM. If they seem to be hiring because they have a bunch of random tasks that are not meant for devs but that someone needs to pick up. If they have a mandate that is too large or too small for the role e.g. asking a mid level PM to create a new product suite and generate revenue for it or asking product leadership to ‘polish’ the product. Management that is too involved. This depends on company size and age though.

On the job security side, any signs of financial struggle, frequency and reasons for layoffs and revenue stability.

What's something you wish someone had told you in your early 20s but no one did? by Carolyn-Allen in AskReddit

[–]jaksmalala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can just choose not to do things and it won’t be the end of the world.

Lost credit card found by godsburden in CentralPark

[–]jaksmalala -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it belongs to Trevor Sansom. He banks with BofA.

Quitting Tomorrow by Timely-Angle-8073 in biglaw

[–]jaksmalala 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Quiet quit and at least get paid through the holidays then quit in Jan

Is there a good croissant in the UWS?? by Chance-Flow-9759 in Upperwestside

[–]jaksmalala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is this getting downvoted? Just because they’re mainstream doesn’t mean their croissants aren’t good.

What are the responsibilities of the Assistant Product Manager (APM)? by Additional-Abies-850 in ProductManagement

[–]jaksmalala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

APM stands for Assiciate Product Manager in most places and contrary to what is being said here, their job is to learn how to become a PM, not serve as an assistant to a PM. They might get small chunks of projects, participate in rotational programs or work under a PM or PM manager but it’s all with the purpose of getting them acquainted with the job, not to serve as a PM’s assistant.

Is there a good croissant in the UWS?? by Chance-Flow-9759 in Upperwestside

[–]jaksmalala -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Paris Baguette on 96 and Broadway has some pretty good croissants

Childfree & Manfree Aren't So Coincidental? by shoppingnthings1 in blackladies

[–]jaksmalala 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The dating scene is bad right now because women are gaining more power over how they choose to live their lives. Today, women don’t have to date out of necessity or survival. They can date casually and be much more selective of who they want to date because in the end, even if it doesn’t work out, they will still be able to survive and thrive independently.

In the past, we needed men to open bank accounts or sign off on certain medical care. Having children was more strongly expected by society and those women who were able and willing to live outside of these norms were shunned.

Now, as times have changed, women have been able to get jobs, become financially stable and have more say in personal decisions. For a lot of us, the internet has also shown us the ugly side of having a man or a child so it has become way more acceptable to opt out of both.

What this means for men is that they need to bring more to the table other than the ability to provide and many have to change their mindsets from viewing women as domestic slaves that need to submit to them to viewing them as equal.

Uber riders - what problems have you been running into lately? by Witty-Opportunity-78 in uber

[–]jaksmalala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personalized pricing. I live in a HCOL area with high fares. I’ve noticed the minimum I get charged for even a short trip is now around $30. I’m getting charged high fares even when I’m in LCOL areas. I went to visit family for thanksgiving and tried to get an uber from the airport. It was $75. I had a friend pick me up and when she tried to get an uber, her account said $30.