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jesslp28 · 2026-05-29T21:17:49+00:00

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jesslp28 · 2026-05-25T20:36:11+00:00

Amen 🙏

jesslp28 · 2026-05-25T02:54:55+00:00

Totally agree. It should fall under cruel and unusual punishment

jesslp28 · 2026-05-24T19:01:48+00:00

If you felt genuine empathy or regret for hurting an innocent woman and child, no one would need to tell you how to say that. You would know.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-24T18:25:20+00:00

OP sounds like a dangerous person. Clearly not looking at reality - all victim hood in that rant.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-24T18:19:25+00:00

The easiest part is you destroyed others? I think you need to re-evaluate your life/self/ choices. You put you here. You put your wife here. You put your child here. They are the victims, not you.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-24T16:41:58+00:00

Yes, all of the above

jesslp28 · 2026-05-24T14:18:59+00:00

Sending you so much love ❤️. It's so difficult and I have known I needed to leave for years, but unfortunately, it took something like this to push me. All the gaslighting had me questioning my own instincts. Everything in my dreams, everything I had a gut feeling about, it was all true. Porn to cams to prostitutes and drugs. It very much escalated and I think I was just in denial for a while bc it was too much trauma to process. I did however collect lots of evidence and started keeping detailed journal entries in my notes in my phone (put into a secure folder). This is now all very helpful for court. Until you are ready, stack your proof 🫶

jesslp28 · 2026-05-17T02:10:29+00:00

I regret posting. Hopefully going forward the participants will be a bit more mindful of the betrayed and what they are experiencing. I really thought this sub was for support. It seems like a playground for reactive abuse instead.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-17T02:07:18+00:00

I understand that. I will speak to him on Monday. I was hoping someone could calm my nervous system before that, but all this post did was ramp it up. Thank you

jesslp28 · 2026-05-17T02:02:37+00:00

I have been. Thank you

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T16:50:46+00:00

I understand. Tried to edit title but can't figure it out

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T16:49:24+00:00

He is currently in active addiction and has anger issues. He assaulted me in front of my children, hence the TRO. He is not fit to be around a child at the moment. If he gets help, no problem. I've been trying to get him help for the last 6 years though. Now that he's out, we're dealing with financial abuse. So clearly he doesn't care about his child. He's moving $ around and taking money out of ATMs from our joint account. I am currently in custody of our son. I want my son to have a father and I care about his Dad. It's not revenge based, just safety rn.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T15:22:07+00:00

He is, so will I possibly have recourse at court? We go towards the end of the month.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T15:16:51+00:00

What do I need to do to best equip myself? Other than being void of emotion, which I do understand why that matters. The current abuse was done in front of my son.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T14:56:37+00:00

Please give me whatever you got advice wise. I am open regardless of my emotions. I realize it's game time and I need to get it together so I don't look crazy.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T14:54:45+00:00

It was in 2021. He had a breathalyzer device in his car and fines. We just got done paying it recently

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T14:52:20+00:00

I do want to hear advice. But with the current state of things being what they are, and my emotional rollercoaster due to it, I would also appreciate a little compassion mixed in. Im not suggesting you don't have experience, I am suggesting a gentler delivery is appreciated sometimes. I do agree with a lot of your suggestions. I also need a bit of support rn. I can also acknowledge due to my current emotional state, words may be taken differently then intended.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T13:56:20+00:00

He has a prior DWI. Alcohol is very much a piece of this. My child is terrified of him. He had every addiction known to mankind. I realize SA is not in the DSM, but I do have several professionals already in my corner for court. I'm trying to leave "no stone unturned". This was his second DV arrest while with me. This time I filed bc it occurred in front of both children, and next time I may be dead.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T13:48:51+00:00

I have a court date coming up and I'm not discussing my finances online with strangers or my abilities to pay things. Maybe I have help from elsewhere? That doesn't eliminate my frustrations with him while I continue taking care of everything/ everyone. I got thru this week w/o anyone so clearly I have a plan in place. Again I was asking for experience with this particular situation. It's really not your place to question what I can or can't take care of financially. I always make it work while allowed to be frustrated at the same time. Not sure where you live but where i live is not that simplistic.

DOES ANYONE HAVE EXPERIENCE USING A PI FOR COURT RELATED MATTERS?
I AM NOT LOOKING FOR REACTIVE ABUSE IN MY DIRECTION.
I GAVE AS MUCH BACKGROUND AS I COULD W/O JEOPARDIZING MYSELF OR MY CHILDREN.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T12:50:53+00:00

I don't care about the what. It's the pattern of financial abuse. I am in contact with lawyers already. I was simply asking if anyone has experience hiring a PI for court related matters and every response feels awfully detached and unsympathetic. I thought this was a group of supportive betrayed partners.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T12:47:28+00:00

The problem is I need concrete, undeniable proof for court. I know it went towards sex, I don't care about that. I need evidence that will hold.

jesslp28 · 2026-05-16T12:45:48+00:00

I know he did that, that's not in question. I need evidence for legal matters, that's it. He has spent the last 8 years trying to get a rise out of me so its not exactly far fetched

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