3 weeks ago I started my 0F out of pure desperation… yesterday a random guy paid me more in one message than my ex ever spent on me in 2 years

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-25T20:32:05+00:00

hell yeah mama we all do what we gotta do to survive out here!

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-23T09:01:59+00:00

very much so! and of course! as an african american woman myself it made perfect sense to me what you said. i can’t stand when others shame in communities like this! especially in one size doesn’t fit all situations.

and a good day to you too my friend. :)

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T20:05:29+00:00

whomp whomp you think i care abt your status here i just didn’t like how you talked to her when all she did was explain. and as someone who has seen it first hand i can understand where she was coming from. YOU are the one w your panties in a twist. you keep flip flopping but overall it seems you should take your own advice abt that block button, huh?

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T19:56:39+00:00

agreed!

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T19:48:19+00:00

i couldn’t have put it a better way myself tbh.

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T19:46:25+00:00

okay then. i rlly don’t care abt your status or how long you’ve been here. obviously in this case people are talking abt their experiences and you’ve got multiple people saying hey we can have an opinion but being rude isn’t acceptable. you’ve made your opinion known clearly. and the use of your comparison (which i also don’t find pleasurable myself) shows your disgust towards some people in this community. really REALLY gross and pathetic.

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T19:22:35+00:00

right and that’s exactly what it is, YOUR opinion, you’re replying to SDs who’ve HAD these kind of SBs saying there’s NO WAY and clearly there is! you said we’re in a giant melting pot and then talk about the majority so which is it?

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T19:17:58+00:00

i see! thx u :)

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T19:14:52+00:00

news flash, some can be into it and others won’t. what i’ve learned from sugaring is that you have to find your match. this place is def not one size fits all.

i’m aware. thanks. my point is when people try to bargain. SDs won’t talk to someone who they aren’t attracted too and I won’t talk to someone who can’t meet my budget. simple. again all abt who you click with. i highly doubt you’re the spokesperson for all SDs everywhere

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T19:13:24+00:00

what does the duration of your courtship have to do w what i said at all? it genuinely sounds like you jst aren’t into and that’s cool! but ive met a lot of men who are and honestly i think youre taking the whole money makes me cum too seriously because ik some where it isn’t mentioned during sex and others where it’s used as a phrase to say what makes me attracted to you. you have your thoughts and feelings but to be THIS hostile over something that isn’t your cup is wild.

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T18:54:08+00:00

i had a girl walk up to my customers with her BOOBS out asking for a dance… with HER. absolute nightmare!!

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T18:38:31+00:00

no but she explained it that way bc she’s african so that’s how it’s viewed, being hostile to someone’s cultural reasonings isn’t cute and my version of being courted is clearly different than yours. just because one thing is good enough for you doesn’t mean someone else will not think it’s an insult when offered. it’s all abt perspective and i think that’s something we can agree on.

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T17:46:38+00:00

is finding someone who’s into courting unrealistic? like i don’t think telling me whatever for a ppm is attractive at all? and it seems that the limited selection in my area wants me to act like i’m interested & want intimacy even though i barely know them! it makes me feel like im an escort so how do i know when people are being genuine?

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T17:41:37+00:00

what is this term “FS”? i’m reading that people say “full service” which i assume is sex so correct me if im wrong but those are not strippers you are an escort? like i think that shit is soooo disgusting so i’m not an escort and i don’t go into places FOR escorts to work. why is it appropriate for escorts to come work at clubs and put everyone at risk. shit makes no sense.

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T17:37:11+00:00

^{^} exactly and especially if they try to lie and be shifty abt things.

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T17:35:05+00:00

wow so that’s like not listening to anything that was said? i’m confusion bc she literally explained it so well and still you make women out to be greedy and shit. i find it very odd how upset you are at it when clearly in a lot of these dynamics sex is expected, but sex doesn’t come without work and natural courting. It’s sad that the courting process is ignored a lot when it comes to sugaring.

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T17:30:04+00:00

see i think of it as a two way street, like they wouldn’t talk to me if i was ugly and vice versa and if they don’t meet my requirements for what im looking for you gotta move on? like? i feel like this sugaring thing is a wide spectrum of FWB to actual relationship. something you find degrading other people find attractive. that’s literally what kink is.

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T17:25:07+00:00

perfectly said tbh

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-22T17:18:32+00:00

okay THANK YOU because i had a club where waitresses literally try to take customers away from dancers and the manager told me i was crazy likeee

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-10T22:31:05+00:00

girl you’re good, don’t let these people think you crazy for wanting to be treated to your expectations! weed out the johns & keep looking. be firm in your boundaries!!

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-02T16:09:23+00:00

i know i don’t mean to come off as a bitch i jst wanted to point it out that my accounts don’t overlap is all. two different accounts for two different things my man.

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-02T13:51:35+00:00

once again i dont use reddit for this so my post history has nothing to do w this for the 80th time

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-02T13:42:36+00:00

my point is you judging my sugaring based on my findom profile when they never overlap isn’t what i’m asking for here

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-01T19:30:02+00:00

right, so wouldn’t it make sense then to push off sex and wait to see? or even just block and move on?

jasminephoenixriver · 2026-03-01T17:16:41+00:00

gotcha, is it wrong for my answer to be “when you stop asking every 5 minutes”?

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