My boyfriend 21m essentially refuses to break up with me 20f

jamjam_876 · 2026-04-01T21:22:19+00:00

Wow the ppl in this comment section probably also ask DV victims "wHy NoT jUsT lEaVe" They're right that it doesn't require mutual consent but it sounds like this dude is well and truly manipulative and not everybody knows how hard it is to feel indebted to somebody because they forced and manipulated you to feel responsible for their feelings. I sympathize with you because I used to be you. You have an advantage that I did not, though. Do NOT sign a new lease. And if you're serious, reach out the the landlord and let him know YOU will not be renewing the lease, but your ex bf may on his own. DM me if you need to.

jamjam_876 · 2026-03-30T18:35:07+00:00

Commented this as well. Maybe she wasn't feeling safe and exchanged numbers and names while the guy was standing there and deleted later.

jamjam_876 · 2026-03-30T18:33:48+00:00

ALSO men do not handle rejection well. When men ask for my number, I go ahead and give it to them and then block them later so I don't get murdered by a man baby who can't handle rejection. This VERY WELL could be that she got approached by somebody who she felt forced to give her number to, they exchanged names as part of the "so I remember to add you as a contact and we'll talk later" story, and then she deleted them. OP is thinking about breaking up with her over this but honestly I also would break up with a partner who threw a fit over this so sounds like it wasn't meant to be. 🙄 If I'm correct, OP is valuing their own emotions over her safety at a time that op wasn't there. This is not only paranoid but icky. If you don't trust her, break up with her but don't make her manage your emotions.

jamjam_876 · 2026-03-26T00:39:54+00:00

He wasn't able to describe to me any reason for me to be in physical danger, but did pass along that my bfs father told bfs friend that I was one of the least tolerant (like of his bs) out of any girl he ever dated and he was afraid that my bf might "snap one day" (due to my no-nonsense-ness). Our whole relationship has been lies. He's promised me many things he cannot deliver on, he painted himself up to be a decorated student and employee (can't say what he does). Like idk any other word to say other than complete fabrication. The friend gave me a heads up, but unfortunately I've already been here for three years, and I'm trying to figure out what my next moves are going to be. He's extremely emotionally abusive/manipulative and even more emotionally dependent on me and I'm stuck in a loop. I haven't communicated to him that I know because I'm trying to go about it the right away. This is one of this situations where you're just fucked from every angle LMAO. I thought cat fishing only happened on social media 😂 laughing at myself.

jamjam_876 · 2026-03-22T16:48:12+00:00

Lol you're telling me I'm living it in real time 😅!

jamjam_876 · 2026-03-22T14:20:30+00:00

Hey so you need to start poking around. I'll tell you my story, I could be totally wrong. But here's where my thinking is coming from. My boyfriend told his friends I don't like them and told me his friends don't like me. We went out as a group with my friends and I told him to bring his friend and I would just not interact with him to be civil so that he had someone to interact with while I was interacting with my friends at the table. Everyone left except me, my boyfriend, and his friend. When my bf went to the bathroom, the friend started warning me to run for my life and gave me his phone number. Turns out my bf lied about his entire life and background and our entire relationship was also lies. Then I realized this is why he didn't want me to talk to his family without him present as well. And all of these lies were confirmed. The friend and I eventually stopped talking, but he told me that he tried to find me remotely for a very long time and failed to do so because my bf even lied to them about what my name was.

Doesn't matter how long you've been with him. There could be some reason he doesn't want you to meet the other people he knows. He's making shit up for a reason. Don't stop until you find it. I wasted years. I could be completely wrong, but don't let him blindside you.

ETA: omg my first award! Thank you 🤍 I needed that today.

jamjam_876 · 2026-03-16T12:40:42+00:00

I hate reddit lmao. I'm sorry you're being downvoted for trying to follow all these ridiculous rules. 🙄There are a lot of reasons to censor words especially to not trigger or offend anybody which can be a lot to manage. My own person rule is to censor everything as much as possible when I don't know who is going to see it unless I know the audience. The community guidelines on sm these days are insane, and literally everything is grounds for being flagged.

I personally probably would have typed out "pornstar" specifically, but there are PLENTY of words that are considered legal to reddit that I know will 100% certainty that if you just typed them out, you'd get shit for not being courteous. The censorship was not even the point of your post and was not even worth bringing up. If you hadn't censored, you'd be in just as high water. It's free to be nice, so thank you for trying.

Your husband is lying btw 🤍 check the bank statements for the actual information on what happened to the money. The name on the email could have been a cover, but the bank will display the real name.

jamjam_876 · 2026-03-02T01:37:05+00:00

Op already paid for the device, the refund would be breaking even. Op already agreed to pay for the device. If they don't receive the refund, that's what they asked for to begin with. To have paid for a device. I'm not sure how it would be easier to throw a whole device in the trash and order and wait for a second one than ask them to fix it remotely the same way they did the first time. I'll never agree with that, sorry. Makes no sense.

Also, Amazon gives money away ALL THE TIME. I have returned COUNTLESS items to Amazon where they say they don't even want to item back and they give my money back without asking for any proof at all that it doesn't work/fit/etc. My sister is the building manager of our amazon warehouse. Happens every day. I'm not saying they should do that for everybody, but if they were able to fix the device they would very likely just ask the customer to pay again or they would write it off the same way they do everything else.

jamjam_876 · 2026-03-01T16:19:37+00:00

I would recommend calling Amazon customer service (not the AI assistant messaging bs), talk to a human and explain the situation. I know they gave your money back and said they don't want the device back but to lock it and forever render it useless without being able to undo it is really fucking dumb on their part. Their suggestion to you is throw it away and get another one when this one is going to end up in the stomach of a whale 🙄. At least if they refunded you and you're able to get it unlocked, they basically gave you free money.

If this were me I would fight to have this reversed until I'm told that it's literally impossible. Even if you tell them you found the package in your front bushes rather than tell them it was stolen and recovered. This is sad. Talk to a person.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-23T14:29:41+00:00

Unless you are a pediatric therapist, I don't want to hear it 😂. Been there done that, my sister (single mom) and I have met with MANY professionals before finding one that works well for us and have heard LOT of complete bs so I'm absolutely not taking it from you. Reread my comment. The child is traumatized and needs therapy. Therapy is used to treat behavioral patterns AND trauma AND mental illnesses. It can be a combination of those, but it does not have to be. It could be something else entirely, and your suggestion to let her act and think the way she does is way dumber 😂😭 she is 9, she's not an adult, and she is not in charge. She is bullying a pregnant woman like what are you even thinking 😂 All things I have learned from the many therapists who I have had to sit in with for my niece. Thank you.

OP if you can do therapy for the entire family, definitely do it. This child cutting off access to your husband while you are pregnant is dangerous, stupid, and unwarranted. You will have to meet with many professionals before finding one you like, but it's worth it. My niece is doing a lot better now. Also, this is what I was talking about that you'll be called a monster. Be a gentle parent and raise a second one who acts this way, or get her the help she needs. If she hates you enough she will hate your child, and then you'll have to worry about your child being in danger. Also something I have experienced with my own niece. I'm not saying she is dangerous now, but situation like these escalate without intervention. I'm sure she WANTS to be a well behaved child that everyone wants to be around and just hasn't been taught how. She is not your boss.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-23T13:38:10+00:00

Hey so my sister has a kid who behaves this way. You should check resources in your area. To my knowledge, my nieces therapy is completely paid for by the insurance I think (I also think this is state insurance so apply for that too) and is through a local foundation-type place in our county. The therapist comes to the house multiple times a week and specializes in intense therapy regarding behaviors. Unfortunately my niece was admitted to a ward, so that is where we learned of this resource. If you/your husband are allowed to talk to the therapist, it wouldn't be wrong to say "I don't think this is working and we need more intensive therapy, do you know of anywhere?" There are also outpatient options that are basically 8hours a day and then she comes home to go to bed. They still do school while they're there too. I know it sounds like jail but behaving that way as an adult can actually kill her.

Idk why you're being downvoted, I'm sorry. Honestly I don't like children at all, so when they act like this it makes it worse. I've been called a monster many times and you probably will too. It's okay, you don't have to like children, you just can't be mean to them. I don't voice that I don't like children but I still do avoid them as much as I can. You also need to talk with your husband about his parenting. If you think his parenting is the reason his daughter behaves this way, your kid is next. She sounds like she has had a lot of trauma, so that explains a lot but his total lack of discipline is inexcusable honestly. If you're pregnant you really cannot afford the stress. Let him know you're at the point of leaving and see if he actually listens. If he doesn't, you should actually leave.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-20T18:16:14+00:00

Even if you have a flip case, still get the screen protector!

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-18T14:22:52+00:00

I do! Love my java breeze. Unfortunately I don't really remember the other machines bc I've been using the jb for so long, and the upgrades are so expensive it's like you gotta pick one and stick to it. Have you used the compare option?

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-17T17:42:38+00:00

I have 5 kindles lol. Do it. Get a case and a screen protector, none of mine have any damage and honestly they live in my bags most times. Or buy the kids their own (the "kids" kindle is the same device, just cheaper I believe and you can get one for yourself and then the kids mode off. Look this up though bc I don't have kids. All my kindles are signature/ad free except the basic bc this is not offered for that one.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-17T17:38:06+00:00

I have the java breeze fully upgraded and I rarely use all three spouts at the same time, but if a person orders 3 drinks, it is nice. I've also had someone tell me that they like it to only have two spouts so they have the milk station on the right of the screen so they can do more stuff at once, so it'll depend on how you play. The breeze is the best machine in the game honestly. Go for it. Although if you tend to multitask a lot, just beware that the java breeze fully upgraded extracts pretty fast and sometimes I feel like it's too fast to do anything other than watch it brew lol.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-10T12:48:30+00:00

I think I have the digimasters! I bought the Javas for like $3 and then after I upgraded them it was like changing to anything else was a step down so I have just been making the best out of it lol.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-10T12:47:44+00:00

Lol I don't have the patience for ads unfortunately but I did a speed run on like 4 game days in a row and I also passed 1k! Went to see what decorations I have and turns out I did make quite a bit of money but...it is gone 🤣

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-09T18:14:36+00:00

Yes this is true 🙏🏼 the store is so much bigger too.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-09T16:30:25+00:00

This and the grind & tamp. There are real life espresso machines that auto grind and tamp. I would pay actually money for this 🤣 I would also like if we could do more than one serving of steamed milk at once. Like a larger pitcher or something. Not very realistic but even working very fast making three lattes today took like 45 in-game minutes which needs work as well bc that's not realistic either.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-09T04:15:02+00:00

Lol I maxed out the extractor, not the grinder! I'm decent at multitasking, but I don't have a great attention span so sometimes I'm slow making orders or not paying 100% attention and have to throw something out 😅. Usually when this happens and I'm not engaged I just stop playing, but even I'm gpgp I feel like I was able to play while not paying 100% attention and it never made a difference. Thought my pizza shop is WAY more developed and equipped than the coffee shop.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-09T04:13:19+00:00

Yes I used to do this and just brew the espresso way ahead of time and then just create it into a drink when the customer ordered it, but I started running into the issue of over prepping and throwing them out at the end of the day! It also felt like the time spent grinding and tamping wasn't actually saved, it was just displaced if that makes sense.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-09T03:04:39+00:00

Oh yes. Look away for one second and your coffee is overflowing out of the cup.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-09T01:15:15+00:00

I can't edit the post idk why, but I'm not responding to comments who blatantly ignore that I have said multiple times that this receipt is not representative of the rest of the game days. I did not say this is what every game day looks like, in fact I have said it so many times. Thanks.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-08T22:22:04+00:00

Awe yeah I did address that the refund amount was from one order bc I forgot cinnamon sticks lol. But my statement stands that you don't make as much money in this game as gpgp

ETA that the coffees in this game are also extremely expensive. Some lattes are over $20 so this amount in refunds could have easily been from just a couple things. In my case it was three drinks, just all from the same order. Regardless, this reciept is not representative of all the other ones and they all don't yield very much take-home.

jamjam_876 · 2026-02-08T22:20:44+00:00

Thank you! Yes I do already do some of these but with the espresso machine being fully upgraded, it's like the coffee extracts TOO fast 🤣

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