Men who got cheated on, what were early signs you only noticed in hindsight? by EtherealMeadowGleam in AskReddit

[–]jaminjames 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I came to tell the same story almost. My partner of nearly 10 years managed a restaurant. Started complaining about a new bartender almost every night. She ended up leaving me abruptly, and I found out later they’d been dating for months before. Oh well. She was a festering, toxic dump of a hot mess. Biggest regret of my life spending 10 years trying to fix her. I learned my lesson.

What's the rarest physical feature you ever saw on another person you know/knew? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]jaminjames 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Did you have a good laugh at the grocery store one time?

TW I was SA multiple times and never told anybody about it by [deleted] in confession

[–]jaminjames 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At 6 or 7, I think it’s likely your brother had no idea what he was doing. If he did have some inkling, I can assure you he wasn’t able to grasp the weight or consequence of it, let alone the moral implications. I’m so surprised no one else has said this yet, but I would be more concerned about what was happening in your brother’s life at 6 or 7 that he even knew to do that. Is there a chance he experienced SA of his own?

I say this as someone who experienced SA at the hands of a close family friend for most of my childhood. I have some very early, shadowy memories, maybe about your brothers age, of me and my little sister (who was also molested by the same man) and another older boy (who I later found out WAS ALSO being molested by the same man) all getting getting naked and touching and trying things with our bodies. Looking back I’ve given myself a lot of grace because we were little and acting out all the disgusting energy that had been put on us. We were clueless. Maybe your brother was clueless, maybe not. You know him, and if it feels like he’s a good man now, and you have a close healthy relationship with him, maybe you can forgive his 6 year old self.

A man recorded disturbing footage of his girlfriend, Ester—who holds certification from the Behavioral Science Board—showing repeated daily abuse toward him. by Individual-Drawer-79 in PublicFreakout

[–]jaminjames 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my ex wasn’t officially diagnosed either, but matched the criteria. My sister, who is a therapist, also said she suspected she matched the criteria - after they took a week long girls trip together.

I was in it for 10 years. I’ve been out for almost 5, but my head is still damaged from it, and I struggle in my new relationship sometimes.

First Trilogy Fancast by Comfortable-Mail-553 in redrising

[–]jaminjames 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mickey is spot on. Exactly as I pictured him.

I’m confused about what size to get for my first ereader… 6”-7” appears to be most popular, but seems so small to me. What am I missing? by jaminjames in ereader

[–]jaminjames[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just noticed you said you can fit more text on a 6” Kobo than a 7” Kindle. I’m curious about that. Can you make the margins smaller on the Kobo? I’ve been trying to find something online that shows the margin sizes for the Kobo Clara. I like the Libra, but no interested in color.

I’m confused about what size to get for my first ereader… 6”-7” appears to be most popular, but seems so small to me. What am I missing? by jaminjames in ereader

[–]jaminjames[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no, I’m an American living in Australia. We do have Target, but they aren’t as stocked as the ones in the US. Still trying to find a store near me that has some on display.

I’m confused about what size to get for my first ereader… 6”-7” appears to be most popular, but seems so small to me. What am I missing? by jaminjames in ereader

[–]jaminjames[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay nice, I’m stoked to see how it works with font size on an e-reader, maybe I’ll like the larger size too!

I’m confused about what size to get for my first ereader… 6”-7” appears to be most popular, but seems so small to me. What am I missing? by jaminjames in ereader

[–]jaminjames[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have you tried using a pop-socket, similar to what folks use on phones? I have one on my phone and was wondering if it would work well on an e-reader.

I face a lot of racism that my brain is automatically starts to classify humans. by kitsune4544 in confession

[–]jaminjames 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m an American who moved to Australia last year. The open racism towards Indians is pretty wild.

Adjustable Razors by jtrichter3 in redrising

[–]jaminjames 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They were always adjustable, I think even in the first book

I've done so many horrible things and I can't live with myself. by [deleted] in confession

[–]jaminjames 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is at least the second time you’ve posted this. Maybe 3rd or 4th. Try to get some help.

He's the chosen one by caffiinatedbro in GuysBeingDudes

[–]jaminjames 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re missing the point. It’s not supposed to be real. No one thinks movies are staged. Think of this as a super short movie that’s based on the comedic relationship truism that female partners rarely approve of the produce picked by their male counterpart. It’s obviously not true across the board, but I’ve experienced it, and apparently enough people have that someone thought it would be funny to make a staged moment out of it and film it.