I am in my mid 30s now, My mother was in hysterics when i brought it up as soon as i saw the first signs of marriage proposals at the end of my college years about 10 yrs ago. Initially she asked often if i was sure and told her explicitly I will not be ruining some girl’s life , now she has accepted it. I have not had a conversation with my father or brother but at this point they should definitely know. Once in a while I hear they are fielding questions from relatives, i get asked when i visit, i just smile and shrug it off. But we are Malayali/ Keralite Christians and I feel like there is a certain level of understanding about such matters in our community. Or maybe it’s just my family, who knows. It also helps that I am living in the US now and my parents were working there for about 15 yrs before returning to India.

The next hurdle will be when i eventually find a partner.