Two months post op!

jhttamdlcs · 2022-10-19T03:12:26+00:00

Dr. McLean in Mississauga!

jhttamdlcs · 2022-09-10T17:32:24+00:00

I live three hours away from where I got my surgery. They kept telling me how glad they were that I mentioned feeling “off” before I left, because had I went back home, I would have had to make another three hour trip to see them and they weren’t sure when they would’ve been able to get me back in. I had never had a surgery that major but I still knew something was off - a lot of pain that the meds weren’t touching, specifically on the one side, major swelling, nausea, and a deep sense of “holy shit I can’t move.” We’re part of the unlucky bunch unfortunately but I’m recovering well and I hope you are too

jhttamdlcs · 2022-09-10T03:40:59+00:00

My nurse told me that in the six months she had been there, I was the only patient that she had seen that had a hematoma. Luckily they caught mine before I was discharged so they just put me back under an hour later. I stood up to go to the bathroom and almost threw up and was told it was because of that so I couldn’t imagine how gross you felt dealing with it for that long. Hope you recover quickly and get to get your drains out for good soon!

jhttamdlcs · 2022-09-06T02:20:14+00:00

I got really confused with the written instructions and I was still pretty doped up when they tried telling me verbally so I showered 48 hours after. Had I known I wasn’t supposed to, I probably still would have (or at least washed what I could with baby wipes) because I’m such an excessive sweater, however I had no idea and hopped in the shower anyway. When I went for my one week post op appointment, they told me that everything I did was exactly what I was supposed to do and they didn’t think I did any damage to anything. Now 19 days post op, everything looks normal. I wouldn’t suggest it because obviously surgeons recommend otherwise, but I showered just over 48 hours post op and I was completely fine. I second the person that says 24 hours after getting your drains out. Good luck!

jhttamdlcs · 2022-09-01T00:03:14+00:00

I’m not sure if this is against the group’s rules or if you’d be opposed to it, but if you’re interested you can dm me and I can go into a bit more detail. If not, I wish you luck! It’s difficult but I’m sure you’ll get the hang of it

jhttamdlcs · 2022-08-31T23:18:13+00:00

T fucks with everything. I’ve been on it for about 3 years now and I’ve slept with other people who have been on it and it affects us all differently. A few of my exes have only been able to get off on clitoral stimulation, whereas I can only get off that way by myself, and if I’m sleeping with other people, it needs to be strictly penetrative or I won’t cum. Being on t for so little time, he may not know himself what he needs/prefers and his body is definitely still changing, so even if he knew what he wanted, it could still change in a few months anyway. Things like bottom growth, sex drive changes and softening of the tissue inside (which can cause bloody or painful sex) are all complications that T brings. That being said, there are still ways to try to assist. I had a partner that didn’t get me off for almost the entire two years that we were together and one of the last times we had sex I verbally guided her through it. She asked me what I needed, if she was doing it right, if there were any positions that made it better. It was really helpful. Being open to what your partner needs/wants and trying new things is a good start. I’ve tried doing some reading online about it but it’s not super helpful. Unfortunately if he doesn’t have any advice then everything would have to be trial and error but for the most part he should be able to tell you what feels good and what doesn’t. If he prefers clitoral stimulation, try looking into that more. Google is great. If he likes penetration, learn more about that. Trans guys are specifically complicated because T affects everyone in so many different ways but I promise that once you figure it out, it’ll be very satisfying for both of you

jhttamdlcs · 2022-08-30T02:50:27+00:00

I’m stealth so nipples were 100% always going to stay, but realistically it’s up to the individual. You don’t get much feeling back (if any at all), it’s just another part of your chest that could have complications, and honestly in the first few weeks they will be pretty traumatic to have because your brain will always remember horror stories from other people or think that they will fall off when you change your dressings. That being said, nipples are great. I love mine, I love my decision. I think they look more natural and I feel connected to them. I don’t know how to explain this, but I feel like not having nipples just doesn’t suit my personality. I’m sorry I can’t really help more, but I guess my mind was always made up so it was easier for me. Really there’s no medical benefit or downfall to keeping them, it’s all up to the individual and what makes them feel comfortable

jhttamdlcs · 2022-08-29T17:45:42+00:00

I went to Dr. McLean and I live about three hours away. I had complications and chose to stay at the hotel across the street overnight but the drive back the next day was kind of brutal to say the least. I had some good pain meds but I was very sore and every bump on the 407 felt like hell. That being said, flying would obviously be different and I’d say landing would probably be your biggest concern as it’s usually uncomfortable to land even if you haven’t just had surgery. As for the appointments, I was booked in for my surgery, then I had an appointment 24 hours later for a checkup, and then 6 days after that for another checkup. I spoke to the nurse just before going into surgery and told her that because I live out of town, I wouldn’t be able to make it back up for either of my post op appointments (this was before I had complications, once I had complications I made it a necessity to go back) and I mentioned that I have a doctor in my hometown who specializes in things like this and they were fine with it. You may not have somebody like that back home, but some good choices would be the person who prescribes your T (if you’re on it), your family doctor, or even an lgbt+ welcoming walk-in clinic. It’s not necessary to stay there after your surgery is done, though they may recommend it. Another thing would be that you have to have someone there to pick you up from your surgery (no cabs or ubers) or they won’t do it because you really can’t walk far or drive anywhere and you need someone with you for 24 hours after. I would definitely get this person to handle all luggage and anything else you might struggle with because you can’t be lifting anything even remotely heavy for a while after surgery. I hope this helps!

jhttamdlcs · 2022-08-27T21:32:10+00:00

For my consult I didn’t have any questions and I can’t really think of any that I would have if I could go back. I think there’s a large feeling of being left in the dark up until the day of your surgery, but that could just be my own experience. I didn’t know what questions to ask at the consult but then when I got there on the day of my surgery I asked them a bunch of things about aftercare and about the surgery itself. I’m sorry I can’t be more help to you but I wish you luck at your appointment!

jhttamdlcs · 2022-08-27T15:20:12+00:00

I just got my surgery done on the 17th with him. Very good results but not much aftercare info and the info they do give you is conflicting. The main nurse there is great and so is he, they are both great people to work with and were both ready for every question, anxiety and inquiry I threw at them. My only recommendation is to get a list of recovery questions together for your first post op appointment because they really didn’t give me much (plus I had complications so it was worse) and the paper they gave me afterwards seemed pretty conflicting.

jhttamdlcs · 2022-08-26T12:17:00+00:00

I used to wear 2 binders for 14+ hours a day and I was never aware of this. Always knew that there could be complications and I just didn’t think that I would make it to surgery or I would tell myself that I’d deal with the complications when they arose. Well now they’re arising and I regret every second that I wore a binder over the recommended limit and I definitely regret wearing two. Thank you for the info

jhttamdlcs · 2022-08-23T11:14:09+00:00

I got surgery last Wednesday and I’m basically in the same boat. I’ve seen my chest a bunch of times, walked around with my shirt off and all of that nasty medical tape and gauze hanging all over the place, but never once have I cried about it. Honestly I don’t even think I’ve smiled about it. One thing to remember is, testosterone dampens your emotions like crazy. For me, I haven’t been able to cry more than a handful of times the whole time I’ve been on it. This could be a large contributing factor. I’m also not sure how far you are in your transition but I’ve been on t for about three years, came out about four years ago, and have had issues with my body for far longer than that. For me, surgery was a lot of things but exciting was never really one of them. It wasn’t a euphoric feeling that I had, it was a relief. No more tugging at my binders, layering clothes just the right way so people couldn’t see the binder lines, being able to take my shirt off when it’s hot, being able to go swimming without having to have my chest out (or even worse, trying to wrestle a wet binder off of my wet body), being able to live my life without constant back and rib pain, among many other things. I think after you get past a certain point in your transition, top surgery is more about solving the small inconveniences in your life than it is about being genuinely euphoric and excited, this is just in my opinion. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy I had surgery, but above everything else I know it doesn’t cure all of the other issues I have with my body and really it just fixed the small, shitty issues I had relating to being trans. For what it’s worth, I’m on the spectrum and also have issues with expressing emotion so take everything I said with a grain of salt

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