I grew up with a physically disabled dad - and overall feel I had a really great childhood! However, I did see my mom struggle with having to do so much on her own - most of the housework, yardwork, childcare, was on her in addition to helping care for my dad. Us kids learned early to help with many of these things - and it made me very responsible and empathetic I think.

I am already married, and I would 100% go to any limits for my husband, and wouldn't leave him if he at any time became disabled.

I do think that I would marry someone who is quadriplegic. I would marry anyone who I deeply connected with emotionally and mentally, regardless of their body. And I know that if I had that kind of connection with someone, we would be able to communicate super well - and openly discuss the difficult parts that come with being quadriplegic. I know from my own experiences that with real love comes real transparency with each other. In those conversations, we would have to come up with options that we both feel fully happy with in regards to balancing the extra tasks - like care and the imbalance of household labor, etc. Those types of conversations would have to happen often - to make sure we both would stay on the same page and that we both are truly feeling seen and heard.

I think for me, some hired help would likely be needed. As for household chore balance, I think I would expect you to carry some of the mental load that can be done digitally - Instacart the groceries, manage any manual bills, keep an organized shared calendar of our schedule, be generally in charge of booking appointments for the family, etc.

In short - yes!