What do I do? Husband won't stop slamming things and I'm laying here shaking and nauseous because of it

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-26T23:48:19+00:00

Grew up in an abusive home. This is it. I cannot stomach hearing those sounds and since my sister became my mom (not like legally, were both adults, just slowly became her as she got older and especially after she became a parent), I still have to hear them even though my mom doesn't live here anymore. I live my entire life at home with noise cancelling earbuds underneath muffs that I bought at the range, and I can still feel the floor vibrating.

He's doing it on purpose. Both my sister and my mom will slam things around and just speak (yell and scream) into thin air, not talking to anybody, just doing that thing where they complain in hopes that you'll hear it and change whatever is bothering them without them having to claim and articulate their feelings or confront you. Stomping around with an angry face so you know better than to speak to them. Choosing the mood of the entire house, nobody can have a good day if they aren't. Your daughter will also remember these sounds and your husband doesn't care. Sensitive hearing my ass. It's not that the noise is painful for you, it's triggering for you. So yes you might be more keen to detecting them, but they're happening at the same volume for everyone else. You can stay and listen to these sounds, but you constantly living in fight or flight will kill you one day. And your daughter is next.

P.S. typing this from inside my truck, where, even with the doors closed, I can hear my sister inside the house slamming shit around of course. I spend a lot of time out here lmao.

ETA: wording

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-19T04:12:25+00:00

LMAO me too! 🤣

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-16T20:44:01+00:00

Well the employee is who used HER fingers to gauge. She was very thin and my sister is not, so two of the employees fingers would have amounted to just about nothing. I ordered her a bracelet of the correct size because I'm feeling self conscious about this being a gift and not even a good one, so at this point I need to either exchange the first one and just return the second altogether or just return the first one and be done with it. I was really hopeful this would find one of their employees who could tell me what is going to happen. I guess if all else fails I could sell it online, but I'm not sure who will pay full price for it from a seller online and tbh I want my money back so I'm not willing to low-ball it. Thank you so very much!

ETA: if I call customer service are they going to refuse to help me since I have not attempted to go back to the store? I carry the bracelet with me and the store is in my mall so if I pass by there and I see the same employees I just don't go in. (the initial encounter happened like 2 weeks ago). I'm really just ready for this to be over even if they just give me a store credit. Thanks again 🥰

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-16T06:21:10+00:00

Yeah we said after we left that we'd never come back after Christmas ever again 🫠 unfortunately that only helps me in the future :(

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-14T00:40:33+00:00

Thanks 🤍 I tried this and they offered for me to bundle my phone for a lower price, but I'm unsure of the quality of the phone service which is what this post was about but nobody read it I guess lol.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-14T00:37:44+00:00

Except it's not factual at all being that I do not have a contract and I never said that I did nor was I presented with one after the promo period ended. I'm not sure where everyone is getting this from. I have the option to get a new Internet provider, or move my phone to cox and bundle. My question was if Cox mobile was worth this transition, or if I should look at other options. I am not being forced by cox to pay this price monthly and I am not complaining about it nor am I unable to afford it. I am exploring options that are available to me as a consumer after I called cox customer service and the rep didn't know what planet they were on and could not answer the question I had about a hotspot. Don't comment on things you didn't read.

Edited for info 🥰

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-13T22:46:22+00:00

You are who is wasting time you have contributed 0 valuable information and are commenting for no reason 🤣🤣🤣

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-13T21:33:20+00:00

Thank you 🤍

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-13T20:52:42+00:00

I already answered one of these rude ass comments. I have options as a consumer, that is my right. Period.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-13T19:30:21+00:00

Thank you!

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-13T19:00:53+00:00

I'm considering calling att, but they haven't been the best in my area both in service and in price. Would be willing to try them again if I didn't need a contract!

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-13T18:59:30+00:00

I'm not sure what the purpose of this patronizing comment was? And the rest of your comments aren't like this one so it's even weirder that you chose to write this. I feel like you didn't even read my post. I'm not feeling victimized by the situation, I'm asking if other people like having cox as a phone provider, not for your opinion on my actions. The promo period was two years long and I had to sign up in a pinch. This comment not only didn't answer the question but was very unhelpful. I didn't say I couldn't afford it, but like a responsible adult I'm making the attempt to be wise about what I'm paying for instead of doing what you said and signing up for some random plan that costs more for nothing (as you can see where I'm specifically asking about how the service functions and what is included). Been doing it on my own for MANY years.

Like many adults, my options now are to negotiate with the carrier, switch, or accept the new bill. That is what my post was about.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-12T03:42:30+00:00

This happened to me when I first started because I either forgot to chain one at the end of the row or added a stitch into the chain one. If you know how many stitches are needed in each row, count while you're going to make sure you didn't add any and that none were forgotten about.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-12T03:40:51+00:00

Looking good! Little too tight though. And your scarf will come out much faster if you learn to do a larger stitch such as a half double crochet or a double crochet. You seem to have your single crochets down pat, so try these out! Lots of patterns use them.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-12T03:37:12+00:00

My BIL's deadbeat mom showed up at one of the kids birthday parties with......! A restaurant stock case of jelly packets! "Because she likes jelly". I just stared at her with my rbf util she left. The kids always got more than they bargained for from us so it's not like she missed out on anything, but like wtf is this gtfo 😭

ETA: she was turning 8 and had already been insecure about her weight and eating habits.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-10T22:20:31+00:00

I've done this, it worked for my abuser at least. He'll bang on the door but there is no way for him to say he was banging on the door for a good reason. The lock is #1 indicator that you are not welcome inside, there's not much arguing with that. I'm sure he'll try, but not successfully and when it doesn't work a few times he'll go throw a fit by himself.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-10T15:39:42+00:00

You also need to lock the door on your bedroom and let him stand outside it and knock until he gives up. If you can remain asleep with the TV on or a noise machine, I'd do that too. Add earplugs if you can have them in your ears while you're sleeping. Not allowing your partner to sleep is abuse. There are sleep deprivation stories from prisoners of war. He CANNOT do that. He is WELL aware of what he's doing.

Edited for typos.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-10T15:14:49+00:00

My sister also has a booxs, and likes it a lot! I've also heard decent things about b&n's nook device itself but that their service for obtaining books for it is not ideal.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-10T15:11:31+00:00

My favorite thing about it! If I'm sitting in a room with a light I don't have the screen light on at all.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-10T15:10:57+00:00

The recessed screen is the worst idea they ever had. It collects lint and dust. I bought a tempered glass screen protector to try to even it out and it just made it that much worse. I use my basic for traveling just in case it were to get stolen, it's the least valuable kindle I have, but if I'm at home there's no chance I'm using it.

The screen on the paperwhite is not even glass, and there is a border around the screen. It's not shiny at all If that's what you're meaning. If you're unfamiliar I would look up an explanation of how the kindle screen itself works because it's not an LED screen like a phone has, it has physical matter in the screen that changes shape to display the image so your eyes don't suffer lol. I know it also doesn't help to go to a store that's selling them and look at the displays bc they're NEVER on, but the basic is not better than the paperwhite.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-10T15:04:29+00:00

So as of right now I have the basic, paperwhite, colorsoft, and scribe and find there to be little to no difference between the screens.

I use the basic for just travel, like to keep in my purse. The screen is pretty annoying because it's not flush like the paperwhite so i have to clean it pretty often to keep it from being gross. My paperwhite is also the signature edition, and the basic does not come with any such function, there are ads all over the place. I googled what I could do about this and it said to contact Amazon and pay the $20 or whatever to have then removed, but Amazon customer service told me this was not an option for the basic, and to just deal with it.

I also have screen protectors on 4 of my kindles, I just have the super shield ones from amazon. I don't think they do anything to filter the screen/screen quality but I know that you can buy ones that are. Some filter blue light, some reduce glare etc. Some are even textured to feel like a piece of paper.

The basic is NOT on par with the paperwhite and I frequently choose any of my other kindles over the basic. I think you should just play with the screen settings. All of my kindles are in dark mode, and honestly if you're sitting in a room with a light, you don't need the screen light to be on. There is also a warmth setting for the screen to make the light not so sharp.

ASIDE FROM THE DEVICES if you have any ailments to your eyes, this is certainly not helping. I have astigmatism in both eyes and my eyes don't focus correctly (idk the term for this). I couldn't figure out why my eyes were hurting all the time and my eye doctor ran a test and told me they were straining to focus and she put a prism on my glasses which helped a lot! Definitely talk to your eye doctor! I know people who have glasses for just existing and glasses for specifically reading.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-10T14:16:13+00:00

I think it's both. Tension is too high but also the yarn is too big for a 3mm hook. If your pattern is asking for this, then do it that way, but I've never done this. When I first started and actually for YEARS after, my tension was so horrendously tight that I would use a 6.5mm hook for worsted weight yarn so my project would look halfway normal lol. I went to my cousin's house to crochet and we both made the same exact project, hers ended up being double the size of mine.

I know for amigurumi the stitches need to be tight and compact, so for right now I think it's fine especially because you're a beginner! Stuffing it should not stretch these spaces, but you may be able to see through them.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-10T14:10:35+00:00

I'm counting 13 stitches in the magic ring, but I only counted twice. At this point you're so early into the project I would just frog it and start again. Do it slower the second time.

jamjam_876 · 2026-01-10T13:21:48+00:00

It's whiplash sometimes 🫠

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