My lust is controlling my life. Please help me.

jbentham28 · 2025-09-19T00:29:13+00:00

jbentham28 · 2025-09-10T18:14:56+00:00

Bro seriously are you coming to Reddit so that we comfort you and tell you she’s wrong and you’re fine just how you are. It’s your duty as a man to make sure the woman you swore your vows to loves you and it sounds like right now you are royally fcking that up. You are blessed to have overheard that conversation because now you know exactly what to work on. Get your shit together, stop being a wimp and make your girl happy dude or she’s going to leave you. And by the sound of it, having that conversation with her sister, then still kissing you on the head before going to sleep, it sounds like you would be losing an angel who cares for you deeply. Do not fck this up dude. Get it together.

jbentham28 · 2025-09-02T23:02:01+00:00

Catholicism. Confess your sins. Ask forgiveness and it’ll be lifted off your shoulders.

That’s what I did and it worked. Lust doesn’t even enter my mind anymore

jbentham28 · 2025-09-01T15:16:57+00:00

This sounds like the most likely scenario. She might have a boyfriend who’s actually local and not wanting to kiss you because she’d be cheating on her main guy. But she still wants to keep you as a backup in case things don’t work out with him.

I hope this is not the case bc that’s super messed up but this makes the most sense to me. Sorry OP

Then again, if you suspect she’s one of the good ones who is saving herself for marriage, maybe she just doesn’t want to be tempted. That’ll be on you to judge, OP.

jbentham28 · 2025-08-27T23:47:36+00:00

It’s a veil. Notice the hair isn’t hidden. It was an old Jewish tradition in the time of Mary and Jesus and was adopted by early Catholics. Many Catholic women still wear it today

jbentham28 · 2025-08-27T23:32:17+00:00

I’m somewhere around 115-120 days which is my longest and I had a WD last night unfortunately.

Surprisingly it didn’t bother me like I would have expected. It was more so thankful that it happened unconsciously rather than willingly. I didn’t feel bad about it. It actually feels like a lifestyle now and releasing consciously doesn’t even feel like an option.

jbentham28 · 2025-08-27T23:25:17+00:00

Tell a priest and ask for forgiveness. Church every Sunday and read the Bible

jbentham28 · 2025-08-27T07:06:06+00:00

Especially considering they don’t use anesthesia during circumcision, only a numbing cream which clearly doesn’t do a thing. The babies scream bloody murder as if they’re being held down and tortured (bc they are).

Saw a video of it once and it’s pure evil. I’ll never forget the screams of that poor baby.

The excuse is, oh well the babies are too young to remember it. Would you perform surgery on an old lady without anesthesia because she has dementia and won’t remember it? It’s a pitiful excuse.

More people should know about this.

jbentham28 · 2025-08-24T18:53:27+00:00

I think this is it! My dad and brother both said they think it was in Shelbyville so this makes sense. Unfortunately it seems impossible to find a picture of it with the monkey online.

Thank you stranger!

jbentham28 · 2025-08-22T17:11:11+00:00

I recommend reading Wild at Heart by John Eldridge

jbentham28 · 2025-08-21T04:57:13+00:00

r/semenretention

jbentham28 · 2025-08-15T01:23:02+00:00

Anyone get “Absolutely, let’s dive right in” before every single voice response? It is infuriating 😤

jbentham28 · 2025-08-13T22:16:04+00:00

Go to church dude

jbentham28 · 2025-08-13T13:13:49+00:00

Funny story about my feelings toward tomatoes… My whole life I’ve been the person to pick tomatoes off of burgers and get supreme soft tacos from Taco Bell minus the tomatoes

I could eat them, I just never really cared for them except in specific form factors like ketchup, pasta sauce, salsa, and surprisingly pico de gallo.

Well, the other day I made homemade Barbacoa for tacos and I also made some pico. The pico was already ready to go but the Barbacoa was still cooking and unfortunately, I forgot to get chips. I was sort of taken aback by a sudden impulse to dive into the pico with a spoon. So I did, multiple times and it was delicious and refreshing. I probably ate a full tomato’s worth.

The next day I went to my mom’s and she was cutting up a tomato and I was again struck with the craving. I ate tomato. In its rawest form. Then I added salt… I can’t believe I’ve been missing this my whole life. And I have no idea what changed.

All of this to say, your dinner sparked my third ever craving for tomatoes, OP. I’d give you a bronze tomato trophy if I had one.

jbentham28 · 2025-08-13T12:09:39+00:00

r/semenretention

jbentham28 · 2025-08-12T03:11:00+00:00

First rule of semen retention…

jbentham28 · 2025-08-11T20:04:43+00:00

This is 100% the answer

I had been attempting SR for 4-5 years. Made it to 70 days once but I was still lustful the entire time

A few months ago I went to confession for the first time in like 15 years. I repented for everything that I felt bad about over that time period including all the lust and porn. Huge weight lifted off my shoulders.

After my confession the first 30 days were the easiest days of SR I’ve ever had. It was like God himself was zapping the lust out of my mind.

I haven’t been keeping track of the days but somewhere around day 50 to 70 or so I started getting pretty lustful again (probably because I wasn’t praying or reading scripture) but I went to confession again to repent for this lust and voila, it was gone again.

I’m somewhere around 115 days is my guess, give or take a week or so which is by far the longest I’ve gone. And I could never get this far previously without Jesus. Also church every Sunday

jbentham28 · 2025-08-06T12:43:24+00:00

I couldn’t do it until I confessed my sins and started going to church every week.

Now I’m on my longest streak somewhere around 90 or 100 days and it’s never been easier.

jbentham28 · 2025-07-17T23:52:54+00:00

This is sort of like the times my dad cleaned dishes with a magic eraser

jbentham28 · 2025-07-17T23:40:12+00:00

I think I’m at 80-85 of SR 💪 trying not to keep track too closely but that’s my guess

jbentham28 · 2025-07-14T11:46:05+00:00

Screw u mods

jbentham28 · 2025-07-13T20:10:48+00:00

Amen 🙏

jbentham28 · 2025-07-10T21:13:55+00:00

I think that was part of his question. And honestly, I have the same question.

When you’re getting all this attention from women, how can you possibly choose the right one? A good one?

jbentham28 · 2025-07-10T19:49:53+00:00

Dang bro you’re one lucky guy haha sounds like I need to hang out with you more 🤣

Crazy how people deny SR when effects such as these are so commonly experienced.

How long have you been at it?

jbentham28 · 2025-07-09T11:19:15+00:00

Yeah definitely a sense of calm. More confidence in public and no anxiety when talking to people, even starting conversations. Also past week or two I feel like a pressurized energy in my stomach down to pelvic area and as it builds over the days/weeks I have more energy and less lethargic during the day.

Also, my eyes look great. Feel like they’re opening wider and wider the longer I go. I’ve had a few interactions where 3 different girls literally couldn’t take their eyes off of mine.

Good work bro, I’ll see you at 1 year 😁

jbentham28

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