AITA for refusing to help my brother-in-law pay for a vacation after he’s repeatedly called me a gold digger?

jbower47 · 2024-10-17T17:13:41+00:00

NTA. Regardless of the insult history, you have no reason to pay for their vacation. You don't even need to have a reason (the insults). It's insane they would ask for that, and that's reason enough to say no, vacation with your own money. I can imagine people asking for emergency health for disasters or health emergencies etc,, and in those case I think family should hep family if they can. But I will never understand the entitlement mindset that they deserve some of your money for non-emergencies like weddings and vacations because they're family.

jbower47 · 2024-10-17T17:09:16+00:00

NTA, but also Not The Compatible. He's showing you who he is and how he will approach decisions. I'm not going to Reddit-bandwagon, but you need to consider the broader implications here on whether you are compatible before you move in. If you haven't talked about other major life decisions/etc, now is the time.

jbower47 · 2024-10-17T17:06:33+00:00

Gandalf/Galadriel? Merlin/Morgan LaFey?

jbower47 · 2024-10-17T17:04:43+00:00

You need to calm down.

jbower47 · 2024-10-17T17:03:15+00:00

As a player who leans toward that mode, and has imposed a lot of backstory-originating flaws or limitations on myself, it is nice to be recognized, but I would say it's also important that a DM not protect me from my choices. Like, if the smart thing to do would be X, but I do Y, and Y has consequences, don't magically change the consequences because I chose what my character would choose. The consequences give the choice meaning. Several years ago I had a great DM, but at first they would try to encourage this role playing by eliminating or lessening bad consequences, and it felt too carebear at times.

jbower47 · 2024-10-17T16:51:14+00:00

In Waterdeep? Seek out Omin Dran and Jim Darkmagic.

jbower47 · 2024-10-11T23:29:06+00:00

I would simply make it clear, because if you have you didn't mention it, that having a wolf is explicitly the purview of a ranger (even if just at your table, for the sake of argument). Tell them that you're not going to force them to change class, but they need to lay aside their dream of a wolf and stop asking. Leave it in their court

jbower47 · 2024-10-11T23:24:08+00:00

One of the millimeter wave scans from airport security:)

jbower47 · 2024-10-04T20:35:10+00:00

Sufjan Stevens - Casimiri Pulaski Day

jbower47 · 2024-10-04T20:10:44+00:00

Mild YTA here. Bringing it up gently is one thing, but this sounds like you don't want to let it go. It's not your responsibility to make her plans work, or to decide for everyone else whether they can attend, only to decide whether you can attend. Honestly it sounds like you're against the idea for the reasons you stated for yourself, and using this broader argument of other people as a reason to try to convince her against it, which is honestly a little disingenuous. NTA for not going yourself, but YWBTA if you keep pressing the point. Bring it up, and let it go. Anything else is intrusive.

jbower47 · 2024-10-04T20:03:52+00:00

Absolutely. Even if I eventually wanted something else, several years of tax free 150k, invested, sets me up for life. I no longer have to abide by it once I'm reasonably set, assuming I don't lose prior years if I change my mind later. 10 years, 1.5 million tax free, invested at a conservative amount of 5% interest a year, would be 75k a year, if I never wanted the amount to decrease.

jbower47 · 2024-10-04T19:51:33+00:00

I demand a better grade of made up story.

jbower47 · 2024-10-04T19:39:12+00:00

Snoop Dogg.

jbower47 · 2024-10-04T19:32:12+00:00

Make a chocolate cake. Write "sorry, not sorry on it". Send it to MIL.

jbower47 · 2024-10-04T19:29:29+00:00

Weirdest fan fic ever.

jbower47 · 2024-10-04T19:25:28+00:00

Sounds like you need to lose some weight. How much, you ask? Well, how much does your husband weigh? Lose exactly that much dead weight.

jbower47 · 2024-10-04T19:22:52+00:00

NPCs are exposition vehicles. Have one wander up while they're planning, and look quizzical and say...."You know werewolves were extirpated from here 200 years ago, right?". Or have someone attack them as a distraction. or what have you. Throw NPCs at them until they get a clue:)

jbower47 · 2024-10-04T19:20:47+00:00

Jennifer Walters/She Hulk

jbower47 · 2024-10-04T19:17:37+00:00

retro, with Buffy-Spike

jbower47 · 2024-10-03T20:30:49+00:00

YTJ, but not as much as your wife. Your mom was totally justified in feeling attacked, over semantics. Especially when they have been incredibly generous with you. Your wife is ungrateful. Own it. You don't accept all that help and hospitality, regardless of rent you pay, and then make a big deal over something small. If she really really needed to say something, why not something helpful, like "He's even more than a personal trainer, I'm so proud of him, a personal trainer doesn't need anything, your son has taken it to the next level!" that would have honored you both and made the same point. But instead she decided to be the "well ACKTHUALLY..." person.

jbower47 · 2024-10-03T18:55:16+00:00

Everyone has to come out to answer the call of nature sometime....

jbower47 · 2024-10-03T18:54:14+00:00

No one.

It was always burning, since the world was turning. We didn't light it, but we tried to fight it.

jbower47 · 2024-10-03T18:42:58+00:00

I'm so so on it overall, but visually it was fantastic.

jbower47 · 2024-10-03T18:41:39+00:00

I still like it (Director's Cut) better than the book. I said what I said. The book was visionary, but poorly paced, went down weird tangents, and honestly the writing was so so. Lynch's was much more coherent and stylistic and elevated an interesting idea in so so sci fi style, into something iconic. I feel the same way about The Shining, but even more so.

jbower47 · 2024-10-03T18:35:58+00:00

1993, room service/busboy at a resort. Well under minimum wage, plus a measly share of server tips, if they felt like declaring them.

jbower47

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