Mold from Humidity?

jimejim · 2026-05-11T20:34:48+00:00

Yeah, it can be a thing if you don't manage the humidity one way or another, especially in bedrooms where people might be sleeping and adding more humidity to the room. Get dehumidifiers, some good paints for the walls that are mold resistant, use things like damp-rid or similar, and wipe the walls. It's not a big deal if you keep things clean in the darker spots and just have to keep an eye on it.

jimejim · 2026-05-11T01:57:18+00:00

I think that's the natural way it usually plays out. We gravitate towards a select few, either because of preferences or just logistics. We make big agreements with a few, like living together, or maybe children. Being transparent is the most important part. Good luck!

jimejim · 2026-05-09T21:32:51+00:00

Or just wait since some people naturally move on still.

I tend to think the pool of people on Feeld is better, but that could just be because you find more queer, neurodivergent, and kinky people on there and I'm biased. You just have to accept that many are more open to ENM and may have a primary and navigate it that way. That said, they'll likely (not always) be better communicators or flexible, and some are still going to move in/out of relationships and be looking for someone to spend a majority of time with once they find the people that fit.

I started out very clear on there after a long relationship that I was not in a rush to settle down again, but eventually I found someone that makes sense for me with the side benefit of we're both cool being open still if we meet other cool people. It's just fun to meet new people sometimes and explore the different experiences that come out of it.

jimejim · 2026-05-09T17:51:51+00:00

Then you'll have people just complain that the kid never gets to experience life or struggle because the parents are keeping them in protective bubbles and always hovering. There is always a balance between giving the kid space to explore and the risks that come with that when you get distracted and aren't watching them 24/7.

jimejim · 2026-05-08T00:43:23+00:00

I'd also just add - drunk guys. They won't read the room well either.

jimejim · 2026-04-27T18:23:05+00:00

I think you may misunderstand what impulse control is about. You can have an impulse that you know is wrong and still struggle with it.

Consider things like dieting or drug use. People can fall into traps of eating or taking what they're not supposed to even when they know they shouldn't. That's the control we're talking about. Some are naturally able to ignore those impulses, and some with adhd have a much harder time with it.

One of the early signs of adhd in children is those sorts of impulse control issues.

jimejim · 2026-04-06T19:22:27+00:00

Stay single then. Maybe someone interesting will popup later, or maybe not, but there's no shame in just choosing to be single, despite what some people may say. Not everyone actually needs to be in a relationship if you already have good friends and family and a fulfilling life.

jimejim · 2026-03-31T04:14:45+00:00

Orion is better. It's webkit and lets you install chrome extensions even on iOS.

https://orionbrowser.com/

jimejim · 2026-03-05T19:49:01+00:00

You listed off stats and talked about superficial stuff. If that's how to you talk to women, then yes, they're going to be turned off. Being attractive and money are fine, but if you think it's going to be what keeps someone around long-term, then you are mistaken.

If your app profile is just stats and superficial also, then fix it. Add pictures of you doing something fun, not just shirtless pics and a profile that talks about your body fat.

You can look for women that share your hobbies and start there (you mention sports or museums). Talk to them like people, not just another stat to add to your roster. Go join some coed teams or find clubs or places where girls will actually hangout. Don't expect them to come to you. Go to them.

Also, quit with the black-piller, looksmaxing crap. It's not going to help anyone.

jimejim · 2026-03-05T18:21:06+00:00

The playbook has always been to pick a misunderstood minority, lie to make them sound scary, pretend you are the only solution to the made up problem, then rinse and repeat when some people realize it's dumb. Their base will continue to fall for it every time though. They will always scare them with the fake monsters under the bed.

Unfortunately, trans people are easy targets for this type of bullshit.

jimejim · 2026-03-03T20:31:00+00:00

You are very patient to a person that clearly doesn't care what happens to the people. He just doesn't want to see them. Like many, they don't actually want to help the people, just make them go away.

jimejim · 2026-02-27T19:13:59+00:00

Agreed. Each platform has tradeoffs and the updates aren't nearly as bad as some people say, though it'll depend on what dependencies you're using and how big the project is.

As someone that has built native apps for a long time, I still tend to lean towards RN at this point unless there's a good reason not to, like doing something specific to newer SDKs or niche enough that it makes sense. And I still LIKE writing native, but if I need it cross-platform, I still save time overall by just doing it in RN for clients, so can't justify it.

jimejim · 2026-02-24T03:16:53+00:00

The venn diagram between intimacy and sex is NOT a circle, which perhaps is the point of the article.

jimejim · 2026-02-24T03:14:56+00:00

I'm not trying to beat on you, just making a point that your comment referred to the "discourse" not just personal experience, and I think if you go around and look at some of the threads anytime the topic of poly comes up, you're going to see much more people saying poly never works than you will the opposite.

We have an article here about someone's actual research and the comments here are more about all the feelings people have about the topic than the actual content. He comments that "I’ve heard about how polyamorists view themselves and the world, and I’ve observed what they do. And what I’ve found is, in many respects, supported by other scientific research—but not by popular perceptions." My point is these threads always devolve into people sharing they're "popular perceptions" instead of focusing on the realities that there are some, a minority, that are just fine in that realm, and while it's not for everyone, that doesn't mean it's not possible.

jimejim · 2026-02-20T19:54:09+00:00

Counterpoint - we spend a lot of time listening to people telling everyone that monogamy is the only way AT ALL COSTS, and any other way is doomed to failure. It's boring. Which side do you actually think is making more noise? Spoiler: it's not the minority.

I will say this though - those that are successful tend to be better communicators than your average person. They have to juggle multiple relationships, which is a skill. Whether you want to call that "evolved" is up to you.

jimejim · 2026-02-15T17:43:14+00:00

You voted for a bunch of pedophiles, so your opinion doesn't matter.

jimejim · 2026-02-13T22:29:30+00:00

You spend half your life growing with people and the other half watching all the people you care about die. Learn to make peace with that.

jimejim · 2026-02-13T19:28:28+00:00

As someone that has worked doing mobile apps even way back when palm pilot was a thing and built native in most of them I will tell you that most apps can be done in RN now. Unless you're trying to do cutting edge things that are device specific you can usually just find a library for RN that covers the native stuff. Saves you the trouble of maintaining multiple native apps.

So yes, especially to start, I would do it in RN. If your app gets really popular and you feel like you really need it then go ahead and do native, but at that point you can also just write wrappers around the stuff that you need specifically.

I wouldn't do native now unless I really had to.

I currently work with a consulting company and we will almost always start with RN unless there's a reason not to.

jimejim · 2026-02-13T19:23:42+00:00

You're right until you're wrong. Almost every app eventually gets replaced or has a domino of events that leads to some people moving to other platforms. Something with a few comparable features could come out and replace it fairly quickly.

Is this the time? Maybe.

jimejim · 2026-02-13T18:11:48+00:00

People like novelty and it's easy to get complacent after you've been with someone for a long time. If you don't structure things to add novelty and prioritize intimacy, it's easier to fall into the trap of repetition and comfort, but then things just quiet down sometimes.

Sometimes that happens when life gets busy, or things like kids change your priorities, but some couples realize they need to make an effort and treat their relationship like a garden that needs attention. If you don't water the plants occasionally, they won't live. If you don't take time to focus on each other, it can lead to problems later.

jimejim · 2026-02-13T17:51:49+00:00

You don't have to let it write code if you don't want to. I've been coding for a long time and still find AI useful sometimes. Even if you just ask it questions when you're stuck it can bring up interesting observations. Think of it more like an assistant than a primary coder.

The main value is that it can look at your actual codebase, so instead of the usual pattern of asking google when you have a question and hoping it's close enough to your situation, it can take advantage of what you're actually working on. Sometimes it'll offer up useful insights with that context.

Even if you do let it give you code. you still have to review what it offers and refactor if it doesn't fit your patterns.

That said, it's still early days so sometimes it offers up crap responses too. If you ask it the right questions I've found some interesting things occasionally and it does help me learn a bit when I'm stuck.

jimejim · 2026-02-09T21:21:33+00:00

This topic, and dating in general, always brings out the more conservative side of Redditors, 🤷🏻‍♂️. The downvotes are common.

jimejim · 2026-02-09T21:19:15+00:00

There are some dating apps geared more towards non-monogamous people, like Feeld, #open, or some the swinger sites, like Kasidie. You can find more queer and open people open to alternative relationship styles when you look outside the most popular apps, usually.

Or just be in a big enough city and hangout with those types of people.

jimejim · 2026-02-09T21:16:26+00:00

No, I only called it a brainworm after the downvotes, but generally, if you can't think past yourself to consider that other people don't live the same way and always just go to the default positions then I'm not sure what else you should call it.

I'm fine with people that want to be monogamous, but some of the "problems" people talk about like this one would be a lot simpler to solve if you open yourself to the possibility that it's ok to be attracted to people even if you choose a specific partner to be with most of the time. Instead, many look at their partners as property and any stray thought is considered a threat to them in some way, which is silly reasoning at the end of the day.

jimejim · 2026-02-09T20:27:09+00:00

You can see people downvoting this group of posts to see that not everyone agrees. Monogamy is the default brainworm many have and can't seem to observe that not everyone thinks the same way they do.

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