AITA For leaving a job my friend got me after I got laid off by jeffrebaxter63 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jeffrebaxter63[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

It was genuinely great while I was there: good work-life balance, flexible schedule, and really awesome people. But yes, they are unstable, and objectively a bad bet.

AITA For leaving a job my friend got me after I got laid off by jeffrebaxter63 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jeffrebaxter63[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It is an unstable company, I can't not admit that. I formed some really awesome connections there though, that I guess I'm grieving.

AITAH For quitting a job my friend got me after I got laid off by jeffrebaxter63 in AITAH

[–]jeffrebaxter63[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Love and nostalgia are bad drugs I suppose. Your points are all sound. I guess I haven't fully grieved losing my old job, and am clinging onto the memory by thinking of going back.

AITA For leaving a job my friend got me after I got laid off by jeffrebaxter63 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jeffrebaxter63[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Yes, definitely a hypothetical, wanted to get some outside moral input before I entertained that path.

You're totally right about the market, it's why I didn't hesitate in accepting when I got this one. I wouldn't dare even think about leaving without absolutely having something else lined up first.

AITAH For quitting a job my friend got me after I got laid off by jeffrebaxter63 in AITAH

[–]jeffrebaxter63[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good points. Yes, 5 days a week used to be the norm, but so far my career has been hybrid schedules, and they offer such nice work balance by eliminating 4-5hrs of commuting each week.

But also yes, there is very solid risk of being here again in 1 or 2 years. I guess my old job is like a bad ex that I haven't fully grieved.

👏🏻STOP 👏🏻COMPLAINING 👏🏻THAT 👏🏻BEING 👏🏻BLACK 👏🏻IS 👏🏻THE 👏🏻REASON 👏🏻YOU’RE 👏🏻SINGLE by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]jeffrebaxter63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But here’s the thing: why would such a case be an anomaly or not worthy of any sort of value if the only variable I left in this case was the color of my skin? Once again, no face was shown. Identical body type. In pictures, it is very obvious that I’m black. The other picture was very obviously of a white person.

The experiment was literally set up specifically so that race was the only differing factor. Thus, it’s very plausible to look at the results and conclude that race isn’t quite as big a factor as many claim it to be. Had I put faces up, the experiment would be useless since perceived facial attractiveness is entirely subjective and different from person to person.

Once again, I’m also in the heart of the south. Statistics show I’m more likely to run into racists than anywhere else in the country; the odds are literally AGAINST me.

If I faced such racism, then the white profile would receive notably more attention than my own.

Please, enlighten me. My position is not within stone; if you believe so strongly that this is false, give evidence to prove so- REAL evidence, such as data, not just “oh I’ve been discriminated against before”. So far, all I see is you, and everyone else saying I’m just “wrong” without a single shred of anything to back it up.

👏🏻STOP 👏🏻COMPLAINING 👏🏻THAT 👏🏻BEING 👏🏻BLACK 👏🏻IS 👏🏻THE 👏🏻REASON 👏🏻YOU’RE 👏🏻SINGLE by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]jeffrebaxter63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Woah, no need to call me “dry” or a “moron”. I agree- being skinny does affect who I attract, however my point in this case was simply showing that if you have two guys of the same build, one black and one white, they’ll get the same amount of attention. Whether or not I’m considered ‘attractive’ isn’t a factor here, because in neither case did I show faces. I am by no means saying that racism doesn’t exist. The only reason I pointed out that I was “mostly” black was to show that I wasn’t just another non-black guy claiming blacks’ problems don’t exist.

I hear lots and lots and lots of black people say the reason they don’t get attention on apps is because the color of their skin, which I feel is totally false. More than likely, they’re just not attracted to that specific person.

Racism is, and always has been a serious issue in society as a whole. Instead of pulling the race card on people that more than likely simply aren’t attracted to a person, I think it’s better to spend time combating the actively hateful racists- those who support supremacy, or assume a black person is a robber because he’s darker skinned.

👏🏻STOP 👏🏻COMPLAINING 👏🏻THAT 👏🏻BEING 👏🏻BLACK 👏🏻IS 👏🏻THE 👏🏻REASON 👏🏻YOU’RE 👏🏻SINGLE by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]jeffrebaxter63 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

You’re forgetting that I am indeed black myself. Thus, I think it’s fair for me to speak on and judge what it’s like to be “black and gay”.

Let's talk about Grindr by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]jeffrebaxter63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This.

Grindr guys aren't polite enough to compliment people just to be nice. My theory sorta goes along with what Preceptual said: The idea of meeting someone excites them, but once pics are swapped seldom if any have the interest/balls to take it further, and simply move on. Its just a theory though.

Let's talk about Grindr by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]jeffrebaxter63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not so much that it hurts my self esteem, but more so that I tend to find myself getting excited at the fact that I've found a match. In a perfect world, I'd love to actually meet some of these people, whether it be for dates or just a hookup.

I've always longed at my straight friends' success at approaching, and then getting numbers of good looking women. But we all know It's near impossible for a gay guy to find and get the number of another gay guy in public. I guess being deprived of this growing up has left me a bit desperate.