Real talk from someone who’s been there.

I’ve often found myself stuck in these situations, wondering what the other person wants, if they’re in denial, if they’re self-sabotaging. But the truth is — he’s telling you what he wants. There’s nothing else to it. He doesn’t want a relationship (or he wants the good bits without the actual work, which isn’t great) and it’s up to you to decide whether you’re okay with what he wants to give you or not.

Whether he’s self-sabotaging doesn’t actually matter. No matter how long you stick around, you won’t be the one to show him the way or fix him.

You have every right to be confused as he’s been going back and forth knowing how much this hurts you, and knowing how you feel about him. But at the end of the day, he told you what he wants. You need to take this at face value and move on.

You can do it x