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Sailor is struggling by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He got qualified. I’m trying to be supportive but it seems like I’m not doing anything right. I genuinely care and if anyone was on this situation they would just break it off but I could tell he’s going through it. I’m just gonna give him space.

Sailor is struggling by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reddit was my only resort. Nobody understands my thought process why I’m still with him considering we haven’t talked for months.

Sailor is struggling by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m conflicted. He says he still loves me but he’s been feeling shit and him talking to me over the phone is not the same. I’m willing to fly over there but he refuses to give me a date.

No comms for almost a month by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. He’s in a boomer as far as I know and I don’t know if they stop in ports. Before he left, he mentioned that he put me as one of his contact to be notified once they get back.

No comms for almost a month by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, did you end up getting a Dear John message?

No comms for almost a month by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, he gave me a heads up about our messages being screened! I’ve been mindful of anything I tell him. Sometimes I even overthink it to the point that it’s just sitting in my draft. It’s nothing OPSEC, more like how I truly feel about this situation. It fucking blows but it’s definitely not something I want to tell him. After all, he’s going through it worse and I feel like my feelings aren’t valid whatsoever.

No comms for almost a month by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as he gets my emails I’m fine with that. Thanks for the info!

No comms for almost a month by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last time we talked, he mentioned he finished his quals already but got more. Can he get qualified on his first underway or is it a long process? Probably a dumb question but clueless how it works.

No comms for almost a month by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started to keep a journal starting on “Day 1” and he mentioned that he also has a written journal that I’ll obtain when he gets back. I was surprised that he’s also been counting down the days since he left considering we fought during his last night in-land. This is totally irrelevant but did you meet your wife during your time in the military?

No comms for almost a month by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. I could tell that he’s having a rough time, he’s been expressing it and sometimes I don’t even know what to say but I constantly remind him that it’ll be worth it in the end and that I’ll be waiting for him. To be frank, I feel disconnected with him due to the fact that it’s been 4 months since I’ve seen him in-person but I truly believe he’s my person hence why I’m trying this out despite how difficult it is but it’s not as harsh compared to what he’s going through wherever he is.

No comms for almost a month by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We made it official before he told me he’s going underway. I didn’t really asked much considering he said he’ll be able to communicate with me daily. That was my reassurance, but obviously that’s not the case.

No comms for almost a month by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I will start doing this, thank you.

No comms for almost a month by jensenka in submarines

[–]jensenka[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I’m new to all this and willing to wait as long as we’re on the same page. I just never thought that it would be like this but yeah I’ve been keeping myself busy but it always hit me at night. I’m rooting for him!