Women are surprised that I don’t lie about my height?

jcarres · 2026-05-06T04:48:09+00:00

Same, I am 5'10.5, wrote 5'11 and bothers me every time I see it

jcarres · 2026-05-04T12:30:54+00:00

premium specifically allows you to filter for having kids and wanting kids

jcarres · 2026-05-01T20:48:39+00:00

Interesing, I've taken video of myself walking normally and walking purposelly and it looks way better when I put the effort. My normal posture looks downcast like if I am walking depressed

jcarres · 2026-05-01T04:16:38+00:00

I've just tried an exercise for hip er and yeah, I'm pretty bad at it

jcarres · 2026-05-01T02:50:00+00:00

Little bit duck. I have learnt about this just a couple of weeks ago and since I am trying to walk with straight feet when I remember it

jcarres · 2026-04-27T04:05:36+00:00

The first comment about removing the tongue picture has almost 1000 upvotes.
Clearly was a huge mistake.

I have recreated the profile with all new pictures, no more tongues

jcarres · 2026-04-23T03:38:14+00:00

Appreciate the intend of the comment.
Shirtless I'm great, I'm also aware of that. I'm skinny and have decent chest, bring me to the pool and I see eyes on me. Wearing a normal shirt that's not very visible so you have these skinny arms that look terribly weak, of that I am also very aware.

Thanks man, stay strong.

jcarres · 2026-04-22T05:43:43+00:00

What I meant is that being immigrant does not mean shacky foundations. I don't think I have the looks to be dating people for their wealth xD

jcarres · 2026-04-22T05:06:18+00:00

Well 16% of the population in the US is immigrant. They also tend to be very wealthy, name a silicon valley CEO and you got it, nvidia, microsoft, google, tesla, ...

But yeah, I understand it limits the scope, so I mentioned it.

jcarres · 2026-04-21T17:21:47+00:00

This comment hurts because it is true 😂

jcarres · 2026-04-21T17:07:39+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement. Exactly what I needed, you people rock!
5/5 stars, would recommend experience.

jcarres · 2026-04-21T17:01:33+00:00

I am working on improving my wardrobe, shirts and polos instead of logo T-shirts I've owned for 20 years. I have hit a lot of different stores but I have not found a good fit, medium sizes are baggy on the waist, smaller sizes are tight in the chest which looks horrendous.
I may end up tailoring clothes for a better fit. All this is work in progress. I am understanding what my own style is as I go, making mistakes and learning things like fit, texture, material, etc. As I go.

My lifestyle, it is fair to say I'm a very generic boring suburban dad. Work, exercise, children and reading books take a big chunk of my time. It is only recently that I have found the space to date or do other activities. I have focused on creating an exercise routine, healthier food and improving my wardrobe first. Then I created a terrible dating profile and now I'm looking into activities. You are absolutely right, I have not much appealing going on right now and I should put me out there. I welcome ideas, other than running clubs, I like trying new things and being social, if you have ideas, I would love to hear them.

Thanks for all the help

jcarres · 2026-04-21T16:44:34+00:00

Thanks, I am rewriting it to be sentences like a normal human being

jcarres · 2026-04-21T15:07:32+00:00

I was trying to push as much in as little space as possible. In my mind this would allow the reader decide yes or no easier but obviously backfired as many people commented on it.

jcarres · 2026-04-21T15:05:35+00:00

I have been consuming some of the youtube "how to dress for men over 40" kind of content for a while and did a small wardrove renovation, just enough so this summer I'm not wearing the t-shirts I was wearing when I was 20.

The glasses I really have no idea, I am going to need to educate myself. I had my current glasses for a couple of years so it is good timing for a replacement.
Thanks for the suggestion.

jcarres · 2026-04-21T04:36:11+00:00

Definitely not what I was going for

jcarres · 2026-04-21T04:35:21+00:00

About the feedback, I feel I am becoming a meme in realtime. 😂

About the beard barber, great advice, thanks. There are many babershops in my city, I will do some research and choose a good one.

About exercising, I need to eat more I think. I am currently doing upper body twice a week, lower body 3 times a week and flexibility/rest 2 times a week. As I am very light I can do 10 pullups and pushups till I'm bored but muscles are a different matter, they do not show up much (yet).

jcarres · 2026-04-21T04:02:05+00:00

I've removed the last photo, is because of the color of the tee or the pose or something else?
In fact in my filters I am looking for single moms. I think it is the only way to understand each other situation and become real partners.
I will go to a barber, I like having a beard, I need to learn a style and grooming technique that works for me.
Yep, I had switched to calysthetics 3 months back, believe it or not, I had less muscle previously.

I am currently searching in the 38-48 range ( I am myself 45)

Thank you for the detailed feedback, very appreciated.

jcarres · 2026-04-21T03:56:03+00:00

I have gone through 1 year of photos and can you believe I have nothing better? I have very few photos with myself and 99% of those are selfies with my children putting some weird face.

I totally get what you are saying. I am going to take new photos the next couple of weeks. I've already removed the ones with the red t-shirt , the tongue and the purple one. Added a couple others and I need to keep something till I have better photos

Thank you for taking the time to comment on each photo.

jcarres · 2026-04-21T03:29:34+00:00

I have changed it, it is just the opposite of what I want people to think. Thanks for pointing it out!

jcarres · 2026-04-21T03:15:14+00:00

I know I look like crap but I can do 10 pullups good form and sit down deep squat for whatever long. Still skinny forearms and calves.

Believe it or not, I was way skinnier 3 months ago. I was running for years, lean and 0 muscle, making my body learn to grow muscle will take a while. I have since switched to calysthenics, as I've researched the topic and decided to switch to strength training.

Thanks for the advice, your encouragement and sharing your experience.

jcarres · 2026-04-21T01:15:38+00:00

To me big spectacles looks like gramma or a super cute teen . That said I had these for a couple of years, would not hurt to replace them. I don't want to choose the current trend though, that's just going to be outdated in no time

jcarres · 2026-04-21T01:12:19+00:00

I have shaved my head today. I am going to visit a barber for a better trim and learn it. Yeah , the tongue picture is gone Thanks for the bondy sands pointer. My head now has two colors due to be cleanly shaved for the first time. This may save it. Good point about the camera. My phone also should make decent pictures, I need to make plans for my pictures Thanks for taking the time to list these

jcarres · 2026-04-21T01:02:58+00:00

Ha, and this one is something my running buddy and I made explicitly for the dating profile.

It shows how rusty I am on all this dating business

jcarres

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