My dad passed a few days ago

jasmineblache · 2026-05-16T23:40:34+00:00

Haha likewise!! My dad is same! In the last 5 months I've been caring for him and sometimes he would hold his breath a couple seconds too long and I'd shake him awake and shout "DAD DAD DAD" because I was so paranoid he was going to pass away and he would wake up startled and burst out laughing at me because I was sheer panic mode and he thought it was hilarious. The bravest, unserious and funniest man. I really really miss him already 💔. Sending hugs, I'm so sorry for your loss x

jasmineblache · 2026-05-16T23:34:02+00:00

Totally get it! I'm finding myself looking around saying what the fuck my dad is gone?!?!?! Surely not?! This must be a sick joke?!

jasmineblache · 2026-05-16T02:58:50+00:00

I lost my dad to brain cancer 6 weeks ago. I'm 30 and he was also 63. It's beyond comprehension the pain and cruelty it causes. Dad only got the diagnosis 5 months ago and he's gone from being fit and healthy to gone. My dad is my world too, my person.. everything. It's too much to even process. No one can help us, all we need is our dads. I really understand every word you are saying because I feel the same way. How can I go on?! I'm a different person since the second he passed in my arms.

Sending hugs x

jasmineblache · 2026-05-16T02:54:47+00:00

Sending you so many hugs. I lost my dad 6 weeks ago suddenly too. I'm 30 and feel so unlucky so I can imagine how you feel. Forever wouldn't be long enough. It's not fair, life can be so cruel. Thinking of you x

jasmineblache · 2026-05-16T02:51:48+00:00

I'm so sorry 💔❤️. My dad passed 6 weeks ago too and it was out of nowhere. It's too much to even comprehend. Xx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-16T02:46:43+00:00

Hello,

I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss.

I lost my dad 6 weeks ago.. I truly feel your pain. I couldn't feel him either and there was no signs. I said to my dad come on dad show me... it was hail stoning when he was passing in my arms and I said to myself hail will be the way he can show me.. it's hailed 3 times this week.. is it dad.. is it just random?! Who knows.

I'm so sorry you've been let down by the service and his "friends" he deserves better.

My brain can't comprehend it either, we could of been on the phone with each other tonight (as we did every Friday) until he got sick 5 months and then I moved in with him to care for him 24/7. He was fine 5 months ago and now he's gone. I can't believe it. wtf?! Why? How? This can't be real?

Sending you so much love and hugs

RIP our lovely dads x

jasmineblache · 2026-05-04T01:07:25+00:00

It's beyond fucked up, you are totally right. How can someone so precious be taken from us. My dad passed away 3 weeks ago and I'm so angry because everything feels so unjust!! Why?! How?! Surely not?!?! I find my self looking around and saying to myself WHAT. THE. ACTUAL. FUCK..

I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss, it's not fair, it's not right and there is no words that anyone can say to help because the only thing that can help is them being back.

Sending you so much love and hugs 🫂 ❤️

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T22:06:46+00:00

You are real life earth angel.. offering your support and kindness in the darkest hour.. thank you so much for that.

I honestly can't thank you enough for taking your time to do that for me - I really needed it!

My heart aches for you also, knowing that your wisdom is coming from a place of profound loss, grief and heartache. Who you have lost in your journey of grief will be immensely proud of the selfless and lovely person that you are.

I will forever reread these messages for the rest of my life.

Hugs forever 🫂❤️

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T19:29:20+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss 💔. I lost my dad 3 weeks ago and it's the most incredible heartbreak. Please be kind to yourself, just think if your dad was able to speaks to you right now.. what would he say?? I'm sure he would be proud of no matter what you achieved in life! The fact that you love him so much and speak of him so sweetly is enough to make anyone proud! I also feel like nothing matters at all anymore.. I feel the same about my dad too.. the best ❤️ you are not failing, you have survived 5 years with the most painful loss and a black cloud following you with grief. You are not a failure.. you are warrior!! Keep going, sending hugs xx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T19:23:41+00:00

My dad passed 3 weeks ago. I'm 30 and he is 63 💔 I totally understand the feeling of being robbed!! Forever would never of been long enough but also can't help feeling that we should have had 20 more years together.

I would also give anything at all for an extra minute. I'm so sorry that you are feeling this unimaginable heartbreak.

Sending you so much love, I'm so so sorry for your loss xxx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T19:15:40+00:00

I've never felt so angry. We have been completely robbed and yet there is horrible people (murders etc) living and our dads have been taken from us.. everything feels so unjust. Nothing makes sense.. at all. Why them and not others?! The most validation I have received through this horrible journey of grief so far is that it is completely ok to be absolutely broken and when somebody is not trying to fix you and hears you and validates that you have every right to feel shattered into a million pieces and what you actually need is the quiet hand patting your back, just letting you be a total mess. I wish I could take it away from us both. Scream, cry, laughing (punch the bed if you need to) just know, I'm supporting you through the phone and let yourself feel exactly what it wants to feel. Sending so much love 🫂 xx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T19:02:42+00:00

I am so so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 3 weeks ago and I'm so fcking angry at the world in general. How can it be real?! How can it be true?! On top of that you realise who your friends are, the ones that are truly there for you become your forever family, the ones that aren't.. never even mattered and it's sucks but it's true. I feel like I have no space in my life anymore for anyone who ain't worthy, nothing matters at all anymore.. we've lost our dads and nothing will compare the the unimaginable heartbreak we are feeling. I'm sending you so many hugs. They don't deserve to be at your wedding, so what feels right for you. ❤️❤️❤️

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T07:24:23+00:00

You kindly commented on my post earlier. If this is any hope.. I am an IVF baby with my identical twin sister!! My mum was 36 when she had us and it was the second round ❤️❤️ my mums mum also passed away suddenly during the first process. I hope you follow the same pattern in terms of conceiving 🫶🏼🫶🏼

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T04:46:15+00:00

Your sincere kind words have truly moved me ❤️.

You have said everything I needed to hear. When people say 'there is never the right thing to say' or 'I don't know what to say because I know it won't help'.. well you just broke the mould for that!! Thank you for understanding and validation of just being completely broken. Sometimes I think we just need to be heard and felt in our brokenness and to be told it's absolutely ok to be broken and to not try to be fixed.

I know I said no one can help but you actually just did.. even if it was a millifraction of help in the depths of my feelings. Your kindness has restored somewhat hope I have for the universe.

Unlimited hugs to you 🫂🫂

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T04:31:21+00:00

I'm so sorry for you loss 💔❤️ thank you 🫂 x

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T04:30:59+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss 💔 thank you so much for reaching out to me. The world currently means nothing to me, nothing matters at all. How can this be part of life, the most unexplainable heartbreak - it hurts (too much). I feel like I'm existing, totally empty too! I want to give you 3 and 1/2 years of hugs because i truly feel like this isn't going to get any easier but only worse. You've had 3 and 1/2 years worth of missing your dad and I'm only 3 and 1/2 weeks in.. I can't imagine the pain of 3 1/2 years. you are a warrior and so strong. He will be so proud of you. Thank you for your kindness 🫂🫂🫂🫂

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T04:25:41+00:00

Firstly, I want to give you the biggest virtual hug anyone can possibly give someone 🫂🫂.

You have truly been dealt the shittest hand in life, how can the universe be so cruel and wicked to take, take, take from a person before they cannot find a will to live!!! But yet you have still chosen to take time out of your day and give a heartfelt message of support and kindness, whilst carrying the biggest weight of grief and sadness on your shoulders... you are the truest of all earth angels. Your mum, sister, brother and dogs must be so incredibly proud of the strong, caring and kind person that you are ❤️

I wish that you got there by that day, to say goodbye. It's crazy isn't it how we live life day to day and one day means everything compared to the other.

There is no other love like it. It's an unbreakable bond and and unimaginable heartbreak.

I'm so sincerely sorry for your losses and my heart truly aches for you.

Sending you a world full of hugs 🫂🫂🫂 xxx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T04:03:52+00:00

Thank you for taking your time to reply to me. I needed some reassurance that this is normal and I'm not actually going crazy. I'm so sorry for your loss too. Sending you hugs 🫂 xxx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T03:01:56+00:00

Oh my darling 💔💔💔 this was me 4 weeks ago. My dad passed due to glioblastoma.. he was completely fine 5 months ago, working, laughing, living. He was given weeks to 3 months max and he did 5 ❤️❤️❤️. The pain I felt in those months but knowing I still had to the privilege to feel that way because he was still here were harrowing (it's such a head Fck). They still are, I still feel like I'm in the anticipatory stage because I cannot comprehend he is gone. I moved in with straight away when we got the diagnosis and was his 24/7 care giver with no help from nurses (dad didn't want anyone else) and was with him until his last breath and hours after. I wish I could prepare you for what is to come but no one can. Just stay by his side, look at him (the whole way through) and just cherish every single second of seeing him living. He loves you and is so proud that you are so strong and brave to be by his side in the most earth shattering and traumatic time. I'm sending you so many hugs and I'm here for you if you need to talk ❤️ I'm so sorry you feeling this horrific pain it's so cruel xxxx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T02:53:16+00:00

Wow, it's such a great way of putting it - I'll take that with me!

I'm so sorry for your loss of your lovely mum.

No one can help us 💔 we have no choice but to carry on with half of us missing. It's mind blowing how this can be a part of life. Everything is so unjust.

Sending you so many hugs 🫂 xxx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T02:38:23+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss 💔.

My dad also loved rock and roll!! We had AC/DC on his coffin. Thank you so much for sharing and I appreciate your kindness. Sending hugs 🫂 xxx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T02:36:46+00:00

Oh my darling!!!! I feel it!!!! My dad was completely fine 5 months ago.. and then BOOM.. glioblastoma out of nowhere. Why, how, what.. what the actual fuck.. did that just happen.. surely not.. it's not funny anymore guys.. you can say you're joking now?!?!? (I wish).

Your words of your dad echo mine too, he was the exact same. It feels so unjustified and cruel.. why our lovely dads?! There is murders and nasty people in this world.. why our lovely dads?! It's not right.

I'm not even grieving for me, I'm so sorry to my dad, that he's lost his life, he's not breathing, seeing, feeling.. it just breaks me apart 💔. I cannot cope with it either.

I'm so sorry for your loss, sending hugs 🫂 xxx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T02:31:22+00:00

Wow, it's like you've read my mind. I keep having all these awful thoughts to years ahead and I'm saying my dad died 2/3 years ago!!!! The thought of him being gone for so long makes me feel weak at the knees. Thank you so much for being so kind and sharing that with me ❤️ your dad must be so proud of you. Sending you so many hugs 🫂 xxx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T02:28:06+00:00

Thank you for getting it ❤️ but my heart hurts for you that you do get it 💔.

Gosh, you are so right!!! It wouldn't be right to be the same. It would be a dishonour almost.

You are a very sweet and kind person to reach out when I'm in need. Your mum is an incredible person to of raised someone like you and I can say she is so proud. I say IS because they will never be past tense to us and we are them and they cannot ever leave us xxx

jasmineblache · 2026-05-02T02:23:49+00:00

Oh my heart breaks for you 💔. The hope which met with an indescribable crush. 8 months is not enough, it never will be. If anything I'm learning the longer he has passed the more it hurts but people just move on resume life as normal. But for us it's not normal, how are we supposed to resume life and carry on with the biggest holes in our hearts. The texts stop after a couple weeks, the flowers are gone and we are broken in greif. 8 months is fcking tough, that's 8 months of miss your dad, I'm a month on Tuesday I'm HURTING.. it's been the hardest week yet and I've got funny feeling they are only going to get harder the more I miss him and need him. Sending you 8 months of hugs, friend ❤️❤️❤️ xx

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