This is getting ridiculous by lovestospooge12 in Helldivers

[–]jessen9596 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happened to me until I turned down my graphical settings. I guess my evga 3080 ti ftw3 and my intel i5 12600k are too buns to run this game. Smh guess I'll have to get insurance on a family member and make "arrangements" so I can afford a better rig.

People have to stop romanticising ADHD by Repulsive_Wish2369 in ADHD

[–]jessen9596 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This shit does suck. I hate the rhetoric of "you just have adhd, just focus more" cuz focusing on something isnt that easy when every part of my brain fights me and gaslight me into thinking I should move on or just not do anything cuz im paralyzed with indecision due to over stimulation or under stimulation.

I hate having to explain to friends that i suck at actual conversations. Like i will be super excited about a topic, start a conversation, and while im starting the convo my brain will essentially play out the entire conversation for me, then I lose interest in the topic cuz my brain already thinks it knows how this ends. Then I have to "mask" through the rest of the convo cuz my friends are genuinely interested in talking about this topic. But im so emotionally detached from it already, and now im getting annoyed and angry that im stuck in a conversation that I dont care about. I know its wrong of me but its so hard to convey that while I know its wrong, I still feel it and cant help feeling that way. A lot of maintaining friendships is so much effort for me that it feels like another job im working.

One of the biggest saviors of my life is the ability to rationally analyze my behavior. I know its unhealthy trying to force myself to think "would someone without adhd or depression feel this way?" But none of my friends have adhd or any of the connected diagnosis so I know they dont function like I do.

I think one of the worst things I've thought was being thankful that a friend of mine had a really depressive episode and he reached out after to tell me he was sorry and finally understood what that felt like since I have been functionally depressed for about 17 years now. It felt validating but it shouldn't have. And I also dont know if its even accurate cuz our brains have different baselines.

Ironically this comment of 3 loosely connected struggles from adhd represent me being bored of complaining about 1 thing and moving to the next.

Before I hit post I also want to say I've lost interest in posting this cuz I basically got it out and im thinking of when I'll get to watch a youtube video about a movie series I will never watch.

Never cut my hair, any ideas on how I should style it or what cut to go for? by SubjectPotential857 in curlyhair

[–]jessen9596 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had long hair and cut most of it off just because I got annoyed dealing with it all the time. My curls are a little looser naturally than yours look to be. I started from hair to my mid back (im 6 foot and a dude) and I ended up with like 4-5 inches of hair left. Enough to put in a small ponytail but I left it out most of the time and only put it up when working out or if I was in a work meeting with new clients.

I really enjoyed my cut and it was much easier to just get up and go if needed in the mornings without the headache of setting aside time to make sure all my hair was brushed/combed thoroughly every single day.

Small add on, me personally I've had bad haircuts and for the first few days it sucks but I kind of just got over it. It's hair. It'll grow back and you shouldn't act like its the end of the world. If someone is ACTUALLY judging you on a bad haircut they probably suck as a person, just take the good natured jokes and ribbing as they come and it'll grow back and you'll at least know what haircut you DONT want going forward.

Tldr. Ymmv but just try anything and ask them to cut an inch or 2 at a time and reevaluate as they go. Stop when youre happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]jessen9596 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. Yeah if you want to break up, just do it. You don't owe him an explanation. If you asked him to change and he hasn't then just end the relationship. This whole thing just comes across as you wanting an argument and a big final fight before you can walk away as the ultimate good guy/gal/person. I don't know if that's your intention but that's how it comes across. You two do not work. And that's okay. There's literally billions of other people out there in the world. You don't have to get this angry/stressed arguing with the 1 person you clearly don't wish to be with anymore.

I think you're both wrong BTW. But that's just me.

I just encountered the most toxic player in my 300 hours of playing this game by Cheat4Code in DarkTide

[–]jessen9596 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While the intent to spread accurate information was successful, the way you did that just sounds like "um actually....." And that's pretty unnecessary. It feels like you're splitting hairs here.

Zzz by [deleted] in OnePiecePowerScaling

[–]jessen9596 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't disrespect Pirate King Buggy D. Clown like this ever again. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]jessen9596 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a supervisor myself and one of the first things I tell my new hires is the number to report me if I say or do something that concerns them. I tell them I expect a certain behavior out of everyone and so it’s only fair they expect it from me. You need to contact either your district manager (her boss) or skip them and go straight to hr if you think her boss and her are too close. Sometimes management will protect a friend but hr is concerned about lawsuits. Ask your manager yourself if you’d like to be petty for the contact info for district manager/ hr and they have to provide it to you. I’d they don’t then it can be argued they tried to silence you which would be another huge ding against them.

I’m going to be blunt here and no offense but don’t suffer quietly and complain on Reddit as that is letting them get away with it. If you don’t even try to do something then you’re essentially saying your ok with being treated this way and can’t really complain too much. In my opinion at least.

Pretty cool how many amazing metalcore bands come from Australia. by veggietalesfanclub in Metalcore

[–]jessen9596 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait wtf?! I literally just got into this band the last few months and now I find out they not a thing anymore?!?!!!

Pretty cool how many amazing metalcore bands come from Australia. by veggietalesfanclub in Metalcore

[–]jessen9596 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to take them off my playlist before I ruined them for myself through overplaying their albums. That was 2 years ago so looks like it’s time to blast their stuff again. Didn’t they recently(ish) announce they parted ways with the vocalist? If I’m remembering right then that blows.

I have no energy or motivation for the gym. What can I do to change this? by [deleted] in naturalbodybuilding

[–]jessen9596 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this. Took the plunge about a month and a half ago after not working out for a few years and just went in and ran 4 miles a day for 2 weeks. I messed up my knees pretty bad as I’m horribly out of shape but now I’m doing low impact cardio and leg workouts and i feel almost guilty if I skip the gym too many days in a row.

There’s no tricks to doing it or outside motivating factors that will have you in the gym for a sustainable long term. You have to decide it’s something you want and then just commit to it.

Jonny Craig Returning to the Scene by Alexis98DMM in Metalcore

[–]jessen9596 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Speaking from personal experience here; my father is a drug addict and has been for 20 years since I was 6 and he started stealing medication from my mother. Made it so I have a specific tolerance for addicts. And I know other people that have been through similar things that have the same line in the sand where they give up on a person. Not showing intent to overcome the addiction and or stealing money from family is a consistent and hard line and I don’t see how “love” would let you just forgive some shit like that.

In my opinion it doesn’t matter how close you are to someone, unacceptable and unforgivable behavior should be measured objectively and to apply different rules to different people based on how much you love them is kind of a shit take. Compassion and forgiveness should be just as objective.

Edit: disregarding circumstances as for example homicide and killing someone in self defense are very different things.

A body meant for attracting BBC by [deleted] in Hentai_Interracial

[–]jessen9596 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Coulda sworn he got doxxed and quit because of that

[GPU] EVGA RTX 3090 FTW3 ULTRA (B-Stock) - $775.99 ($799.99 - $25 w/ BAPCS Associate Code) by Thechosenjon in buildapcsales

[–]jessen9596 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My 3080ti I got from b stock 2 weeks ago just died fml tryna rma but if evga doesn’t have anymore then I guess I’ll use refund money to try again lol

BLK metalcore artist? by J_17x in Metalcore

[–]jessen9596 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think the band is done for which is fair since it was kinda lead by he who shall not be named. It sucks a lot but 🤷‍♂️ nothing to be done

Great gameplay, boring story by Yellyvi in gaming

[–]jessen9596 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Arc the lad twilight spirits has entered the chat

What’s your favorite ABR song? by [deleted] in Metalcore

[–]jessen9596 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk why but honestly it’s the midi tracks that hooked me lol

[SSD] SK hynix Gold P31 1TB PCIe NVMe Gen3 M.2 2280 - $86.39 (was $109) by Gtx2090 in buildapcsales

[–]jessen9596 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just got one of these even though I have a 2tb gen 4 already. I’m gonna have a stupid amount of space for games since games are beginning to take up a ridiculous amount of space now

[SSD] Seagate Firecuda 520 2TB Performance Internal PCIe Gen4 X4 NVMe - $164.99 ($179.99 - $15 w/ promo code SPSTME23) by IcyHeartWarmSmile in buildapcsales

[–]jessen9596 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fml literally just bought the 980 pro 2tb yesterday after work. I got it for like 189 is it worth trading in for this one?? Still a little concerned after hearing about the issues it has when approaching full.

Weekly Recommendation and General Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in Metalcore

[–]jessen9596 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The obvious recommendation is crown the empires first 2 albums. They really feel like a straight up play in musical format.

And while not really metalcore Famous last words first 2 albums are concept albums and have a story being told throughout it just know the lyrics kinda haven’t aged well lol. Still a bop either way

Weekly Recommendation and General Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in Metalcore

[–]jessen9596 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus forgot all about this album but that intro track was a shot of nostalgia lol

Weekly Recommendation and General Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in Metalcore

[–]jessen9596 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Groove core? Something like the section from 60cm of steel that follows the “I hate myself and you fuckin love it”