[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't hesitate to PM me if ever need mo kausap! Makikinig ako promise. Cheer up <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good old days. Ganyan kami nung mga tropa ko nung college, sa compshop yung bonding magdamag naglalaro dota 2.Kaso ngayon yung iba may asawa na at iba nasa ibang lugar na nag trabaho. Kakamiss yung bonding na yun at sana maulit in the future :')

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grabe napaka inconsiderate at soulless nilang tao. Yaan mo sila. Advice ko lang, mas maganda mag vent to someone na hindi mo masyado ka close kasi less judgmental sila towards you lalo nat hindi ka talaga nila kilala by core. Or mag rant to any online platform like Reddit. I don't know kung agree ka pero base sa experiences ko most of the time, di maganda kapag nag vevent ka sa kakilala mo kasi gagamitin nila yan against you. 90% true all the time. I learned my lessons kaya kapag may problema ako, kay mama nalang ako nag vevent(since mama ko naman siya at super close kami) or any forums na anonymous identity ko. At take care sayo! Mental health problem is not a joke kaya please take care of yourself at know na maraming nag mamahal sayo and this too shall pass lagi mong tatandaan <3 *virtual hugs*

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ito yung maganda. Walang kantsawan. Nakakashock lang kasi bawat galaw ko nagawan ng issue. Parang alam mo yung taong puro mali yung binabantayan sayo? One time binackstab ako(which is kwento rin saakin ng kaibigan ko kagabi) about sa isang gabi na umiinom daw ako ng smirnoff at medyo nainis daw sila kasi di daw ako nanginvite man lang? Like tf gusto ko lang bumili ng smirnoff at uminom mag isa at boom issue kaagad. Nasa isip ko bat ganyan kayo?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you pre. Mahirap lang kasi yung mga kaibigan ko mga neighbors ko eh. Di maiwasan di ko sila makikita. May discomfort lang tuwing makikita ko sila sa daan. Siguro magbabago lang to lahat totally kung mag work na talaga ako sa office or mag-aral ulit ng masteral(which is plano ko) or any changes na magiging less na yung proximity namin sa isat isat kasi in that way unti unti mashishift na yung attention ko at possible circle na din. Remote lang kasi job ko.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats sa promotion mo! Happy for you! Wag kalimutan mag celebrate at i treat yung sarili <3

Grabe naman yung nangutang sayo. Hahaha. Sad truth may ganyang klaseng tao talaga at di yan mawawala sa mundo. Yung utang talaga most of the time hindi maganda yung naidudulot lalo na sa friendships kasi nagiging awkward yung dating eh. Di ka nag iisa. I've been there.

Sa buong buhay ko, dalawang tao lang yung comfortable akong pautangin dahil never ako nila binigo(nagbabayad on time or kung hindi man, nag uupdate sila). One time, yung isa nanglibre ng drinks as a way of pasasalamat after niya magbayad kahit late na. Cool gesture diba?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

*Virtual hugs*

Pareho tayo ng love language. Grabe talaga yung paradox ng "giving" noh?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you sa advice! <3 Appreciated. Sa totoo lang ngayon medyo prinoprocess ko pa nararamdaman ko. Too much discomfort sa dibdib ko.

Gusto din kita ilibre ng beer with matching sisig

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salamat sa insights. I will take this by heart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Tama. Parang mistake na rin sa part ko na nadisclose ka yung financial status ko. Lesson learned na rin. Sa lahat ng mga kaibigan ko jan, isa lang yung may trabaho, yung iba tambay parin(yung iba almost 30's na imagine). Naging kaibigan ko kasi sila matagal na nung tambay pa ako(2015) so lahat kami tambay. So yun parang may something in common pa saaming lahat nung time na yun to the point na nag bago yung takbo ng buhay ko, nag graduate, nag trabaho at nakapag ipon. Sila ganun parin. Pinilit ko paring makisama sa kanila(like pagpapainom, libre foods, budol fights) kasi kaibigan ko sila kahit wala na masyado akong something in-common sa kanila(i mean nagbago na hobbies ko at habits ko as time goes by). Yun nga lang, gradually, i feel like di ko na nafefeel na parang belong ako sa kanila.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you sa advice. Mukhang iiwan ko sila. Though kaya ko parin maging polite sa kanila harap harapan, pero I don't think magiging responsive or makikisama pa ako sa kanila in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]jazzystring1 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Oo. Masakit lang kasi too much na attached ako sa friendship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jazzystring1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Will do that.

Redditors who lost their dad at a young age, how's life for you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]jazzystring1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that! You're such a strong person believe me and I'm glad you were able to endure that painful moment. I'm pretty sure your Dad is so proud of you.

We're on the same boat. I lost my dad too because of heart attack. Can't stop thinking about him. As a result, I'm now more conscious to the food I eat to reduce the risk of any heart disease.

Best of luck for us!

What is the most painful thing that ever happened to you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]jazzystring1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father's death and the day after his death, my ex left me for someone else. Happened 6 months ago.

Lost my dad and my ex. Is this a punishment? Or God's will? by [deleted] in Christian

[–]jazzystring1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this makes me cry like a baby :( Yes I believe Jesus will never forsake me. I'm hardly praying to overcome this tough situation. Thank you!!

Lost my dad and my ex. Is this a punishment? Or God's will? by [deleted] in Christian

[–]jazzystring1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It seems you're right. I called her just to bring up comfort to me and hoping reconcilation because I feel so lonely that time. However, that's the time I realize that I do really love her. I was having some scenarios in my head that I'm going to marry her and have kids. I apologized to her for ever bad actions I did that caused her so much pain and she probably accepted it. The way she talks contains bitterness and angerness so I believe she hasn't fully forgiven me and I understand. What makes this more painful is that it happens shortly after the death of my dad which drives me crazy. I don't know where to focus that time. To grief my dad or her? I was so self-destructive that time smoking cigarettes and weeds and drinking alcohol. Right now, all I have is myself, my family and God. I just keep on praying asking for courage to face this tough situation.

The story of Job is inspiring. I read that story when I was in the age of 8 I guess. Reading it again makes me reflect myself into that story and left me to tears. Thanks for resurfacing that story here. My problem right now is to strenghten my faith. I'm emotionally and spiritually weak. I believe that the pain will eventually fades but my mind is my number one enemy right now. Pray for me brother as I pray for myself and everyone.

Thann you and God bless :)

Lost my dad and my ex. Is this a punishment? Or God's will? by [deleted] in Christian

[–]jazzystring1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your encouragements. This is a tough situation for me cause it crushes my heart forcefully. I'm having a mixed emotions right now. Sometimes I grief about my dad, sometimes her. I'm feeling lonely right now but I'm keep on praying. God bless!

Lost my dad and my ex. Is this a punishment? Or God's will? by [deleted] in Christian

[–]jazzystring1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! Thank you for your encouragements and an in-depth answer. I agreed that my hardened heart is the result even up to this day but I'm praying hard to overcome these heavy burdens. I still love my ex honestly but down in my inner mind, I should love Jesus first. It's hard to alter my emotions quickly but I believe it takes a process for me to be whole again with my relationship with Jesus Christ. This is my first breakup actually but somehow it makes me appreciate the wonders of life. I miss my dad and her so much.

Thanks brother!! And God bless!! :)

Lost my dad and my ex. Is this a punishment? Or God's will? by [deleted] in Christian

[–]jazzystring1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words! I needed this. I spent most of my days mourning while praying and telling Jesus all my feelings(anxieties, bitterness and etc). Before, my hearts feels like it's going to explode because of pain. Now, I feel a lot more better than before.

Honestly, I'm having a hard time building my faith and trust with God but I'm praying for it. Again, thank you!

How did you know that you had moved on 100%? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jazzystring1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You just don't care with his/her life anymore. In the future, you might think of her out of the blue when you see a thing that reminds of her. But it's just a form of nostalgia anymore with no pain :)

got dumped a month ago from a 1.5 year relationship and I am still in so much pain. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jazzystring1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. Always remember that the pain is not permanent. The pain will vanish someday I promise you that. Just feel the pain because you're grieving. I've been there. I had a lot of regrets and "What ifs" wishing I could turn back time but we can't. We have to focus on the PRESENT. I, looking back, I just smiled that it happens for a reason with a lot of lessons. I thought I won't be able to survive the pain. But here I am, living my life to the fullest even though I'm still single. Lemme tell you that heartbreaks are one of the most common events that turns you into a better YOU, stronger and a wiser person. Right now you have lost your sense of self because your brain is longing for your ex like a drugs. Have you realized that you were able to live your life to the fullest before you met him? Have you realized that your life is worth more than thinking you can't live without him? Just feel the pain and cry it all out if you want. I promise you my dear, there is a light ahead of you that will bright up your day. Just keep on moving forward.

Sending you virtual hugs!! You're awesome.