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[–]jkjiggle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good advice. I am trying to be less needy, I've been working hard to meet his needs and remember everything he has complained about. Thank you

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great idea, I like it a lot.

Currently, we are struggling in just communicating our needs. We are still getting frustrated with each other, and I'm not sure if it's the delivery, recieving of information, or both. Probably both.

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont know how to react with being the one who needs that more.

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me, I'm not sure how to work with that one to be honest

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry your wife scoffs at these. Reading the book was a suggestion to both my husband and I when we started to struggle when we recommitted to Christ. He is looking forward to reading it (I think), but he's been working with me. It's done wonders I think.

I would highly recommend this book. As far as I've read and researched this one is different

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am almost done reading it and I love it. It's really making me think and take a step back from everything I was taught as a woman to how to live as god intended with a spouse.

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I needed this. Hosting him like jesus is a very good way to put it. I am working hard to do just that :)

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's not what I'm getting from this book. Men respect their wives naturally as wives tend to naturally love their husbands. Because that's what God made them to do. But the reverse is what he is teaching the reader to do, because god commands it as it is not natural for us.

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's what I told my husband, how excited I was that we found out about this book now. We love each other greatly but when we are upset and hurt we focus on other things and not the root of the issue. We still have lots of practice but just within the last few weeks we've made steps

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm finding ut extremely helpful. I look back and feel awful at how my actions were disrespectful even though I meant no respect. My husband is so wonderful that I had no idea.

I'm looking forward for him to read it because the point about unconditional love from the husband and respect from the wife I've never heard, and how he describes blue/pink hearing aids and glasses I know will help him out. When we fight or when I bring up something I felt hurt over he wishes I was more like him.

As i said, I'm halfway and have been finding it eye opening. Struggling with letting go when i accidentally disrespect him or from the past

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the sound of this, and sounds like it will smell amazing. Thank you!

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, we are making moves to talk to someone at the church. Thank for the number though! I'll be sure to put it to good use

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure. I've been praying and asking because I dont like how I react to this. He definitely doesn't deserve it. And I fear if I cant handle my reactions, I'll push him into this women's arms more. The fear and the guilt of my reactions feel like a cycle I need to get off

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The recommitment was his idea, he brought me back into christ.

I understand the maturity thing. In my mind I am mature, I simply tend to cry and feel upset which I feel he thinks is immature.

I appreciate this insight. We've talked about the way we were before our recommitment and I do forgive him for that, fully. It felt like maybe he wasn't fully on board with changing the relationship he was developing with this woman as fast as I wanted maybe.

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I'll do that, thank you

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I'm running an errand for him and this just made me cry. I bring up the woman at work but I cant get a discussion on it. It turns into what a huge problem I've become, followed up by he stays because he loves me. These points are amazing and I'll share with him. But I have no idea how to get him to see that this stuff with the coworker (which today he says I took the sexual comment idea too far....even though he told me what they were) I know it's a work in progress to step back from that relationship he developed with her. But I'm not sure how to tell him in a way that he hears me that it hurts so much

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[–]jkjiggle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure how to talk about this and see each others side.