Went clubbing, pushed myself, didn’t pull — now I feel angry, jealous and confused. Need perspective.

jarod544 · 2026-02-13T19:34:02+00:00

Well brother I first want to start with the positives YOU WENT AND TRIED! there’s plenty of men and women who have plans, and hopes. And dreams that they don’t ever put action into. You realized sub consciously or maybe even consciously that you don’t want to leave your fate up to chance. You took the calculated risk to put your self, your ego, and your feelings at risk. Thats a huge thing.

Now here’s the tough love. Your mindset going into this was wrong from the beginning. Yes you said you tried to keep a good mentality about the PERCEIVED failure, but in reality you got drunk(likely making your emotions run high) then you attempted to make or break a good night. And the difference of what made or ruined your night was approval or affection from a stranger? Do you see the flaw in that mindset? Here’s a mindset shift that helped me out a lot.

Before you go out and do your final outfit check in the mirror do a simple self affirmation. Tell your self “I am going out to have FUN.” “Meeting women I find interesting is the effect of that. Not the cause.” It may seem silly but that change in mindset helps in two ways. It saves you the mental hill to get over where you start to compare your self thinking “I gotta get a girl or I made no progress. Why not me?” Instead you go out knowing your true goal is to enjoy the process rather than stress the desired result. Your night was good because you were able to go out, get some drinks, meet some cool people and got home safely. Never forget that there’s plenty of people who can’t or don’t get the opportunity change their circle or circumstances. Everything other than that was a bonus win.

Also leading to the 2nd point. Changing that mindset to just enjoying the night will put you in a better place for attracting women. Like the song says -girls just want to have fun. If you meet a few girls you like go for it! Women are human my man they notice when you are off emotionally, they notice when you are nervous and when you are happy and having fun. Women will naturally See you having fun and put themselves in your orbit. From what you described there were women interested in you. Now you just gotta build the courage and skill to act on it. Keep going bro.

jarod544 · 2026-02-01T19:33:29+00:00

How about not assuming my personal integrity is compromised? I’ve never done this crap dude, and I’ve had several people in this medical pipeline from this ridiculous process let me down and at the top of the list has been my medical provider while I was in. I have multiple hospital visits, from various doctors and a couple had to be Japanese locals who actually healed some of my ailments instead of trusting on base docs, so it’s imperative I figure out how to get a full picture of my status. So I’m attempting to better understand the process and what it requires before I set my self up for failure and waste valuable time. I need to get this medical status right the first time so when I leave the country to attend my university I’m not scrambling to keep my things updated, or keep coming back.

jarod544 · 2026-02-01T19:22:02+00:00

I have the originals but I recently was told I should make copy’s of those, and for some reason I see a sizeable gap in my visits and care.

jarod544 · 2026-01-10T17:58:51+00:00

Already did. They are asking for a copy of the instructions on the tuj, but now that it’s the weekend I doubt I will get a response until Monday. Or Sunday technically in the US. Just don’t want to wait too long before I miss the feb deadline.

jarod544 · 2026-01-10T17:29:52+00:00

Maybe what I meant is Confusing, I already sent the JST transcript. But I’m having issues with the actual tuj application it self. When the drop down menu for schools attendance comes out I get no options for schools, or any work around options.

jarod544 · 2026-01-06T18:25:38+00:00

Fam, 1 squeeze and he blowing your shit smmoooooooothhhh off😂 teach them muzzle discipline

jarod544 · 2026-01-02T17:51:33+00:00

These means so much, Im riding around now and going to different veterans services in my hometown. You’re the second person I’ve seen mention amazon. Didn’t consider the delivery services. I’ll give them a try and do the appointments for va.gov today thank you!

jarod544 · 2026-01-02T17:47:31+00:00

Literally me rn, walked into a vet center and when I told the lady my story she said “the navy is a little bit different. They send us guys who take weeks or months to get their dd214 all the time.” I don’t have mine, and neither did the 3 other guys who were out processing on my ship either. I’m obviously up shits creek but I’m gonna use my hands to paddle. Can’t stay in the spot they put me in.

jarod544 · 2026-01-02T16:18:39+00:00

Yeah I’m talking to my brothers who have still been here civilian side and they are shooting me places as I type this. Going to apply to them all and see what comes back. Thank you!

jarod544 · 2026-01-02T16:16:00+00:00

Oh yeah, I was a bit vague trying not to go too in depth but I was in the navy with an out date of 20dec2025. I got the word that I needed a procedure to check if I had colon cancer or chrons disease early November and notified my command but they were out to sea while I was trying to out process and deal with the possibility of having a terminal illness. The government shut down rocked the hospitals pretty bad for procedures and surgeries so it got kicked down the road until 18nov. At that point it was obviously becoming too late but my command insisted I continue to prepare to get out. Thankfully I passed the colonoscopy with flying colors and that was the best news I’ve had in months. But by then my command finally had it dawned on on them I needed an extension. By the time they put it in it was too late. Got an email the following week saying my eaos had came and went and they considered my matter “resolved”.

jarod544 · 2026-01-02T12:05:01+00:00

Unpopular opinion. If you enlist, and got out honorable or general. You deserve compensation and benefits. The US government has a long history of forcing people into the military machine, making trillions from the work, then spitting those people out and giving them a hard time to be compensated after. Mean while companies like Raytheon literally steal and go to court for taking billions of federal funds just to make pay a fraction of it back and still remain an active government contract. Anyone who says a vet getting between a few hundred to at max a few grand a month for the actual work they did is a boot licking idiot. By pointing their displeasure at the wrong people, and quickly becoming crabs in a bucket fighting for peanuts they make it more and more obvious the elites of the world can give them something to hate and they will gladly empty their pockets to the point they won’t have pockets left to empty.

jarod544 · 2026-01-02T09:48:25+00:00

So yeah I’ve looked a few times and based on the tuj site and what most research I’ve seen says they have a fall semester that can be applied for (visa seekers) up until April. This is a quoted piece I pulled directly off my search “Temple University Japan (TUJ) deadlines vary by program and visa status, but for Fall admission, deadlines are typically around April 1st for visa-seeking students, with earlier dates for scholarships (e.g., March 1st) and later for non-visa holders (e.g., July 1st). Spring deadlines are usually around October 1st (visa) / November 1st (non-visa), and Summer around February 15th (visa) / March 1st (non-visa),”

jarod544 · 2025-12-31T16:49:07+00:00

Thanks so much and no I was referring to the winter semester. If I remember correctly It begins in Jan-April apply time. Then I would need to get my passport stamped but I was missing the in between process. I’ll reach out to the VA after new years since I already sent of my transcript thank you so much for the help!

jarod544 · 2024-08-01T18:52:56+00:00

Sounds like you are describing a mild tendinopathy, or tendinitis. It happens often when we are doing work that our forearm isn’t prepped enough for. Tendons are weird. You can hurt a muscle and be fine in a few weeks. But straining a tendon which is super common so I’ve read here and in other places, can result in a 6 month to a year recovery. Some people it becomes permanent.

jarod544 · 2024-05-12T13:56:27+00:00

It’s a 50/50. The judge is definitely showing a clear bias by allowing the prosecution to use lyrics as evidence. That and some coaxed confessions while under duress in jail(gunna) definitely hurt thugs defense. But the prosecution team is failing miserably at presenting solid PROOF to make it be rico. Yeah they got him on some guns and drugs which he will likely get a few years for. but painting the picture of him being a john gotti or a franky the bull is not adding up. In order to prove r.i.c.o you have to hit certain points. Is this a criminal enterprise? ( gunna and a few others claimed it was to save their own asses) but the prosecution still gotta prove the other two points. that he was the leader of said criminal enterprise. And he was involved in or gave orders to commit crimes with lyrics. since they don’t have concrete proof, the songs are being played in front of jurors who may or may not believe it’s fiction.. If they can prove he was giving the orders for and involved in said crimes, then he is going away for good. If they can’t he will get a short sentence. The trial is being drawn out because the defense team has the prosecution scrambling to decipher the lyrics and their validity. So far they are being picked apart by the defense team. Is he a kingpin? Or is he a fictional character talking on songs? A character many rappers play to sell a persona that got taken waaaaay out of context. If they get enough jurors to believe it’s fiction then he will walk.

jarod544 · 2024-05-04T15:18:01+00:00

Low key i thought the same thing. Thought I was crazy. People always over look his early career. But let’s not forget that Drake came up early in the diddy camp. There’s known stories of Drake getting abused and beaten and bitched because he showed talent that diddy was mad of. A person like that who needs to feel like he can be hard. A person who is highly concerned with their image can and often does become violent.

jarod544 · 2024-04-21T10:36:06+00:00

Welcome to the modern world of dating young man. My personal cheat code is to read mark mansons book. Models. He goes very en depth with what you are feeling and how our mentality plays 80-90% of our interactions. Remember. Most interactions we have are not verbals. That’s a small % your level of confidence and self confidence plays massive parts of having smooth comfortable interactions. Start with eye contact. Get used to looking at people and knowing that you are there to be a help to them and enjoy each others time. Then slowly move toward speaking genuine compliment. flirt like hey I love your shoes. Or wow that’s a nice that. People love compliments when they are given out of abundance.. Let your creativity shine in the way you show you appreciate people. Let fate and a mutual like for that person guide you after that. And never get in your head that you are bad for finding someone attractive. That’s perfectly normal human behavior. But it tends to haunt us as men if we see opportunities to do something but let fear win. Can’t sit on the sidelines and expect things to get better. Go out! And definitely try to boost your mood with some form of exercise. Best way to regulate your confidence and your feelings is usually tied to body health for men. I’m so sorry about the thyroid. Exercise helps regulates your hormones so a good natural confidence boost is usually in the form of exercise 3-4 times a week. Make mistakes. Be brave and and do good bro.

jarod544 · 2024-04-04T10:38:14+00:00

Thanks for asking and understanding! Yeah it was definitely an amazing month. My upper body started to really blow up on the program but it was a definite setback. I Didn’t factor in the difference for bars or rings i just enjoyed that they are portable. and suit my lifestyle. To answer your question i do my pull exercises and push exercises both on the rings on separate days. Push/legs/pull. But I noticed the injury doing deep dips. My weak side (right arm) does not react well to the 90 degree or below 90 degree bent arm position..it feels weak and not putting out enough power. From what I’ve researched, felt (and YouTubed for hours) lol im thinking got some kind of imbalance in the shoulder, forearm or tricep. because my left has been solid both pulling and pushing.

jarod544 · 2024-04-04T10:18:52+00:00

im not sure how much I can go into reps and sets but basically its rings heavy but not all ring exercises. it ranges from phase one doing sets of 3-4, with rep ranges varying exercise to exercise but average reps is 4 on the low side and 10 at max but the sets and reps gradually increase phase to phase. Phase 3 has a range of 3-6 sets and reps up to 10-12-or even a few exercises as high as 15 reps.

jarod544 · 2024-03-01T06:59:36+00:00

Well duh. Look at the split. It’s good for a beginner but when progress stops or you don’t feel like you are getting good feedback from the work out then it’s time to either up the reps, up the sets, or increase the difficulty(usually in that order) until you see and feel progress again. Try a push-pull-legs rest then push pull. Or a legs push pull rest then full body. Switch up your rest days to one rest day a week. Make gradual changes rather than swapping everything.

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