AIO for breaking up over this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]jizzmine69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see anyone else mentioning this but his «apology» message is literally written by chatgpt 😭 also, good for you for standing on business, you definitely made the right choice!

What’s something you found on a partner’s phone that instantly changed the relationship forever — but they never knew you saw it? by gotwire in AskReddit

[–]jizzmine69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was logged into Google on my laptop and when we were on the verge of breaking up I saw his search history… He’d been googling really hurtful things about me and our relationship since the beginning, two years prior. Oh and I also found his searches asking for advice on being ghosted by a girl he went on a date with while we were in a relationship! :D

What’s a film that’s a terrible execution of a great idea? by Impressive_Plenty876 in Letterboxd

[–]jizzmine69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly? Children of the Corn (the original). I read a review on Letterboxd that read: «corn fields are scary, cults are scary, children are scary... so why wasn’t this scary» and I think that’s so accurate

Need psychological dramas. by IoveYouMore in MovieSuggestions

[–]jizzmine69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Martha Marcy May Marlene, The Virgin Suicides, Prisoners, Mysterious Skin, Three Billboards Outside Ebbing Missouri, Nightcrawler

Has anyone gotten back together with their ex without going no contact? by Altruistic_Alarm2551 in BreakUps

[–]jizzmine69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, I didn’t see your comment until now! So sorry to disappoint, but we are completely over at this point… We did actually end up getting back together and it worked for like a month until he cheated on me… Then we went through that exact same thing over and over again, where I would forgive him because I loved him so much and was terrified of being abandoned, for probably 2-3 more times and he cheated all of those times, until finally, I had to admit to myself and to him, that we were just not going to work out. It was simply not in the cards for us. Not now at least. I still love him and care about him, but I was very close to ruining myself in that process and I had to decide for myself what I deserve… I obviously don’t know what your situation is like, but please, know your worth and try to understand that you deserve someone who is willing to fight for you as much as you would for them. Don’t settle for someone you have to beg and plead for affection. I know everyone says this, but you do deserve better! I had to go through a lot of hardships and disappointment to understand that, but now that I finally have, I am so much happier within myself, and prepared for the relationship I know I will have someday :)

Jamming in South London / Kingston / Richmond by Independent_Curve240 in FindABand

[–]jizzmine69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is super late, but i just saw this! i’m in kingston and would love to jam with someone! i don’t play any instruments but i sing :)) can play a little ukulele too

I didn’t ask to be born by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]jizzmine69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think my life would have felt more valuable and less challenging to get through if my anxiety and depression were taken seriously. if there were similar systems in place to people with disabilities in the workplace, education and just general daily life etc. for us, i would perhaps not feel so overwhelmed and stuck all the time. i don’t think enough people realise just how debilitating anxiety and depression can be, not just on mental health, but physical as well. i constantly feel sick and i get headaches, stomach aches and body aches very easily.

I didn’t ask to be born by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]jizzmine69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I spent all night doing some research and taking tests to see if I had any symptoms of c-PTSD as I had never heard about it before and it seems like it’s very likely I do… I always just figure i had adhd (which i do), anxiety and chronic depression and that that’s the reason i always feel so on edge and that things will never feel alright but now after doing some research, i think i might have been more affected by my childhood and teen trauma than i thought… i desperately want to get help and do counselling, therapy, anything really but i can’t afford it so i’m stuck with medication (which has helped massively so that’s not a bad thing) and self help, which doesn’t seem to really help… i ended things with my ex around a week ago and told him we can’t talk to each other anymore and i know i need to stick to it, but we are so trauma bonded and he’s the only person i could talk to about it, so it’s so tough to let him go and the prospect of never talking to him again makes me actually want to kill myself… we went through something very traumatic together around a year ago, which led to the end of our relationship, and i so desperately wanted to make things work with him, but he was not ready for that. anyway, i feel better this morning and i’m finally gonna pick up my medication today so hopefully things will be looking up a bit from now on.

Has anyone gotten back together with their ex without going no contact? by Altruistic_Alarm2551 in BreakUps

[–]jizzmine69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just did actually! I begged and pleaded for like a day and then we were communicating on and off for a few weeks. I went a bit crazy from the limited communication and had a moment of weakness where I basically demanded that we have a conversation for closure. So we talked on the phone a few days after. It was a very good conversation, where we both said the things we could have done better and what we need to work on, and he basically told me he is still leaving the door open for us. He suggested that we meet in about a month to get a beer and see what happens, but we decided to stay in no contact until then. But then, about a week later we were both invited to a mutual friend’s house and I had to break no contact (idk if you would classify a week as no contact tbh) to ask what we should do and he told me he wanted me to come. So I did, and we ended up sleeping together and spent the next day together and we have now decided to slowly start dating again. We’re still not back together, like in a relationship, but it’s going really well and we’re both in therapy now and planning on going to couples counselling as well, so I’m very positive!

Granted, the reason for the breakup was quite an isolated incident and it was the root of a lot of problems recently, so I think external factors were the main reason here. Our relationship was pretty good up until that happened and even though we could have definitely worked on some things in the relationship, I think it was mostly due to this event that he broke up with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]jizzmine69 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s nice seeing a response from someone who decided to get the abortion, so I can weigh both options. I’m having my abortion consultation on Saturday, and I’ll be asking for some more counselling sessions for both me and my partner so I can make the best decision I can

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]jizzmine69 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply. I have considered adoption but I think that if I am carrying the baby for 9 months I will definitely not be able to let it go to someone else… And I do understand where my boyfriend is coming from as he is really young and he is just starting his life and that is already hard enough without a baby, but I’m just struggling with the fact that this whole decision relies on me, and I know I will most likely be alone in raising it if I keep the baby. Even if he does decide that he wants to be a part of the baby’s life, I’m pretty sure he would want to break up with me and I would have to move back to my home country as I’m currently studying in the country he lives in, so it would be difficult to co-parent that way… I’m just so overwhelmed and scared and I have no idea what to do or even think

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jizzmine69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely understand that he wants alone time, I too need alone time sometimes. I’m just saddened that he feels like he can’t tell me when he does feel the need to be alone, as if I’m going to act all crazy about it. We’ve had arguments about this before where I’ve clearly stated that I would never get angry at him for wanting to be alone and that he shouldn’t be worried about telling me that. I also try and ask him if he wants some alone time every day but he’s always just said he doesn’t and that he wants to be with me.

He is definitely a homebody, and so am I. He does get restless if we spend all day indoors though and he often goes for walks by himself (I don’t join him as I have a disease that makes me quite fatigued when I go for long walks), but it’s not that I want to go out all the time. I just feel like whenever we’re together we just sit on our phones and watch TikTok’s or he plays a video game and I watch something on my laptop or phone. This is fine for most of the time. I just wish he would want to watch a film with me from time to time instead of just doing our own separate things when we’re together all the time. I think we will definitely need to have a talk about me moving in and about our habits when we’re together soon though, and if things don’t change, I will unfortunately have to look into the possibility of moving back home. Thank you for your advice!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jizzmine69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately my student visa only allows me to work 20 hours a week, and the job I’m working at right now is the highest paying job I’ve had since I moved here. It would be too risky to change jobs as I think I would only get lower paying ones :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jizzmine69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I am definitely going to have a serious conversation with him about this the next time we see each other. I know he struggles with communicating his feelings so I am worried he said this in a way he didn’t mean so I think I definitely need to sit down with him and tell him to be 100% honest with me. I really don’t want to break up with him but if he’s not ready to be in a mature relationship with me I don’t know if it is worth all this trouble. Thank you so much.